Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage

Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage

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by Laurie Watson
     
 

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“I never want to have sex again.”

If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire

Overview

“I never want to have sex again.”

If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel.

Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions. Her strategies will:

•Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people’s bedrooms
•Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes—from marriage to motherhood to menopause
•Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire—stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more
•Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again

Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again.  

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
For someone who pegs wedding cake as a kind of anti-aphrodisiac, sex therapist and Psychology Today blogger Watson is surprisingly optimistic—most sexless marriages, she asserts, “can be saved.” Always frank, Watson begins by debunking the common fear that one’s sex life is unusual, or that a marriage’s problems are unique; the loss of libido after “I do” is not an unusual problem, she argues, but in order to address it, both partners will need to put in a lot of effort, time, and honest communication. In broad strokes, Watson discusses individual and marital circumstances that can affect one’s sex drive—such as hormonal changes and having kids—while offering more detailed advice and practical bedroom tips. She tackles the “lusive” female orgasm, discusses how to negotiate expectations regarding foreplay, and explores how erotica, sex toys, and masturbation can be used to revivify one’s libido and bring a partner back into physical intimacy. She also delves into possible personal hangups, such as childhood misconceptions regarding sex and the difficulty of recovering from an affair. Though aimed at the fairer sex, men and women alike will find plenty of guidance in this compendium of expert advice and case studies. Agent: Stephany Evans, FinePrint Literary Management. (Dec.)
From the Publisher
“For married couples facing dilemmas of desire, Laurie Watson offers a blueprint for growing more personally conscious, trusting each other more, and reconnecting with the realm of sensual and sexual pleasure.”—Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT, author of The Return of Desire: Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion

 

"I have read many books on this common problem. Rarely does one come along that's as good as Wanting Sex Again. This book is beyond helpful. It works on so many different levels that I would recommend it for anyone in a long term relationship whether they are having desire problems or not. I can't recommend it highly enough." —Paul Joannides, PsyD, author of Guide to Getting It On

 “This book challenges women to not passively accept low desire but rather to identify possible barriers preventing them from experiencing their innate femininity with all its mysterious pleasure.”  —Deborah C. Neel, PhD, Licensed Psychologist/Certified Sex Therapist

“Low libido is a difficult, bedeviling problem for many women and couples. Laurie Watson has helped many women recover lost libido, and her book will help many more. Two thumbs up!”—Michael Castleman, author of Great Sex

“Laurie Watson has a gift for relating to women.” —Julie R. McQueen, CHES, Oncology Patient Navigator, Duke Cancer Center, Raleigh

“A valuable therapeutic resource…” —Carol Casper Figuers, PT, EdD, Associate Professor, Doctor of Physical Therapy Division, Department of Community and Family Medicine, Duke University School of Medicine

“Laurie Watson has a wonderful method… Her warmth, caring and passion for what she does really shines through.” —Ingrid Harm-Ernandes PT, WCS, BCIA-PMDB, Orthopedic/Women’s Health Specialties, Duke Hospital

“This insightful book is a compass that guides women back to their lost libido. Laurie’s message, rich in experience, inspires us to reconnect with our partners and ourselves.”—Polly Watson, MD, FACOG, NCMP, Boylen Healthcare, Raleigh

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780425257142
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
12/04/2012
Pages:
384
Sales rank:
275,251
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 1.10(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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From the Publisher
“For married couples facing dilemmas of desire, Laurie Watson offers a blueprint for growing more personally conscious, trusting each other more, and reconnecting with the realm of sensual and sexual pleasure.”—Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT, author of The Return of Desire: Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion

"I have read many books on this common problem. Rarely does one come along that's as good as Wanting Sex Again. This book is beyond helpful. It works on so many different levels that I would recommend it for anyone in a long term relationship whether they are having desire problems or not. I can't recommend it highly enough." —Paul Joannides, PsyD, author of Guide to Getting It On

“This book challenges women to not passively accept low desire but rather to identify possible barriers preventing them from experiencing their innate femininity with all its mysterious pleasure.” —Deborah C. Neel, PhD, Licensed Psychologist/Certified Sex Therapist

“Low libido is a difficult, bedeviling problem for many women and couples. Laurie Watson has helped many women recover lost libido, and her book will help many more. Two thumbs up!”—Michael Castleman, author of Great Sex

“Laurie Watson has a gift for relating to women.” —Julie R. McQueen, CHES, Oncology Patient Navigator, Duke Cancer Center, Raleigh

“A valuable therapeutic resource…” —Carol Casper Figuers, PT, EdD, Associate Professor, Doctor of Physical Therapy Division, Department of Community and Family Medicine, Duke University School of Medicine

“Laurie Watson has a wonderful method… Her warmth, caring and passion for what she does really shines through.” —Ingrid Harm-Ernandes PT, WCS, BCIA-PMDB, Orthopedic/Women’s Health Specialties, Duke Hospital

“This insightful book is a compass that guides women back to their lost libido. Laurie’s message, rich in experience, inspires us to reconnect with our partners and ourselves.”—Polly Watson, MD, FACOG, NCMP, Boylen Healthcare, Raleigh

Meet the Author

Laurie Watson is a sex therapist certified by the American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and a licensed couple’s therapist. She writes the “Married and Still Doing It” blog in Psychology Today’s online magazine, and frequently lectures at Duke University Medical School, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and East Carolina University. 

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Wanting Sex Again: How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage 3.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 11 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book reads like one of my therapy sessions. I'm curious to know if others seriously understood what they were purchasing. The short description given before you decide to purchase is completly misrepresentive of the book. I purchased this book so I could overcome my fear of making love with my husband again. This book does not and did not help me, it was a total waste of money, infact not only do I think I deserve a refund, but I think the author, publishing company, someone should be paying us to read this misguided self-help book. I hope that the author chooses not to grace the bookshelves with a sequel!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Laurie Watson is an incredible writer. Her book is factual and interesting, and the cases that she uses gives a lot of insight into the problems that people face in marriage. I couldn't put the book down, and read through it in just 2 days. Even if you have no problems in your marriage, reading this will encourage you to cherish your own marriage. If you do have problems her no nonsense approach to solving problems will give you direction to work to solve any issues.
Brittany_nikki_ More than 1 year ago
Laurie's writing tells personal stories of her clinical work. Unlike other works of literature in sex psychology, she writes with a very personal demeanor and not clinical at all. Her characters are interesting and the book is written in a way that could be personally attributed to myself. I would recommend this to anyone, with or without sexual intimacy problems. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book is so helpful! The author makes the realities of marriage and sex understandable and she gives you hope that things can not only get better but be great. This book helped me understand the pursuer and distancer dance in marriages. There are great exercises at the end of each chapter. I like the subtitles for easy referencing and stopping points. I wish I had this book years ago and I wish more couples would read this early in their marriages.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I was very disappointed in the book all it was talking about was therapy sessions with her patients very unrealistic and boring not much of a self help book. rating 1
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