Understanding Words, An End to Anger & Conflict [NOOK Book]

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I have presented this material numerous times to groups in several countries. The participants feedback was consistent. A reduction of anger by approximately 50% to 70% within a couple of weeks.

That may sound unbelievable, but really it is not. The basis of such a large reduction is that there are two kinds of anger. Anger for and anger at something. Anger can be either destructive or constructive, depending on whether it is at or for ...
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Overview

I have presented this material numerous times to groups in several countries. The participants feedback was consistent. A reduction of anger by approximately 50% to 70% within a couple of weeks.

That may sound unbelievable, but really it is not. The basis of such a large reduction is that there are two kinds of anger. Anger for and anger at something. Anger can be either destructive or constructive, depending on whether it is at or for something. Anger at is destructiveand serves no useful purpose. It is the emotion we express toward drivers who cut us off, for example. This type of anger robs you of vital energy and can become addictive, like misery. A friend and teacher once told me, “Some people love their suffering so much I don’t have the heart to take it away from them.”

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Anger at is consuming. Like a wildfire with more and more forest to decimate, it continually replenishes its force, rarely burning itself out. If it is not dissolved, it simmers down, laying in wait for yet another reason to control your mind and have you blow up at a mere trifle. Anger for, on the other hand, is a positive force that many highly successful people use to significant advantage, directing it rather than letting it consume them. Anger for is the type of anger we have about.

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injustice, poverty, or educational, socioeconomic, health, or racial inequities—phenomenabeyond our control that limit people from expressing their full potential. It makes us want to constructively change the way things are. Anger for the improvement of life often provides the passion that fuels success, like the fire that heats the water for running a steam engine.

Mahatma Gandhi, feeling anger for the British injustices toward the people of India, once said, “I have learnt through bitter experience the one supreme lesson: to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled

[focused] can be transmuted into a power which can move the world.” And move the world he did! Gandhi’s passion was so fervent that 250 million people supported his cause, ultimately returning the control of India to Indians.

Always question whether you are angry at o r angry for. If you do not know, look for physical cues: anger at feels like your body is tensing up, or like you can’t breathe, or like a gremlin is eating you from the inside, whereas anger for feels more like you are being propelled from the inside. Once you have identified the type of anger you are feeling, recognize that anger at someone must be dissolved and anger for an injustice must be expressed, then take the appropriate measures.

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An average persons anger is 95% anger at. And so, to eliminate the majority of this in a few weeks with the proper understanding is actually quite reasonable. In time, you can eliminate it entirely. But first you must know its source and then how to disarm it.

Although I have attempted to detail as much information as possible to give an in-depth explanation of the principle, the written word cannot fully express the finest points that come up in conversation. However due to the limitations of time and location, I hope that this book in combination with the extensive collection of my other writings on my web site will give you enough information to make significant progress in mastering your Mind and life. In time, perhaps, these principles will be absorbed and give you more than you perceive at the moment.

I suggest that you forget everything you know, anything you have read or learnt, and read this book with an open mind that sincerely wants to eliminate anger from your life.

I offer you this true story to make you smile next time you are angry at.

When I was in India, I quickly learned that getting a train ticket there is an experience unlike any in the West. The normal procedure is to push your way to the ticket booth, along with twenty or more other travelers, all clutching their money and attempting to thrust it at the...

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ticket seller. Whoever's money he takes gets the next ticket. This is not the place for a polite, wait-your-turn type of person.

Aware of the chaos, I went a day early to buya ticket to Alleppy and was delighted to find thestation relatively un-crowded.

"Is there a train going to Alleppy tomorrowmorning?" I asked the attendant.

"Yes sir, there is a train going there every day."

"Are you sure there is a train going tomorrow?"

"Yes sir, certainly. There is a train going tomorrowmorning—nine o'clock."

"Good, can I reserve a seat for that train?"

"No sir, there is no reserved seating. You...
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Product Details

  • BN ID: 2940014081634
  • Publisher: Altantic eBooks
  • Publication date: 8/13/2012
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • File size: 184 KB

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