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Understanding Men
     

Understanding Men

by Philip J Bradbury
 

When a man and a woman come together in wholeness, it is the most beautiful and rare of things. When each person is whole within themselves - contented, fulfilled, self-realised and need-less (though not desire-less) - and there is complete love and acceptance for the other, as they are, the world sees the glow and is more joyful.
However, very few of us have

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When a man and a woman come together in wholeness, it is the most beautiful and rare of things. When each person is whole within themselves - contented, fulfilled, self-realised and need-less (though not desire-less) - and there is complete love and acceptance for the other, as they are, the world sees the glow and is more joyful.
However, very few of us have that wholeness - most of us have some emotional wound(s) or scar(s), yet to be healed. And, as like attracts like, so we attract partners with similar wounds. Caroline Myss calls this "woundology" and if, say, a woman has not been able to resolve (within) the abuse she had from her father, she will most likely attract an abusive partner. And if a man has been "trained" to hide his feelings ("Big boys don't cry") he could easily attract a partner who will not allow him to express himself. Or, the same man may attract a partner who needs and demands of him that he express his feelings, thereby ripping the plaster from an unhealed wound, a wound he is ashamed of but knows not how to heal. And we know not the pain we cause when we're being helpful, sometimes, especially when the other person cannot talk of that pain.
No one can heal the pain of another and no one has the responsibility for another's pain. We can be there, we can support, we can listen but we cannot resolve - that has to come from the bearer of the pain. And, until that pain is healed, situations and people will come in to remind, to exacerbate, to expose, to challenge, to annoy - until something is done by the bearer to attempt a healing. When the honest intention of self-healing is there, then the universe sends in the listeners, the friends, the allowers. But not until the intention is there ...

Product Details

BN ID:
2940011268649
Publisher:
Philip J Bradbury
Publication date:
04/13/2011
Sold by:
Smashwords
Format:
NOOK Book
File size:
141 KB
Age Range:
18 Years

Meet the Author

Welcome to my books, to my many genres ... I write in every genre but there is one theme – to help you find peace, your place in the world & to rediscover the you that you lost. I share your hope that my words will help you unlock the prison you’re in, the current drama you can’t find your way out of. I share your hope and willingness to find your passion, your wings and take on the life you’re born to experience. It's my hope for me as well. I spent twenty years in the wrong occupation. 1 year of accounting & I knew we didn’t fit each other. Why did I stay? Year later, I found I’d stayed bored & desperate to please my father and my wife. I couldn't please them. I can only please me. Once I’d realised I was in a rut – a grave with the ends kicked out – I was stuck. I didn’t know what else to do. Also, the income provided for my family. I had responsibilities & had to go on. I couldn’t let them down. But I let me down. I followed my father's example – sticking in a job that sucked me dry – & became more angry & depressed. The divorce was traumatic, sad and releasing but, work-wise, I quietly slipped sideways into teaching and then, because of my 20 wasted years, facilitated personal development courses and men’s groups. I quickly realised I was a lousy accountant and slowly realised I was a great teacher. I loved it and, 20 years later, still do. If you’re misaligned you can't give (or receive) your best till you get wise about the choices you’re making in your actions, words & thoughts. I hope my words can help bring you back to wisdom, home & to the peace you know is there. The dream I’ve realised for myself is the dream I have for you. I write for both of us.

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