Until I Say Good-Bye: My Year of Living with Joy

Until I Say Good-Bye: My Year of Living with Joy

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by Susan Spencer-Wendel

ISBN-10: 0062241451

ISBN-13: 2900062241459

Pub. Date: 03/12/2013

Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers

In June 2011, Susan Spencer-Wendel learned she had amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS)—Lou Gehrig's disease—an irreversible condition that destroys the nerves that power the muscles. She was forty-four years old, with a devoted husband and three young children, and she had only one year of health remaining.

She decided to live that year with joy,

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In June 2011, Susan Spencer-Wendel learned she had amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS)—Lou Gehrig's disease—an irreversible condition that destroys the nerves that power the muscles. She was forty-four years old, with a devoted husband and three young children, and she had only one year of health remaining.

She decided to live that year with joy, spending time with her family and building a meeting place for friends. And, as her health declined, she took seven trips with the seven most important people in her life—to the Yukon, Hungary, the Bahamas, and Cyprus. She swam with the dolphins with her sons and went to New York City with her teenage daughter.

From the parking lot where she cried after her diagnosis to a snowy hot springs near the Arctic Circle, from a hilarious family Christmas disaster to the monastery in Cyprus where she rediscovered her heritage, Until I Say Good-Bye is Susan Spencer-Wendel's unforgettable gift to her loved ones and to us: a record of their final experiences together and a reminder that every day is better when it is lived with joy.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: Kissing the Dolphin 1

Liftoff: July-September

Still Lucky 9

The Clinic 28

The Wonder 32

Wesley 39

Animals and Expectations 44

The Yukon: October

Auroras 57

Thank You 64

The Northern Lights 71

Wreck Beach 81

California: October

Into the Past 89

Family Reunion 111

The Yurt 121

Closing the Loop 130

Christmas: December-January

Together 137

The Party 145

A Gift to Myself 151

Hungary: February

Youth 161

A Couple 173

The Conversation 183

Budapest 189

The Cruise: March

My Sister Steph 205

The Gift: April

Panos 223

The Bible 247

The Chickee Hut: May

A Place of My Own 263

Mango Madness 274

The Journey Inward: May-June

Scrapbooking 283

Stink Pickle 291

My Triathlon 297

Letting Go: May-June

Swimming 307

Aubrey's Birthday 313

Helping Hands 322

Hospice 331

Funeral 338

Cyprus: June-July

Fearless 345

Turtle Beach 356

Saint Andreas 364

The Old Man of Karpaz 371

New York City: July

Kardashians 377

Marina's Trip 384

Tattoos 390

Support 393

Kleinfeld's 402

For Good 411

Captiva Island: August

The Lion's Paw 417

Acknowledgments 435

Photo Credits 437

About the Author 438

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Until I Say Good-Bye: My Year of Living with Joy 4.5 out of 5 based on 1 ratings. 91 reviews.
katefmVA More than 1 year ago
what an inspiration susan was to me. i am honored to have read her story and we never look at my own disability the same ay again. such a beautiful lady with a remarkable joy and zest for life. may her family be blessed.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is a love letter to her friends and family a garden of memories .it will show you how one amazing woman did what all us mothers only wished we could do it we  knew we'd be leaving our children sooner than planned .read the book I promise it will enrich your life .you will laugh you will cry but most of all you WILL NOT put it down til you are done  !! 
NMKinnally More than 1 year ago
Diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease in June 2011, Susan Spencer-Wendel had every excuse in the world to fold, but instead she reached for her ace in the hole and had the courage to play it. A veteran journalist from the Palm Beach Post, Spencer-Wendel believed in her own talent as a writer and storyteller, and with it she realized the extraordinary potential in the cards she had been dealt. The result is Until I Say Good-Bye, a memoir that entertains, provokes thought, and makes you thankful for each breath you draw. If you are expecting a tearjerker chick book, your expectations will be blown to smithereens. This is a book for everyone who thinks life is worth contemplating and enjoying, everyone who likes to laugh, and everyone who loves gorgeous writing. Make room on your shelf of favorites.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
For anyone who has ALS or knows someone who has ALS this is a truly remarkable journey of a well known journalist who has ALS and the way she deals with this horrific disease. My husband has ALS and this book was very inspiring. I give it 5 stars.
Boppyof5 More than 1 year ago
Absolutely one of the BEST books I have ever read in my 60 years! It is sad, certainly, but moreso, uplifting & inspirational! Living with a chroinic disease, nothing like the author's, has made me depressed at times. No pill or therapist is better than this book; it should be required reading for doctors, therapists, all with chronic illness. I have a different outlook on my life and shall read this one again! I bought the hardcover for a friend who is not into e-books & sent it to her; I wish I could give a copy to every person I know so their lives would be viewed differently. Ms. Spencer-Wendel & her family are in my preayers now, for peace & comfort. I loved this book!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was very interested in learning more about Susan's story as my Mother in law was recently diagnosed with ALS.  I found myself relating to many of her daily struggles and concerns.  This book is inspiring! Her attitude and outlook on life positive, even though her outcome certain.  This book will make you appreciate your good health- remind you that tomorrow is not promised and hopefully change your attitude on life.  Best wishes to Susan and her family!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This is a great book. Susan Spencer-Wendell writes in a way that does not make you feel sad as you read it. Excellent read on ALS.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Really enjoyed reading this book and could not put it down as I really got into it. What an inspiring story!
FluffyOH More than 1 year ago
I read about this book in Guidepost Magazine and watched the video. This is one of the bravest woman and her family as she experiences her Bucket list after the diagnosis of ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) I plan to purchase copies for several friends. It isn't sad, but truly a heroic adventure.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
One of the best books I have read in a long time. Thank you Susan for sharing your intimate story with the world. How blessed your family is to have this piece of you always. This book will help many in their own life struggles. My own Mother has Parkinson's and this book has helped me understand a little more her thoughts and fears.
Amanda_P More than 1 year ago
A heartbreaking yet heart warming story. A great read! Truly inspirational.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Spencer-Wendel, when faced with a difficult and terminal illness, took her life to new heights with great spirit. She shares her story with honesty, humor, and great generosity. I could not put it down and remained so touched by her and her stories ever since.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can't wait to read this book. I watched my grandma who i was extremely close to suffer from this disease. It amazes me the strength the author had to write this story with just her thumb working all written on her iphone. She done more with her thumb than most people do with their whole body. Very inspiring
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wonderful story! A non-fictional acount of a womans fight with ALS . Her year of givng to her family and to herself. I did not want to put it down! Anyone who is going through, or, caring for someone with this disease should read this book. Ii
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After reading this book, various words come to mind...educational, sadness, uplifting, humor, grace, love of family, friendship, insightful, courage, and many more. Having a classmate who is stricken with ALS, this book helped me learn a little bit more about this awful disease and what some of the physical things are that he is going through. This is a "must read."
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I did not enjoy this book. I felt that Susan was bossy and rude to her friends and family. My whole book club was very excited to read this book and no one in my book club really enjoyed the book. The person that was most excited about reading the book could not even finish the book.
ireneTZ More than 1 year ago
I just read this book and I have to say that I enjoyed reading this book. Susan Spencer-Wendel the author of this book tells her story of a fatal diease and how she's copes with this day after day. She's a mother, wife, daughter, and sister. A 44 year old woman so very young but her days are numbered because of this terrible diease. I reccomend reading this book and it makes you realize you cannot take your life or your family for granted, because you never know what can happen.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I couldn't go on reading this...... I'm. Not as strong as I thought. The very idea of taking my 14 year old , Sami,wedding dress shopping because i KNEW I would not be there for her wedding broke my heart. This is the first book I have EVER started that I walked away from unfinished. I. Sure its about strength and the human condition. Probably very good..... maybe even life changing..... but I couldn't finish.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Such a lovely story.I would love to leave it at that in honor of Susan.On the other hand I feel like I need to come to her defence and to all (including my brother) that have suffered with this hidious disease.To watch step by step as their abilities are stripped away-it's not a pretty site-very gut wrenching is one of many ways to describe it.I know every is entilted to their opinion(April-26-2013-2stars) and I really don't believe that you read this book nor did your so called "book club and if I'm wrong did you all have tissue to catch the drowl that was dripping out of your mouths?Please don'tEVER call this woman names again, RUDE espescially.YOU are the low life piece of scum,RUDE person I believe I've ever encounterd!!!!! AND THAT MY DEAR IS"MY" OPINION.My condolences to Susan's family and please forgive me if I caused you any embarrasment.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
So amazingly honest and heart warming. Half way through i Googled more information. Such a tough disease i cant even fathom and yet she keeps going.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A very brave women with debilitating ASL prepares herself, her husband, her children, and her friends for this severly incapacitating illnes through until her death. An excellent book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Outstanding story ofiving with a termin diagnosis. Excellent storyteller but i had ai little problem following because the story was not told chronologically. Super story about living with joy You know she was a good and generous friend because so many gave to her. ?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I am a nurse who has the privilage of taking care of a patient with ALS. Her name is Joy. So you can see why i picked this book..or it picked me. This book is fullfilling to my heart and soul. From the first page to the last it captured my attention. A must read for anyone who faces challenges. We can all learn to live for the now.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
We should all learn from Susan and live everyday of life to the fullest extent possible. We never know if it may be our last.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed the book very much, as it was very positive. Although Ms. Wendell knew that her life was going to end soon, she still retained a sense of wonder about the world around her. She held no grudges about how she could have been "dealt this deck of cards," nor did she expect others to suffer for her. She decided to simply live each day "to the best of her ability" and to take each day as it comes. Very comendable.