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Posted February 25, 2012
Well, this book is very different from anything that I've ever read so this review will be a little different.
I found this book to be very informative about losing your Virginity. With that said I'm going to explain what is was about and what I got from it. When I first started reading this book I honestly didn't know what to think about it. Growing up in a home where my Mom never talked about sex, I really have never had any advice about it. I myself was a big flirt in middle school, and for Sex Ed they gave us condoms. My Mom found these condoms and instantly assumed that I had sex, I told her I hadn't but she didn't believe me so I was just like whatever.
I really liked hearing about everyone's person experiences with sex, and how it turned out for them. This book includes encounters from men and women who are straight, gay, lesbian, and bisexual. This book made me realize that many times teenagers are in too much of a hurry to have sex, and many times in this book (not all times) wish they would've waited.
I would recommend this book to "parents" first, because I think it would allow them to see that if they are open and talk to their children about sex it won't be such a mystery to them. After the parent reads this book I think that it should be their choice to decide whether their teenager should read this book or not. For me personally I think that more parents need to be open about this subject, I mean sex is literally everywhere around us but no one is "willing" to talk about it. This book taught me a lot, and although this isn't really my type of book I found it to be very informative on the subject of Virginity.
I think that if parents were to read this book they would realize that many teens or people in general have sex because they are curious to find out what it is all about. Maybe by reading this book they would be able to talk to their teens about sex, be more open about it, and teens probably wouldn't be "as" curious.
Posted October 25, 2011
The Virgin Diaries is a compilation of essays submitted anonymously. The anonymity allowed the writers to share stories they normally might not have, including emotions they felt before, during, and after. The book is evenly divided between stories from women and stories from men. There are, of course, a few stories from men who had the attitude, "She was there, and I'm a guy. I wasn't going to say no," but many of them had an emotional bond with the women to whom they gave their virginity. It does go a bit against stereotype and may give you something to think about.
However, the real reason I think every parent needs to read this, then pass it to their kids to read is that several of the people in the book had sex for the first time at the age of 12. No, that's not backward. I said 12. Twelve. Do you know anyone who was emotionally ready to have sex at that age? And before you decide that your kids will never do that because they "know better" or they "don't think about sex", think back to when you were in school. I went to a small school and everyone from kindergarten to twelfth grade rode the same bus. (Well, there was more than one bus for the whole school, but the riders spanned all ages.) I heard about stuff before I even had a clue what it meant. Then I picked up my dad's copy of Stephen King's Carrie from an old box of books he had in storage. I was probably 9 or 10. Not really the best age to be reading Carrie, even though most of the abuse scenes were over my head. I didn't have a clue. I also remember being in 3rd or 4th grade and a boy and girl two classes younger than me were in the "hidey-hole" in the playset on the school playground during recess playing "show me yours and I'll show you mine". Part of it is a natural curiosity about sex (and anything else we don't understand) and part of it is the books, movies, music, TV shows all around us.
We can't pretend that our kids will never be curious about sex. They can either talk to us or they can talk to their peers, who likely don't know any more than they do. Or they can find someone else who does know to show them. And that usually doesn't end well.
These are not all, "I wish I hadn't done that" stories, so don't expect to be able to just hand it to your teen (or pre-teen) and say, "See? All these people wish they had waited." That's not the point of the book. This is a book you need to read first, then give your kids. So you can talk to each other. One thing that I found very interesting was that out of 72 responses, only a handful were still in a relationship with the person they first had sex with. Actually, I think it was three, but I could be wrong. All of those were people who had waited until their mid-to-late 20s before they had sex. Just something to consider.
About the book
Title: The Virgin Diaries
Authors: compiled and edited by Kimberley Johnson and Ann Werner
Release date: April 14, 2010
Where I got the book: I received an ebook copy free from the author in exchange for an honest review.
Posted October 17, 2010
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