Understanding Men's Passages: Discovering the New Map of Men's Lives (4 cassettes)

Understanding Men's Passages: Discovering the New Map of Men's Lives (4 cassettes)

by Gail Sheehy
     
 

This is a book every man should read and every woman will.

Understanding Men's Passages is the most intimate and candid account of what men's lives are really like today, revealing their doubts, their passions, their hunger for renewal. Given their increasingly unpredictable and elongated lives, men need to reinvent themselves and expand the ways they

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This is a book every man should read and every woman will.

Understanding Men's Passages is the most intimate and candid account of what men's lives are really like today, revealing their doubts, their passions, their hunger for renewal. Given their increasingly unpredictable and elongated lives, men need to reinvent themselves and expand the ways they demonstrate their manliness.
Hundreds of men have told their stories in their own words to Gail Sheehy, author of the bestselling "New Passages" and "The Silent Passage." Sheehy makes the case that it is men in middle life who have the best chance to become masters of their fates. Featured are confidences from both celebrities and everyday heroes, creating a mirror in which every man can locate his possibilities for growth and change. These bold, feisty, imaginative men recount how they have discovered what is missing and forged new directions to invigorate the second half of their lives. They share a fantastic secret: "Hey, I'm not as old as I used to be!"
"Understanding Men's Passages" is a concise guide for men (and the women in their lives) as they confront the major issues of each passage:

 ¸  How do you make change work for you?
 ¸  Where can you find new passion and purpose?
 ¸  How can you be the father you wish your father was?
 ¸  What can you do to exercise influence as you grow older?
 ¸  How can you deal successfully with "male menopause"?
 ¸  What strategies can defeat depression?
 ¸  How can you survive a job change or downsizing?
 ¸  Whatkeeps a man young?
 ¸  When men and women face the same passage with different needs and directions, how does marriage survive?

The stories of men who are redirecting their lives offer concrete information as well as inspiration.Gail Sheehy's "Understanding Men's Passages" will be a man's secret friend—a short, witty, knowing guide to self-renewal. And every woman will find it a must-read.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
The years after 40 offer men a "second adulthood," declares Sheehy, a chance to reinvent themselves. But first they must shift from competing to connecting, from incessant striving for external rewards to a quest for inner fulfillment through meaningful pursuits, after determining what they really want of the second half of their lives. In a constructive, enlightening guide to self-discovery for men and their partners, the author of "Passages" and "New Passages" uses 100 male interviewees, case histories and medical and psychological research to probe men's feelings about death, spiritual hollowness, empty nest syndrome, separation anxieties, their envy of their empowered working wives, pre-retirement jitters and waning sexual potency. There are enough fresh angles in this searching exploration of male malaise to help men tailor their goals and dreams to real-life circumstances.
Library Journal - Library Journal
The author's cool, pleasant reading voice cannot make up for the lack of substance in this text. A self-described guidebook for men moving through midlife crises (called "passages"), it is full of anecdotes, cozy comments, and, occasionally, a nugget or two of useful information. The funny part is that the author herself says that men don't ask or look for help in such situations. So here we have a book ostensibly written for an audience that won't buy or take it out of the library. Could the actual target audience be wives (partners) of middle-aged men, the same people who are told not to irritate these men by their differing communication needs (or by dropping self-help books in their laps)? Even the writing style has the classic "female" slant--few facts but lots of little vignettes. The topic deserves better. Sheehy is a popular author (The Silent Passage, Audio Reviews, LJ 11/15/92), but this is a title that can be skipped. Recommended only for libraries with an insatiable demand for self-help works.--I. Pour-El, Iowa State Univ. Lib., Ames
Walter Anderson
Gail Sheehy has managed to penetrate the hidden vault of men's fears and secrets -- the real concerns that men do not share with each other. Men -- and women -- need to read this book to understand who we men really are and who we are becoming. The storytelling alone is worth the price of admission. -- Walter Anderson, Parade Magazine
Kirkus Reviews
Despite some facile passages, the bestselling journalist Sheehy ("Passages", 1976; "New Passages", 1995; etc.) has done it again: engaged in a good deal of research, interviewed many of the right people, and then produced a beautifully readable, very useful guide to important aspects of adult human development. Her focus is both descriptive, charting the changing nature of American men's lives from the "second adulthood" that often begins between ages 40 and 50, through the attempt to live a vigorous, still-evolving old age, and prescriptive, helping men to rethink their lives in order to make a "preemptive strike against sameness and sourness." Sheehy's overly and redundantly upbeat tone can indeed be grating at times, and she does venture her share of insipid, undocumented generalizations: "Women are happier in midlife than they have been in any previous generation" (tell that to the economically downwardly mobile divorced women studied by Judith Wallerstein). But the author more than compensates for such passages by picking just the right variety of professionals and laypeople with whom to speak, by asking probing questions, listening well, and (usually) writing even better. The cumulative mass of her information, observations, and anecdotes is immensely impressive, addressing a wide variety of issues related to middle-aged men's dilemmas—from being laid off abruptly to beginning a new career, from impotence to sexuality among the aged, from depression (and new findings about its close correlation with heart attacks) to struggling for emotional regeneration. Much of this will help thousands of men and women alike. Credit also should go to both author and publisher fordoing a first-rate job on a commonly overlooked aspect of popular books: providing crisp, imaginative headings and an appealing layout. This is a rare work of engaging and substantive pop-psych that is perfectly balanced between psychology and the þpopular.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781559274579
Publisher:
Macmillan Audio
Publication date:
04/28/1998
Edition description:
Abridged, 4 Cassettes
Product dimensions:
4.66(w) x 7.01(h) x 1.12(d)

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Hometown:
New York City and Berkeley, California
Date of Birth:
November 27, 1937
Education:
B.A., University of Vermont; M.A., Columbia School of Journalism

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