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I believe that God has placed 'The Dream' inside every woman, unless He has specifically called you to singleness. We each have a desire for intimacy, for someone to know us fully and love us completely. We long to be able to share our hearts and still find acceptance.
What dreams do you have about your future spouse? How do you imagine meeting him? What do you think he'll be like? __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ What about marriage do you most look forward to? __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________
Dreams are one of the most exciting gifts that God has given us. I dream all the time-about what my life will be like in future years, about what I'll do with friends and family over holidays, even about what I'll do over the weekend. And of course I dream about who I'll marry and what he'll be like.
But the most beautiful dreams we can have are not those we make up for ourselves. The incredible truth is that God dreams about me. The Bible says that before I was even born, God was thinking about me.
"Lord, you have examined me and know all about me. You know when I sit down and when I get up. You know my thoughts before I think them ... You made my whole being; you formed me in my mother's body ... you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old. God, your thoughts are precious to me. They are so many! If I could count them, they would be more than all the grains of sand. When I wake up, I am still with you." -Psalm 139:1, 2, 13, 16-18 NCV
Psalm 139 is one of my favorite passages in the Bible. It amazes me to think that God knows everything about me, that He knows everything I do, and that He was dreaming and planning for me before I was even born. It's easy for us to forget how deeply and personally God loves us. Of course there are general things that He dreams of for everyone, like knowing Him and being holy-but did you ever think about what God dreams for you personally? Why did He make you exactly the way you are? Why do you love piano or comedies or books? Why are you shy or talkative or funny? Did you ever think that God might have made you that way for a reason-that who you are and the way you are is part of the dreams He has for your life?
What do you think God enjoys about you? ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________
As a single woman, you can only wonder about the man you will someday marry. But God knows exactly who he is. He designed everything about him, from his hair color to the smallest quirks of his character. God knows exactly what challenges you will face in your life together, every romantic moment you'll enjoy together and every fight you'll struggle through. Just think how amazing our dreams would be if instead of making them up for ourselves, we asked God to give us a glimpse of His dreams for us. Those dreams have all the benefit of being true and all the certainty of being fulfilled.
What dreams do you believe God has given you for your marriage? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ What is the hardest part about waiting for these dreams to be fulfilled? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________
Many women find it hard to believe that the dream God has planned for them is so much more exciting than anything the world has to offer or what they could dream for themselves.
The dreams that God has for all of us are perfect! They're a perfect blend of how He designed us, and the role He has for us in His kingdom. They're the combination of everything that we are and everything that we have to offer to Him and to each other. When we follow His dreams for our lives, we truly live in hope and expectation. We can't even guess what adventures He has waiting for us just around the corner. We don't have to live with fear or regrets because we know that He is always taking care of us, and He can use even our mistakes to further the dream He has for us. When we pursue God's dreams for us, then we can truly live life to the fullest!
"A thief comes to steal and kill and destroy, but I came to give life-life in all its fullness." -John 10:10 NCV
As we learn to envision the dream God has for us, we can rise above the empty dreams that the world offers us. Instead of getting caught up in a lie, we can live freely in the truth of who God created us to be and all that He calls us to do. We no longer have to be afraid that our dreams will never be fulfilled because we know that they're safe in our Father's keeping.
Great Love Stories: Isaac and Rebekah
Abraham spent most of his life dreaming of being a father. When he and his wife were still a relatively young couple, God had promised him a son-and not just any son, either. God also promised Abraham that he would father a nation, God's own chosen people. It took God a long time to fulfill His promise, but at last Isaac-Abraham's son of promise-was born. Now, however, Abraham had other problems. He had a son, but he couldn't become the father of a nation until that son got married. And how could Isaac's children grow up to be God's chosen nation if Isaac married an ungodly, unbelieving, Canaanite woman from the land where Abraham and his family were living now? Abraham could think of only one solution-he had to find a wife for Isaac from his own people, back in his hometown.
As was the custom in those days, Abraham sent a servant to find a girl and arrange the marriage. It was a pretty easy arrangement for Isaac-all he had to do was sit and wait for his bride to come along. The hard part of this task was put on the servant. However, it was an easy task for God.
The Story: Read Genesis 24:10-67.
How would you feel if a stranger told you that God had chosen you to be the wife of a man you'd never met? scared excited nervous surprised happy doubtful shocked special worried uncertain accepting other: _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________
We don't usually imagine arranged marriages as very romantic. But I think this is one of the most beautiful and passionate pictures in the entire Bible: the moment when Isaac looks up from his evening prayers and sees his future wife coming to meet him for the first time. Neither of them really understands it yet, but they have truly been chosen and created for each other. The story of how the servant finds Rebekah makes it clear: God chose this woman for Isaac's wife long before she ever dreamed of him.
I wonder what Rebekah was thinking as she listened to the servant relate the story of his commission from Abraham and his prayer to God. How must she have felt as she realized that God had chosen her to be the wife of a man she'd never even heard of? Think of the courage it took for her to accept God's dream for her, to leave her family and home-perhaps never to see them again-for the unknown adventure ahead of her.
We like to think of dreams as our own, the fulfillment of what we want for ourselves. But the greatest dream and the greatest adventure is the one we experience when we get caught up in the dream that God planned for us before we were even born. His dreams are so big that we can never entirely understand them, but we're still called to play a part in them. That's the dream that Rebekah was realizing as she climbed on a camel for a ride across the desert into an unknown future. That's the dream that I want to long for. That's the dream we can be certain will come true.
Do you pray for your future husband? What do you pray for him? _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________
What is the hardest part for you about trusting God's dreams for your future? _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________
Quiz: Are You a Dreamer?
How much do you dream about the future? Are you so caught up in your own dreams that it's hard to listen to God's ideas? Or are you so down-to-earth and realistic that it's hard for you to imagine the adventures God has for you?
1. What do you want to be when you grow up?
a. Rich, famous, successful, godly, and happy
b. The best at something I love
c. Just happy
d. Do I have to grow up?
2. What do you most look forward to right now?
a. Growing up, getting married, having a job and a family I love
b. Graduating from college and entering "the real world"
c. Finishing my next test
d. The weekend!
3. How much time do you spend daydreaming?
a. I'm very focused on the here and now.
b. I daydream right before I fall asleep at night.
c. My friends and I are always talking about our dreams and plans.
d. What did you say? I wasn't paying attention.
4. What aspect of your future husband do you think about the most?
a. The way he will look
b. The way he will treat me
c. The way I'll treat him
d. I've never thought about it.
5. How much of your wedding do you have planned?
a. I've never given it a second thought.
b. I noticed a couple of good ideas at my cousin's wedding.
c. I've figured out just about everything, except the groom!
d. I've planned the whole thing, and I even made a mix of romantic tunes for the wedding night.
Letter to My Future Spouse
As I'm dreaming of you, I know that God has given me desires and dreams that will someday be fulfilled in you. I am dreaming and praying for you that ... ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________
I am trusting God for you by ... ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________
Excerpted from WAIT FOR ME Study Guide by Rebecca St. James Copyright © 2007 by Rebecca St. James. Excerpted by permission.
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