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From the Trade Paperback edition.
“A good read for both parents and children…I would recommend this book to adults raising small children so they can immediately start to build security into their family interactions. I would hope parents of older teens would purchase several copies so all can read The We Generation at the same time and discuss it.”
Tuscon Citizen, “Shelf Life” blog, 10/11
“By sharing the inspiring stories of his work with families, Dr. Ungar…offers a plan of how to raise more engaged, community-minded kids during this era of self-centered obsession…This is a well-crafted book filled with sane advice.”
“A good deal of what Ungar urges is plain and simple unselfishness and cooperation, which are certainly worthy goals…The basic idea here—and it is a good one—is to avoid providing children so much that asks nothing of them that they become focused entirely on themselves…Parents who share Ungar’s worldview will surely find The We Generation uplifting.”
ForeWord, November/December 2009
“Offers effective suggestions on how to prepare children to become compassionate by engaging in simple acts of kindness…[A] helpful guidebook…A useful addition to the list of parental handbooks.”
Internet Review of Books, December 2009
“Plenty of practical tips…[A] well-researched book, so it will appeal to a wide range of parents.”
Mama’s Musings blog, 1/29/10
“[Ungar] turns a hopeful eye to the next generation who are more aware of social, economic and environmental issues than their parents…Michael Ungar’s book is like a prosey hug. He clearly walks his talk with an authentic voice, one by which we would do well to abide.”
Plymouth Magazine, February 2010
“For those seriously interested in raising socially-conscious kids, this book is a must read. Not only does the author do a fabulous job of exploring the causes of ‘me’ thinking versus ‘we’ thinking, but he also gives parents simple ideas to help kids become active members of their home, church, school and community, making an impact in everything they do. Find fantastic techniques to try with children as young as preschool all the way through young adulthood.”
Costa MesaDaily Pilot, 7/25/10
“Written in the spirit of helping parents foster their offspring to be less self-involved and more consciously compassionate people...This is a hopeful appeal to parents who want to improve the next generation's awareness of social, economical and environmental issues.”
Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, August 2010
“Teach[es] parents how to help their children become mindful of others…Ungar thoughtfully focuses on the importance of parent modeling…To draw in the audience, Ungar artfully weaves small vignettes throughout the text to showcase specific points…He offers unusual and insightful recommendations…An eye-opening read of how to approach the younger generation in a manner that shies away from being judgmental and accusatory. Instead, this book offers the reader some inspiring real-life examples of how the approach of accountability and responsibility can work to increase mindfulness…I would highly recommend this book to any parent, teacher, mentor, or community leader…[It] provides a fresh perspective on how to increase the investment our society’s future young leaders have in themselves and in the world around them.”
Contexts, Winter 2011 “Ungar’s critique of the isolating features of affluent suburbia is biting and apropos.”
ON-LINE BUT IN NEED OF TOUCH
Say the phrase “connected kids” and most parents think about an Internet generation of MSN-chatting, online-gaming, text-messaging, and YouTube-surfing young people. They think of children sequestered in their bedrooms surrounded by technology, hardly wanting to break for dinner. This book is about a different kind of connected child.
Despite appearances to the contrary, our kids still crave old-fashioned flesh-and-blood connections with their parents, and with lots of other adults in their communities besides. They have a need to feel close to those who populate the “village” that raises them. But our children, whether they are five years old or fifteen, need parents most.
One parent or two, step-parents, or a caring grandparent who takes over when necessary — it doesn’t really matter who’s doing the parenting as long as it includes modelling the compassion that nurtures children’s own caring instincts. When we show children compassion, the odds are that they will grow up giving a damn about others, and caring about people in their families and communities as much as they care about themselves. They’ll become a We Generation.
Raising children to think We might just help us rethink some of our own Me-thinking ways. Afer all, many of us grew up in Me-thinking times. We feel guilty about driving huge gas-guzzling vehicles, but keep driving them to get our children safely to school or hockey practice. We try to forget the impact our actions have on the environment, while our children in the back seat report what their teacher said about global warming and our environmental “footprint.” We don’t mean to segregate our communities, but choose to live in gated communities just the same. We blush with embarrassment when our children finally notice that the poor people have been pushed away. We mumble something about “That’s just the way it is,” or make a donation to the food bank, but we are shy to say anything about how our choices are part of the problem. We want our children to have access to every available medical and social service imaginable, but we look for ways to avoid paying our taxes, hoping someone else will foot the bill. We don’t mean to be so self-centred, but as individual adults, we haven’t shown much inclination to take responsibility for the fiscal, environmental, or social liabilities we are leaving our children. It is a small step from such selfishness to the actions of the parent who excuses her son’s belligerent behaviour when his principal calls home.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Introduction The We Generation 1
Ch. 1 Parents Matter 23
Ch. 2 Connected Kids 51
Ch. 3 Adult Mirrors, Adult Mentors 75
Ch. 4 Please Touch 103
Ch. 5 The Best and Worst of Connections 133
Ch. 6 An Invitation to Responsibility 163
Ch. 7 Monster Homes Make Monstrous Children 183
Ch. 8 Village People 217
Conclusion: We-Thinkers 245
Appendix Answer Key to "How Connected Are Your Kids?" 263
Posted October 10, 2011
This book will make you think about the the values with which you were raised and about what you have deliberately (or unconsciously!) told your own children. I shared it with my adult son and we have had many a spirited discussion, using the chapters as a guide for initial concepts... If you are rigid, this will be uncomfortable, but still productive. I am very glad I bought it!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.