The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want

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Overview

Since she exploded on the scene with her two juicy and impossible-to-put-down tell-alls, readers have wanted to know even more about what makes Karrine Steffans tick. How was she able to meet all the high profile politicians, movie stars, and other celebrities that are her close acquaintances? What skills does she possess to keep men wanting more? Finally, Karrine lays it all out and explains exactly what a woman must do to win over the man of her dreams. With chapters like "Never Let Him See You Sweat," "Flirting," "Encouraging His Manhood," and "Give Him What He Wants," this hot and sexy manual is a must-have for every woman's bookshelf.

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Karrine Steffans is not inclined to take half measures. When this music video performer and former porn star appear on The Oprah Winfrey Show, her press release proudly described her career as "a full-time booty shaking, breast baring dancer." In this book, the author of Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries shares her secrets for romantic and erotic success, from meeting the man you want to giving him what he wants again and again. The Vixen Manual includes tips on meeting sexy, stable men; super-seductive flirting; catering to your lover's ego; and going the distance when it matters. A steamy tutorial.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780446179980
  • Publisher: Grand Central Publishing
  • Publication date: 8/26/2010
  • Pages: 262
  • Product dimensions: 7.30 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Karrine Steffans became a New York Times best selling author after releasing her debut tell-all book Confessions of a Video Vixen in June of 2005. Since the success of her books, Karrine speaks at universities and celebrity panels. She has also established The Karrine Steffans Girls Club, The Karrine Steffans Book Club , and The Steffans Commentary on MySpace. Check out Karrine's website at www.karrine.com

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First Chapter

The Vixen Manual

How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want
By Steffans, Karrine

Grand Central Publishing

Copyright © 2010 Steffans, Karrine
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9780446179980

Section 1

Being Single

This is how you start, as a single woman looking for a life and, eventually, a life mate. At first it is exhilarating, and then one day it becomes exhausting and you long for more. But until that day, there is a lot to consider.

Chapter One

Single vs. Singular

So you’re a single girl. You’re Mary Tyler Moore, throwing your hat up into the air, thinking you’re gonna make it after all. Maybe you’re Laverne (or Shirley), skipping down the sidewalk, determined to make your dreams come true…doing it your way. Hell, maybe you’re even Samantha Jones, the outspoken PR maven and sexual libertine from Sex and the City, sleeping with every available man, and occasional woman, who crosses your path. Whatever the case, honey, you’re single, and no matter what your theme song is, it has the potential to suck.

Odds are you’re also singular, which is pretty easy to be when you’re not in a relationship. You define yourself by setting your own boundaries, doing what you want whenever you want, mistress of all you survey within your domain. There’s no one to answer to, no feelings to consider. When a relationship enters the picture, however, it has the potential to change everything, including the singular dynamic. It becomes much more difficult—at times, nearly impossible—to focus only on yourself, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. One of the primary keys to a healthy relationship is for both of you, though no longer single, to remain singular. There’s a fine line between being in a relationship and being absorbed by one, and that’s what will happen if you’re not sure of yourself as an individual first.

As a nurturer, I have the tendency to covet and consume my mates. For most of my life, I have believed in the now-comical mantra, You complete me. So there I was, looking for a man to complete me, giving him all of me in the hopes he would return the favor and make his every waking breath my own. With each boyfriend, I wanted to go where he went and do what he did, and I would make myself available day and night, without compromise. In one of my more intense relationships, I even canceled sections of my first book tour to follow my lover as he traveled the country. I was a no-show at Temple University and several other prestigious higher learning establishments, skipping speaking engagements just to be “completed” by him. He was a nocturnal creature and, though I cherished my sleep, I would force myself to stay awake in the wee hours of the morning to be with him, forsaking rest and comfort. I would hop atop his kitchen counter at four in the morning as he juiced fresh, organic vegetables and fruits and would never share in the nectar. I’d watch him drink. I just wanted to be near him. I just wanted to be “completed.” I lost myself in him and, ironically, began to resent him because he had his own life and I didn’t! He didn’t complete me after all! We even made a funny little saying that wound up not being the slightest bit funny: “You deplete me.” That, ladies, is the sum of all parts when you cease being a singular individual before, and especially after, you are no longer single.

Vixen Tip

For me, it’s always been difficult to not become absorbed by my relationship. It takes an enormous amount of effort to stay on track and to live my life as if there weren’t this hunky piece of man flesh laying in my bed just begging to be ravished. The only way to keep on track is to write out a schedule and stick to it every day, no matter how difficult it may be to leave his side. Make certain things rituals; wake up, make the bed, take the kids to school, go for a walk, shower, and head to the office. For those of us who work at home, it is twice as difficult to concentrate, which makes having a schedule even more important. What has worked for me is to save most of the personal time for after business hours, after I have completed everything on my list for the day, everything from tidying the house to running an office. Take care of yourself first and, trust me, he’ll be there when you’re done. But, to ensure this, make sure you don’t become so self-absorbed that you forget to schedule lots of time for him, as well.

Of course, being a single woman can be fun, especially when it’s done on your own terms. There’s something very fulfilling about not needing a man to buy your drinks, take you shopping, and show you a good time. Still, even in your singleness, you can find yourself not being your own person, a singular woman. You may look for others to validate you by making you feel pretty, worthy, smart, or desirable. These are the feelings that should come from within. There’s an old saying along the lines of “If you don’t go within, you go without.” Giving others the ability to define how you view yourself means you’ve surrendered your power. By expecting others to give you what you need—dignity, pride, self-esteem, confidence—you become a hostage, subject to their whims and insecurities. You must learn to mine your own strengths, which you already possess in great abundance.

Vixen Say What?

Too many cooks spoil the pot. (Thanks Grandma!)

If you’re the type of woman who can’t bear the idea of leaving the house without being in the company of a gaggle of girlfriends, you’re not a singular individual. Men are attracted to a woman’s independence and strength. There’s nothing more magnetic to a man than seeing a woman confidently strutting by with a sense of purpose, not checking for who’s checking her out, because she’s apparently got somewhere to be, something to do—something that matters. It’s hard for a potential mate to see who you are when you’re lost in a cacophony of women, all of you laughing and huddling and talking over each other. This may seem communal and fun, even necessary at certain times, but make no mistake—it is not attractive, especially when your objective is to be viewed as an individual.

Eventually, most of us women tire of being single, always hanging out with the girls, meeting up for margaritas and club crawling, only to have to slink back home to an empty bed. We begin to long for the fulfillment of a relationship. This doesn’t have to mean we’re lonely, unable to be in the company of just ourselves. It simply means we no longer want to operate alone. Romantic companionship can be tremendously enriching, enhancing all areas of our lives, under the best circumstances. There’s something uniquely beautiful about Blockbuster nights under a fluffy duvet with someone special, our feet touching, our bodies entwined as we steal each other’s warmth. If only for a season, we all experience a very visceral need to couple, to be touched, and to at least feel loved. If it happens with enough repetition and mutuality, you may soon find that you’re no longer single. The trick, however, is to still be you. Even though you’ve found Mr. Wonderful, or just Mr. Seasonal, it’s important to remain singular and not get so lost in this wonderful (possibly seasonal) bliss that you disappear as an individual.

Make sure you have a strong understanding of who you are and what you stand for before you set out to be in a relationship. Know your singular self. The more you know about you, the better equipped you’ll be to participate in a healthy relationship, and you’ll be much less likely to tolerate what you don’t deserve.

Recap

One of the primary keys to a healthy relationship is for both of you, though no longer single, to remain singular.

If you don’t go within, you go without.

It’s hard for a potential mate to see who you are when you’re lost in a cacophony of women.

Romantic companionship can be tremendously enriching, enhancing all areas of our lives.

Know your singular self.



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  • Posted May 29, 2011

    MAKE THAT MONEY GIRL!... CONTINUE TO WRITE

    I have every book that Karrine has written and im trying patiently to wait for the next one coming in Aug! I did not hesitate to buy this book and I wish I had brought it 6 months ago when I started back dating after a break up. Karrine reminds me alot of myself in a way well im a younger version of her, only guys I have dated or had casual sex with were not rich or famous. I have been wanting to get myself together and each time I try I turn back around and go back to the old me. Not this time! Reading this made me want to change even more so not only will I be happy but sucessful and married soon. This book speaks the truth, that we all may know but dont do or start slipping. I will not or have not judged Karrine by her past, in fact I think her past has taught her and made her wiser so I will take her advice. She has learned from her mistakes and reading this book will help you not go down the path she did when it comes to men. I know if she capable of change so im I and im going to go for whats mine! I say good job Karrine, forget the haters who have negative things to say! Dont stop writting and I wont stop reading =) BTW you look gorgeous on the cover!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 3, 2011

    Do not recommend

    Got the book, read the book and was highly disappointed. Not a good read at all. Please do not waste your money on this.

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  • Posted October 31, 2010

    OMG

    OMG!!! you have to be a loser to take advice from a whore, that is used up and worn out...you might as well go down where the pimp & street walker work and ask them how to keep a man..SOME OF YALL ARE SO FUNNY!! BUT HOPE YOUR && HER RELASTIONSHIP WORK OUT...HOES KNOW BEST!!! LMAO

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 15, 2010

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    A good source for women

    This book is a really good way to point out what women be doing wrong and giving us a chance to fix it and to keep the man we love or that we are falling in love with.

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