Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends [NOOK Book]

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This practical and compassionate handbook helps parents sharpen any child's social skills by identifying the "unwritten rules" that govern all relationships.
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Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends

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Overview

This practical and compassionate handbook helps parents sharpen any child's social skills by identifying the "unwritten rules" that govern all relationships.
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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Elman, director of the Summit Center for Learning in Summit, N.J., and Kennedy-Moore, a Westfield, N.J., psychotherapist, offer a detailed examination of the different ways children interact with their peers. Often, otherwise bright and "normal" children behave in ways that cause other children, family members and teachers to label them as disruptive, unhappy or troublesome. There are nine types of children, according to the authors, including the "short-fused," "little adult," "born leader" and "different drummer." Parents will immediately be able to identify their child from the detailed descriptions included. For example, "Short-Fused Children may appear to be strong, but inside they feel vulnerable. These children are extremely sensitive. They often believe that the whole world is against them. Because they feel threatened, they respond angrily, instinctively fighting to protect themselves." As they explain the various types of behaviors, the authors depict a number of scenarios to show the difficulties children can have relating to others. The challenge for the parents is to help their children learn "the Unwritten Rules" so they have fewer problems and form happier, more productive relationships. The authors provide specific sentences that both parents and children can use to change these destructive behavior patterns, but some parents will probably hope for even more specific do's and don'ts. Given that other childrearing tomes rarely cover this topic, this book is a welcome addition to the parenting library. (Sept.) Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
Library Journal
The world of the child is both a preparation for adulthood and a total society of its own, and these books map it from quite different perspectives. Sociologist Corsaro (The Sociology of Childhood) provides a comparative description of preschool education in the United States and Italy, using participant-observation methodology in economically diverse settings. His research, which began in the 1970s (Berkeley, CA) and concluded in 2001 (Modena, Italy), focuses on children's friendship processes. Topics include conflict, types of play, adult role rehearsal, and sharing and social participation. Interestingly, he concludes that the Italian preschool system, which is more fully integrated into the larger society, generated a richer and more complex peer culture. Ways to improve the U.S. version are also discussed. The Unwritten Rules of Friendship is a more direct advisory manual for parents concerned about their children "fitting in" with peers. Elman (director, Summit Ctr. for Learning, NJ) and Kennedy-Moore (Expressing Emotion: Myths, Realities, and Therapeutic Strategies) rely on research and clinical experience to formulate nine prototypes of children with friendship problems. These range from passive (e.g., "sensitive soul") to more aggressive (e.g., "intimidating" children, "short-fused" children, and born leaders) personalities. Chapters provide checklists for evaluation, social rules such children need to know, learning activities, and case studies. Corsaro's book contains unique and valuable policy insights into early education issues, though the research covers an unusually lengthy time span; recommended for academic and specialized early childhood education collections. Colorfully written and practical, Unwritten Rules offers many tips for anxious parents. Whereas similar books limit their perspective to the bully/victim paradigm, this one covers more diverse personality problems in a somewhat cursory but productive way. Recommended for public library parenting collections.-Antoinette Brinkman, Evansville, IN Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780316055833
  • Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
  • Publication date: 12/21/2008
  • Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 221,981
  • File size: 695 KB

Table of Contents

Preface ix
Chapter 1 The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies Every Child Needs to Know 3
Chapter 2 The Vulnerable Child 15
Allen: Giving In to Threats
Phillip: Asking for Trouble
Chapter 3 The Intimidating Child 48
Jason: Believing "Might Makes Right"
Dolores: Excluding Another Child
Jennifer: Bullying a Sibling
Chapter 4 The Different Drummer 73
Eric: Seeking Negative Attention
Spencer: Talking Up a Storm
Chelsea: Coming On Too Strong
Chapter 5 The Shy Child 108
Michael: Not Knowing What to Say
Emma: Hiding from the Group
Chapter 6 The Short-Fused Child 137
Gregory: Acting Like a Poor Sport
Lorena: Assuming Malicious Intent
Malcolm: Falling Apart in Public
Chapter 7 The Little Adult 179
Margaret: Playing "the Expert"
Simon: Belittling Peers' Interests
Nathan: Needing to Be Perfect
Chapter 8 The Sensitive Soul 208
Jonathan: Overresponding to Teasing
Claudia: Overreacting to Criticism
Lauren: Holding On to Grudges
Chapter 9 The Born Leader 234
Samantha: Running the Show
Jack: Acting Like the Rule Police
Francine: Arguing with Authority Figures
Chapter 10 The Pessimistic Child 271
Meredith: Constantly Complaining
Nadia: Feeling Shortchanged
Zack: Expecting the Worst
Chapter 11 Frequently Asked Questions 302
Appendix
List of Activities 311
Recommended Reading for Parents 317
Selected Professional References 321
Acknowledgments 325
Index 329
About the Authors 339
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 30, 2009

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    Great book

    It is not just a theoretical book. It gives good, practical advice to parents and people who work with children.

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