The Ultimate Guide to Transforming Anger: Dynamic Tools for Healthy Relationships [NOOK Book]

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"This book saved me from going insane with rage, led me to laughter with its perfectly pitched cartoons and even provided a solution for replacing helplessness with action. What a better place our world would be if we learned how to handle our rage, an all-too-frequent by-product of congested traffic, layoffs and custody battles. This book should be mandatory reading."


–Amy...

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Overview

"This book saved me from going insane with rage, led me to laughter with its perfectly pitched cartoons and even provided a solution for replacing helplessness with action. What a better place our world would be if we learned how to handle our rage, an all-too-frequent by-product of congested traffic, layoffs and custody battles. This book should be mandatory reading."


–Amy Tan,

International bestselling author

The Joy Luck Club and The Bonesetter's Daughter


Turn your anger around and transform your life.



  • Does anger sometimes get the best of you?

  • Does it ever interfere with your relationships with your partner, your kids or coworkers?

  • Do you wish you had an anger toolkit?


We all experience anger, within us and around us: on the roads, at work, in our own families. Anger can feel uncomfortable but when you understand the nature of your anger and the anger of others you can use that powerful energy to improve communication and enhance all of your relationships.


By engaging your whole self -- mind, body, spirit and humor -- this practical, accessible guide offers a unique set of tools and strategies for getting to the heart of anger and discovering its positive power. Through a combination of expert advice, compelling stories, innovative Anger-obics sm exercises, Mad Pad journaling and clever cartoons you will learn:



  • How to handle conflict in productive ways

  • How to recognize and disengage your triggers

  • Successful parenting techniques

  • How to use anger as motivation, and much more.


Bestselling author Jane Middelton-Moz teams up with Anger-obics sm originator Lisa Tener and award-winning cartoonist Peaco Todd to bring you guidance, techniques and more than a few laughs. You'll find The Ultimate Guide to Transforming Anger an exciting approach to creating meaningful change in your life.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780757394751
  • Publisher: Health Communications, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 2/1/2005
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 280
  • Sales rank: 868,420
  • File size: 7 MB

Meet the Author

Jane Middelton-Moz, M.S. speaks internationally and has appeared on national radio and television, including: Oprah, Montel and PBS.

Lisa Tener, M.S., leads workshops and women's spirituality circles, and has appeared on ABC World News Tonight. She has been quoted in The Boston Globe, Family Circle, and many others.

Peaco Todd, M.A., is a syndicated cartoonist and writer, whose book and illustration credits include: The Girl's Guide to Football; Frame by Frame; Rainbow Kids; Family Matters; Talk It Out; and The Joy of Divorce

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Learned Helplessness


It was a day like many others in the life of Sandra Jones: up at barely five o'clock; start the coffee; quick shower; wake, dress and feed the baby; wake Tommy and James and tell them the bus will be there soon; wake and hold her screaming toddler who does not like being awakened, then dress and feed her; wake her husband, Bill, who decidedly isn't a 'morning person'; shout at Tommy and James, threatening mayhem, destruction, withdrawal of privileges and any number of failures in life if they don't, in fact, 'get moving!'; kiss the air next to her husband who is now leaving for work; load her ill-tempered children into her ancient car only to find the battery dead again; call a neighbor for a jumpstart; drop Tommy and James off at school and the little ones at day care; and finally speed to her own job, yelling at 'thoughtless' drivers along the way.


Sandra's only break of the day was filled with phone calls: the bank, whose recent balance did not match hers, thus the bounced check; the electrician, who had promised to install her new dishwasher; the trash collector, who had missed the pickup. Unfortunately, the bank's computers were down, so she couldn't straighten out the mistake on her last statement. For what seemed like the hundredth time she could reach only the electrician's answering machine. The waste-management company said that 'according to their computer,' her garbage had, in fact, been picked up.


At two o'clock, Sandra received a call from the school that James had sprained his ankle on the playground. Taking the time off work that she could ill afford, she drove at breakneck speed to the emergency room where she held her crying child while attempting to answer questions regarding her insurance and signing papers assuring that she would pay the bill. She then waited with her son for two hours, frantically trying to soothe James, then running to the pay phone to tell her husband to pick up the other children.


Later that night, after much screaming at the children to 'go to sleep,' tripping countless times over the new dishwasher that wasn't installed, listening to Bill's curses at bills that he was attempting to pay with too little money, she and Bill had what had become their nightly fight about who did more and how unappreciated each felt, blaming each other for the problems in their marriage. At last, in complete frustration, Sandra began throwing things at Bill, mostly objects he had carelessly left around the house rather than put away. 'Living with you is like having another child,' she screamed, as she hurled his shoes that had been in the middle of the floor at him. For his part, Bill again threatened that he wasn't sure how much more he could take, as he proclaimed that Sandra was 'not the easygoing, fun-loving woman' he had once loved.


Learned helplessness is a major factor in marital conflict, rage and depression. It is the sense that you have little control over your environment, and the actions you take on your own behalf don't seem to make a difference. Sandra and Bill, like millions of people today, are trying to parent, work at their jobs and handle the stresses of day-today living with too little time, energy and support. The job of raising a family at one time was shared by extended family—Sandra's lack of extended support and her stress in dealing with computers and answering machines compound her feelings of helplessness and frustration.


Many people tell us that their lives feel out of their own control. One man we encountered actually kicked a bank machine. When he realized he had been seen he replied, 'I know I just made a fool of myself, but it doesn't seem to matter what I do anymore. Computers are in control. Have
you ever tried to talk to a computerized voice? What I do doesn't seem to make a difference.'


Runaway technology, lack of support, feelings of isolation, increased psychological stress, financial pressure, and a perceived chasm between rule-makers and the people they govern can, at least in part, account for increasing symptoms of unhealthy anger in our society. What is certain
is that the link between anger, depression and learned helplessness—and the increase in all three—is becoming more obvious.


Once Sandra and Bill began to understand that their unhappiness was a result of their circumstances rather than their lack of love and commitment to each other, they began to find ways, within their means, of reconnecting. Sandra arranged to trade baby-sitting duties with another mother, so that she and Bill could rejoin the bowling league where they had met. Bill checked into his company's tuition-reimbursement program and discovered that they would pay for him to complete his accounting degree. He entered school and is looking forward to the time when his new degree will earn him a promotion and a raise. Sandra and Bill also decided to allot an hour after dinner one night a week, with no TV, to enjoy quiet time as a family and share what's going on in each other's lives. While they have not solved all their problems or eliminated feelings of helplessness from their lives, they are beginning to feel more in control. The 'down-time' that they've programmed into their schedule makes it easier to handle the stressful times without completely 'losing it.'



©2004. All rights reserved. Jane Middelton-Moz, M.S., Lisa Tener, M.S., Peaco Todd, M.A. Reprinted from The Ultimate Guide to Transforming Anger: Dynamic Tools for Healthy Relationships. No part of this publication may be reproduced,
stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without
the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.,
3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442.

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