Uncommon Marriage: Learning about Lasting Love and Overcoming Life's Obstacles Together [NOOK Book]

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What does it take to build a marriage that will last? Tony and Lauren Dungy have together known the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. They fell in love, built a family, and made sports history when Tony became the first African American head coach to win the Super Bowl. Yet they’ve also gone through difficult, relationship-testing setbacks, including job loss and devastating personal tragedy. In a culture where it seems harder and harder to make marriage last, what has kept the Dungys strong through it ...
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What does it take to build a marriage that will last? Tony and Lauren Dungy have together known the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. They fell in love, built a family, and made sports history when Tony became the first African American head coach to win the Super Bowl. Yet they’ve also gone through difficult, relationship-testing setbacks, including job loss and devastating personal tragedy. In a culture where it seems harder and harder to make marriage last, what has kept the Dungys strong through it all? In Uncommon Marriage, Tony and Lauren share the secrets that hold them together, revealing what they’ve learned so far about being a good husband or wife; getting through times of loss, grief, or change; staying connected despite busy schedules; supporting each other’s dreams and goals; and helping each other grow spiritually. They offer encouragement and practical advice to equip your marriage to survive tough issues and flourish with joy, purpose, and partnership—in other words, to be a marriage that is truly uncommon.
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01/20/2014
With a “he said/she said” format, former NFL coach Dungy (Quiet Strength) and his wife, Lauren, share lessons learned over more than 30 years of marriage. They are different in personality, but their deep faith and commitment to their relationship help them grow closer through career changes, multiple moves, the rearing of nine children, and family tragedy. They discuss the wide variety of incidents and factors that have strengthened their marriage, like working through different communication styles and learning the importance of praying together. They also share the difficulties through which they have walked together, like being in the public eye—Tony became the first African-American head coach to guide a team to the Super Bowl; dealing with the loss of a parent; and coping with the suicide of their son. They offer their thoughts in personal, conversational style with the hope that readers can recognize some part of their own marriage and be able to find guidance, hope, and encouragement. The book reads more like an enjoyable chat with longtime friends than the helpful marriage guidebook that it is. Agent: D.J. Snell, Legacy Management. (Feb.)
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  • ISBN-13: 9781414390642
  • Publisher: Tyndale House Publishers
  • Publication date: 2/4/2014
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 59,549
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Tony Dungy
Tony Dungy

Tony Dungy is the #1 New York Times best-selling author of Quiet Strength: The Principles, Practices, & Priorities of a Winning Life, New York Times best-seller Uncommon: Finding Your Path to Significance. He led the Indianapolis Colts to Super Bowl victory in 2007, the first such win for an African American head coach. Dungy joined the Colts in 2002 after serving as the most successful coach in Tampa Bay Buccaneers history. He and his wife, Lauren, are the parents of six children. They live in Tampa, Florida.
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UNCOMMON MARRIAGE

learning about lasting love and overcoming life's obstacles together


By TONY DUNGY, LAUREN DUNGY, NATHAN WHITAKER, Kimberly Miller

Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2014 Tony and Lauren Dungy
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4143-8369-9



CHAPTER 1

BEGINNINGS


Lauren

I couldn't figure out why my pastor, John Guest, kept trying to track me down. My mom told me that he had called three times in the past week. I hadn't missed church in quite some time, so I knew he couldn't be worried about that.

I didn't have the heart to tell my mom that our pastor had also stopped by the house once when she wasn't there—and I didn't answer the door. I'd been home alone when he drove up, and I was sure he was there to talk with my mom or dad. Not only that, but our church, St. Stephen's Episcopal, was quite large and proper. It just didn't seem right to me—answering the door for our senior pastor when I was dressed casually in shorts.

"Please call him back, Lauren," my mom said. "I'm sure it has something to do with the church and it must be urgent. Otherwise, he wouldn't keep calling."

It was a busy time for me—I had recently finished my second year of teaching sixth grade and now was engrossed in my own summer school classes. Still, I realized my mom was right. I needed to get back to him.

So I called the church office right then. John and I had a brief conversation in which he did most of the talking. When he finished, I remember saying, "I'll pray about it," before hanging up the phone.

Turning to face my mom, I said, "You'll never believe why he's been trying to reach me. He wants to introduce me to a guy—some football player with the Steelers. He's supposed to be a Christian, but you know I would never go out with an athlete." The truth is, I was seeing someone at the time—well occasionally, anyway. But when John mentioned the Steelers, I think I stopped listening. I had no desire to meet a football player or a coach. "I'll pray about it" was a polite way of saying "No, thank you."

While I enjoyed playing sports—I bowled, swam, and played tennis and other sports growing up—I had no interest in fawning over an athlete. My brothers were all athletic, and I had watched all the girls at school trying to impress them. They were great guys, but I don't know if those girls knew that. They seemed to be interested in them because of their status as athletes.

Not only that, but my primary focus in those days was my sixth-grade class at Edgeworth Elementary School. Teaching was the perfect career for me. I'd always loved working with children, developing young minds and helping them reach their potential. During junior high, my sister and I had even run an after-school program for neighborhood kids, helping them do crafts and other activities.

After earning my degree in elementary education from Duquesne University, I'd hoped to end up teaching seven-or eight-year-olds at an inner-city school similar to the one where I'd done my student teaching. God had other plans, however. When I graduated, I interviewed and was hired by the elementary school I'd attended, just down the street from my parents. I enjoyed being able to give back to Sewickley, a suburb northwest of Pittsburgh and the community that had given me so much growing up.

Though I'd expected to teach younger children, I loved sixth grade. My students were eager to learn and not yet struggling with so many of the issues that seem to crop up in middle school. Their parents valued education and were interested in and supportive of what was going on in my classroom.

At the end of each school day, I felt fortunate to be able to share the day's highlights with my own family. I was living at home with my parents; my siblings all lived in or near our family home too. Kevin, my oldest brother, was working and taking classes at the University of Pittsburgh. Averell, an executive with Equitable Gas, lived at home. My twin brother, Loren, was working as a store manager for Midas Muffler and living down the street. My younger sister, Taryn, was still doing her undergraduate work and attending Bates College in Maine. We were a tight-knit group.

My parents modeled very middle-class values. My dad, Leonard, was in real estate and was always looking at business opportunities. My mom, Doris, had stayed home for a while but then went back to work as a primary-care nurse practitioner. We kids knew our parents wanted us to work hard and help our household function smoothly. They expected us to do well in school and pitch in by doing chores and, when we were old enough, holding down part-time jobs. Finally, they expected us to graduate from college, as both of them had. It was a pretty simple formula for my parents.

My brothers were totally into football. Like them, I loved cheering for the "Black and Gold" every Sunday they played at Three Rivers Stadium. Unlike Kevin, Averell, and Loren, I never focused on any of the individual players. When John mentioned "Tony Dungy," that name didn't mean anything to me.

After finally learning why John had been calling and then promising him to pray about it, I tried to avoid him. I honestly wasn't interested in dating an athlete. His matchmaking didn't seem very promising, especially when John said he'd met Tony only once at a father-son breakfast at our church. Tony had been filling in for a Steelers player, Ted Petersen, who'd been the scheduled speaker but had to cancel at the last minute.

That's not to say I wasn't interested in meeting my future husband. My friends were getting married, and I looked forward to joining the married ranks myself. At the same time, I wasn't in too much of a hurry. I was going to wait on the Lord and make sure that it was His voice, not my own desires, that I was following. I was assured that He would answer my prayer in whatever timing He knew was best.

I didn't want to settle.

Plus, I was staying busy, which helped my patience. I certainly didn't anticipate that I would go off to college, return home, and find the answer at my church!

I may have had my doubts, but John wouldn't let it go; he kept telling me that Tony loved the Lord, and John thought we had a lot in common. He was so determined and convinced that God had ordained this relationship that he refused to give up until we had at least met once. I'm not sure I would have admitted it, but he'd piqued my interest enough that I eventually agreed to let him set up a time for me to meet Tony.

I was relieved when John suggested Tony come to my house, since I knew I'd have family around who could make excuses for me if I wasn't comfortable.

Tony arrived right on time that Friday morning. My dad had been coming down the hall when Tony arrived, and after greeting him, he began grilling Tony about the Steelers. My mom came out to meet Tony a few minutes later. Then my siblings began passing through as they were getting ready to go out for the day. By the time he'd been there about five minutes, Tony had met everyone. Tony says it was like a cartoon—one person would leave and another would show up—but he was simply seeing the normal bustle of our household.

I didn't say much at first, but I felt comfortable right away. Tony was smart and respectful, and he had gorgeous brown eyes. He was not at all how I'd pictured a professional football player and coach. He seemed like a nice person.

By the time the afternoon ended, I felt a bit sorry I'd put Pastor Guest off for so long. Then, just before he left, Tony told me, "Give me your number, and maybe I'll call you and we can play tennis sometime." I have to admit—I was a little put off by his attitude.


TONY

When I was saying good-bye to Lauren that day, she must have misheard me. What I actually told her was, "I'm headed to training camp and I'll be gone for the week, but if you wouldn't mind giving me your number, I will call you, and maybe we can play tennis sometime." She'd mentioned earlier that she enjoyed tennis, so I casually suggested we might do that when we got together next.

Lauren still disputes that, but I remember exactly what I said because I had been thinking about what I could say to leave her on the right note. I definitely wanted her to know I'd love to see her again and would call as soon as possible to set that up. When I drove away that afternoon, I thought things ended well, never suspecting she'd decided I must be one of those "players" who had a lot of girlfriends. Shows you the importance of communication in a relationship!

Except for that shaky ending, my experiences leading up to that first meeting were similar to Lauren's. When John first told me I had to meet a certain young woman from his church, I wasn't really interested. I'd only just met John the morning of the breakfast at his church. I had been looking for a girl like my mom—someone who was energetic, athletic, smart, and loved the Lord—and I wasn't against getting help in the search. Just not from someone I didn't even know. Not only that, but I was so quiet ... what would I do if I didn't like this girl? Worse yet, what if she didn't like me?

By this point, I was only twenty-five, but my career playing in the NFL was already over. Back in 1978, I'd started my second year playing for the Steelers with high hopes, determined to make the transition from an obscure rookie to an established veteran. I led the team in interceptions that year—the same year we'd finished as the champions of Super Bowl XIII. Even so, I was just a backup player, not one of the stars. After that, I was traded to the 49ers and the Giants before finally being cut in 1980.

Suddenly my career in pro football had ended, and I was trying to find out what the Lord had in store for me next. That's when Coach Noll called and offered me a position on his coaching staff. So here I was, back in Pittsburgh. The morning of that breakfast, I never would have suspected that God might be using a pastor I'd just met to bring me face-to-face with my future wife.

I wouldn't have arranged to meet Lauren if John hadn't been so insistent. I couldn't help but wonder, This is a church with five thousand people. There are no single guys she could get attached to in this church? But while Lauren tried to avoid Pastor Guest, I tried to appease him. "Maybe you could just give me her number," I finally suggested. I figured that would get him to quit calling me and make all this go away.

"I'm sorry, Tony," he said, "but she's not the type who'd take kindly to you calling her directly, and she definitely won't call you. I really need to do it this way."

Finally, in mid-July, I agreed to meet her. The Steelers were opening training camp that week, so I told John I could see her the morning before camp opened. He pitched the idea that we meet at her house, and she said that would be okay.

When I got to the Harrises' front door, I took a deep breath and then rang the bell. I had no idea what to expect. When Lauren opened the door, I was stunned. She was far more beautiful than I could have imagined from John's description. She was slim and athletic with medium-length hair. She wore a sundress and little makeup. All of a sudden, the meeting that I had been pushing back from so hard seemed like a really good idea.

If I'd expected a quiet, awkward morning, I quickly learned that wouldn't happen. Lauren's dad, Leonard, greeted me, shaking my hand and welcoming me to their home. Lauren led me into the kitchen so we could talk. Her mom, Doris, came in a few minutes later to say hello. She looked as if she could have been Lauren's older sister. I got to meet several of Lauren's siblings, too, and I noticed that everyone in her family seemed to do everything at a high speed and high volume, often talking at the same time.

In that way, they couldn't be more different from my family. My parents, Wilbur and CleoMae Dungy, still lived in Jackson, Michigan, where I'd grown up with my brother and two sisters. My mom wasn't particularly quiet—she was engaging—but she was more reserved than the Harrises. And my dad was really quiet. He was a listener who would take things in, especially in new situations, and you would have to work extremely hard to draw things out of him. My mom probably contributed about 75 percent of the conversation in our home, whereas in Lauren's home it was the reverse: her dad was the talkative one. Beyond that, while Lauren's parents have always been expressive, my parents often have asked our opinion before weighing in on a subject.

I'd grown up in a stable, quiet household. My mom was from Canada and was teaching there when my dad started dating her. He was out of the Air Force and living in the Detroit area, traveling across the border to see her. They were both educators and thoughtful, and their four children were all good students.

My older sister, Sherrie, lived in Jackson, and our set of twins, Linden and Lauren, were in college on opposite sides of Michigan—Linden at Grand Valley State and Lauren at Oakland University. We were pretty spread out. On the other hand, Lauren's living arrangement was fairly common in the Pittsburgh area. Most of the communities had very close families, where people often stayed close to home after they left high school.

Though our families might have been different in some ways, both my family and hers clearly loved, respected, and supported one another. That made me feel right at home, and I was fascinated by everyone's energy. The Harrises were so friendly that I didn't even mind when Lauren's dad and brothers asked me all kinds of questions about the Steelers.

As the morning wound down, I told Lauren that I'd be leaving for training camp soon but that Coach Noll always gave us Sundays off. That is when I got into trouble. To this day, I know without a doubt that I told Lauren I would call her and maybe we could play tennis. Now I realize that if a person doesn't talk loudly in the Harris home, he might not be understood, let alone heard.

Though Lauren was upset at what she saw as my arrogant attitude, she gave me her number, and I did call her that week from the hall phone in the dorm at camp. I picked Lauren up the following Saturday night, and we went to the Red Bull Inn, a chain restaurant near her home, for a quiet dinner. We talked and got to know each other a little, away from her family this time.

That was the start of a routine that continued into the fall. I would go straight to Lauren's house after practice on Saturdays. We usually played tennis, went bowling, or just hung out. I'd pick her up again on Sunday mornings for church. After that, we'd go out to lunch.

I found out later that since I'm naturally quiet and don't talk a lot about my feelings, Lauren wasn't sure during those first few months whether we were hanging out as friends—or as something more. I certainly thought we were dating. I was the first one off the practice field every Saturday, driving 85 mph on the Pennsylvania Turnpike to get to Sewickley and take her someplace. Every Saturday! To me, that was definitely dating, and I was loving it.

And to me, that was the perfect dating situation. Hanging out, having fun, talking with someone I liked. It was different than with any other girl I had ever met. It just felt natural.

We may not have openly discussed being serious or exclusive, but from the earliest days of our relationship, I was certain I had found my future wife. I knew I wanted her to meet my parents, so when they came to town for a game at the end of August, I took them to Lauren's house to meet her and her parents.

Considering how different our parents were, it's amazing how well they hit it off right from the start. They found plenty to discuss. Lauren's dad carried most of the conversation, but he and my dad talked a lot about sports and their time in the service during World War II. Our moms had a lot in common too. Both were proud of their families and talked about their children's accomplishments. Since my mom was a teacher and Lauren's was a nurse practitioner, they also swapped stories about their jobs in two different helping professions.


Lauren

Meeting Tony's parents was eye-opening in that his mom and dad were exact opposites from each other. His dad was very reserved—polite and more of a listener than a talker. His mom was bubbly and extremely outgoing. I could see the personality of a caring schoolteacher in her.

Though Tony's parents were extremely friendly, I couldn't tell if they liked me. Tony says he could tell they loved me from that first meeting, but they didn't share their feelings as readily as my family did, so I wasn't sure. But I definitely cared about how they felt about me.

That evening together confirmed what I'd begun to see: although Tony and I were raised with the same Christian guidelines, our family backgrounds were quite different. And that made our personalities and expectations—not to mention our childhood experiences—distinct.


(Continues...)

Excerpted from UNCOMMON MARRIAGE by TONY DUNGY, LAUREN DUNGY, NATHAN WHITAKER, Kimberly Miller. Copyright © 2014 Tony and Lauren Dungy. Excerpted by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc..
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Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction, ix,
1. Beginnings, 1,
2. The Sky's the Limit, 21,
3. Hail to the Chiefs, 37,
4. Welcome to the Neighborhood, 49,
5. Into the Cold, 65,
6. Spousal Support, 77,
7. A Warm Landing, 93,
8. Tampa's Team, 103,
9. Living the Dream, 121,
10. An Unsettled Season, 139,
11. Long-Distance Marriage, 151,
12. Together Again, 165,
13. Remembering Jamie, 177,
14. Champions, 187,
15. New Arenas, 203,
Afterword, 219,
The Core Principles of an Uncommon Marriage, 221,
Acknowledgments, 231,
About the Authors, 233,

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  • Posted February 4, 2014

    "uncommon marriage" is very hard to put down coach ton

    "uncommon marriage" is very hard to put down coach tony and lauren dungy offer some of the best advice that I have herd in along time. put christ first in your relationship and you must have good communication these are just 2 of the main points in the book there is also some scripture and a discussion guide in the back of the book which I feel is good also for couples as well as people that are married. this is a very special book and its great for Bible studys and churchs and would make a great gift for someone special. it is also in audio and there is also a paperback workbook. also recamended all tony dungy books and it takes a family by rick santorum and all billy graham books and josh mcdowell books espically evidence for the resurection

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 1, 2014

    I really got so much out of this book! The theme seemed to be o

    I really got so much out of this book! The theme seemed to be on the importance the small, but seemingly insignificant moments and decisions we make--that these decisions are actually the ones that define you, and define your marriage. The Dungys' story interested me and really caught my interest from the first chapter. The way they used the story of their meeting, their courtship, and their marriage to teach was great! They wove that together well so that it didn't sound too "preachy" but had just the right mix of encouragement, inspiration, and challenge. I think everyone should read this book and I'm fairly certain something in their story will connect with something in yours. It would also be a really great book (along with the study guide) to use for a marriage bible study class. Definitely recommend!

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  • Posted August 30, 2014

    Tony Dungy is a well known football coach who has experienced gr

    Tony Dungy is a well known football coach who has experienced great success. But perhaps his greatest success is in living well. He and his wife, Lauren have been married for more than 30 years, and together have seen and experienced more than most. They are the parents of nine children, several of whom are adopted, and they truly exemplify their relationship with Jesus in their actions. What I especially liked about this book is that simply by reading their story, you are easily absorbing the very insights they are hoping to communicate. It is "teachy" without being preachy.


    Written memoir-style, this was definitely their story but they share numerous insights on different obstacles and joys of marriage. There is even a cross-reference section in the back that I found very helpful. I really enjoyed learning about their life and marriage, and had several takeaways that I know would benefit just about anyone.

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  • Posted August 12, 2014

    I was quite amused how Tony and Lauren Dungy met. They tell of t

    I was quite amused how Tony and Lauren Dungy met. They tell of their wedding, becoming foster and adoptive parents, their own families, moves, homes, death of their son, winning the super bowl, and retirement. They do have a strong bond. Such great faith in those two. They are an admirable couple and a good model for other couples.
    4 1/2 stars

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  • Posted August 3, 2014

    Great book! I enjoyed reading this book even though I¿m not a r

    Great book! I enjoyed reading this book even though I’m not a real sports fan. It alternated between Lauren’s story and Tony’s story. They detail the high’s and the lows of their marriage as well as things that helped them bond closer together – like taking walks together and having dates and talking on the phone when they had to be apart. Not only does the reader learn about the football coach’s world and the long hours, but also about how their family changed through births, adoptions and death. Tony Dungy came to national prominence when his Indiana Colts won the 2007 Super Bowl – this book tells about the man and his family and their desire to live godly lives – before, during and after the Super Bowl. I recommend this book!

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  • Posted July 24, 2014

    I like to read books about lifelong successful marriages because

    I like to read books about lifelong successful marriages because I'm always interested in getting tips on how to grow closer through the years. This was a nice book and interesting story about the Dungy marriage. However, it wasn't quite what I expected. I really felt like any couple could have written the book. It didn't seem that uncommon to me. The book description is accurate in describing that the Dungy experienced relationship-testing setbacks such as job loss. However, again I felt that other couples could have written it and perhaps even better. Some couples in America have had to cope with job losses that lasted for much longer times. This is just one small example from the book that I found lacking.

    I just wanted more from this book. As I reflect on my disappointment in this book, I realize that the title mislead me and heightened my expectations. I just didn't view it as illustrating an uncommon marriage. It demonstrated a loving, committed, and successful marriage, but not necessarily uncommon. I probably would have enjoyed it more if it had been titled The Story of Our Marriage. It seemed to me that is what the book was about.

    Next on my reading list is the companion study book. I'm hoping that the companion book offers more information on improving and deepening "common marriages".

    Despite the overall negative tone of my review, I do think there are a lot of readers out there that would really enjoy this book. If you are a fan of football, or are already fans of the Dungys, then you would probably enjoy this book more than I did. If you are looking for a book that inspires you to improve your marriage, I think that others out there that are more effective.

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  • Posted July 18, 2014

    wonderful inspirational book about an African American couple wi

    wonderful inspirational book about an African American couple with nine children (some adopted) and three dogs who live in the spotlight of NFL football since Tony is a great coach. He became the first head coach to lead his teams to the playoffs for ten consecutive years. Lauren stressed relationships and encouraged the children to spend time with their grandparents. She herself also spent time encouraging the wives of the other coaches for the team by inviting them to her house for coffee. As a Mom she also established time for homework, praying together and bedtime routines. She made a point of finding things they all could enjoy. Church was also an important part of their lives as well. It wasn’t easy when Tony changed the teams he was coaching which meant they had to move, find another house, enter another school, and make all new friends. One son committed suicide which was so painful for them. But whenever there was a decision to make or a problem to face, they prayed to God and felt His presence holding them up and leading them forward.

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  • Posted July 8, 2014

    The Dungys have done something that many married couples do not

    The Dungys have done something that many married couples do not do: they opened up their lives to their readers. From successes and struggles, to disagreements and understandings, the Dungys book will give insight into the journey of their marriage.

    It started with Tony, as a football player, being introduced to Lauren, who felt football players were ego-driven athletes, and from there realizing that there is more to people than our perceptions.

    They found the differences in each other became a balancing of sorts in areas where each was not gifted. Those differences would be needed as several moves, possible job opportunities not coming through, and adoption of children (one with special needs) would push, strain, and test the their relationship and marriage.

    However, through it all, the Dungys held firm to this foundational truth: God is in control of our lives. When all seemed to unravel they would pray. When things did not make sense: prayer. When guidance was needed the asked God for direction.

    Their story is one of triumph, not because they had continuous victory but because they sought God and kept going through His strength. This book will be a great encouragement to those married couples in whatever area of life they may be. I highly recommend this book

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  • Posted June 26, 2014

    This book was not what I expected. I was expecting more of a pri

    This book was not what I expected. I was expecting more of a principles and applications book with maybe a few stories thrown in for examples. Instead, it was the journey of Tony and Lauren from the day they met until the present. I really enjoyed reading the book. Being an NFL coach put demands on both Tony and Lauren that are different from what most marriages have, but watching how they continued to put God and each other and family first is impressive. Their marriage stood strong and survived the pressure of being public figures. The emphasis they put on taking regular time for each other--for just the two of them is important along with the importance of good communication. I also was impressed with the emphasis on being grateful even when you don't feel like. I needed that encouragement. I would definitely recommend this book to others.

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  • Posted June 19, 2014

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    What sold me on this particular book about marriage was the name

    What sold me on this particular book about marriage was the name of the author. I have a lot of respect for Tony Dungy, and he has obviously proven himself to be an excellent coach. So, how is his coaching on marriage?


    Pretty good! Tony and Lauren share from personal experience, and they hide nothing. Every struggle, every positive and every not so positive moment is chronicled in their book. The reader also gets to learn a lot about Tony's movement within the NFL, and how it affected his family and his marriage.


    The wisdom in "Uncommon Marriage" is sound, Biblical advice, and it's advice that has been lived out in several decades of marriage. Tony and Lauren Dungy are the real deal, and this is a great book to strengthen any marriage.


    My thanks to my friends at Tyndale Publishing for my free copy in exchange for an honest review. I recommend you pick up a copy of "Uncommon Marriage", and check out other books by Tony Dungy while you're at it!

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  • Posted June 17, 2014

    This book shouldn't illustrate an uncommon marriage This book i

    This book shouldn't illustrate an uncommon marriage

    This book is not a book on marital advice (what I expected), instead its basically a joint autobiography of Tony and Lauren Dungy starting from when they met up to present times. It's more of a lead-by-example book on marriage than a book of "this is what makes marriage work". It was interesting enough, and they definitely do include some good reminders and tips about being a team. After reading this book I'm really sad that what they described is considered "uncommon" today, but it is...but it shouldn't be. It shouldn't be uncommon to be married strong for 30 years. My prayer is that this book helps make "uncommon marriage" a little more common.

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  • Posted June 9, 2014

    If you had asked me a few days ago who Tony and Lauren Dungy wer

    If you had asked me a few days ago who Tony and Lauren Dungy were I would have said I had no idea. When I picked up the book Uncommon Marriage from the library I thought to myself, "Self, it appears I should know who these people are but I haven't a clue." Then I read the back cover and realized Tony was the first African American head coach to win the Super Bowl and quickly realized why I had never heard of him. I don't do sports. LOL




    I was thinking the book would be marriage advice and such but in actuallity it is the story of their married life with tons of football in it, which made it oh so boring for me. There were bits I enjoyed, like when Lauren was talking about issues with the kids but much was about how he coached and when they had to switch teams, ect. which didn't interest me in the least. I can tell these are very kind people though who have a passion for family and others and if you or your spouse are into football you would LOVE this book. So despite the fact that I was bored I know a lot of others wouldn't be so I still recommend it.

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  • Posted June 5, 2014

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    This is truly an inspiring read. Tony Dungy is a fabulous role m

    This is truly an inspiring read. Tony Dungy is a fabulous role model for young and old alike, and his marriage is built on a solid foundation. I enjoyed the lessons shared in this book, and the conversational tone is easy to ingest.




    Marriage is more than a union; it’s a total commitment. It takes proactive choices and individual purposes. I enjoyed reading this and found it stimulating and motivating.




    From the book: Uncommon Marriage is a celebration of love and family, a collection of unforgettable stories from a beloved and respected couple, and a playbook for strengthening and improving your own relationship.
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    Publisher: Tyndale Momentum
    Pages: 255
    Pace: Steady
    First Lines: I couldn't figure out why my pastor, John Guest, kept trying to track me down. My mom told me that he had called three times in the past week.

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