We Get It: Voices of Grieving College Students and Young Adults

by Heather L. Servaty-Seib, David Fajgenbaum

Overview

Silver Medal Winner in the Grief/Grieving category of the 2015 Foreword Reviews' INDIEFAB Book of the Year Awards

A unique collection of 33 narratives by bereaved students and young adults, this books aims to help young adults who are grieving and provide guidance for those who seek to support them.

Grieving the death of a loved one is difficult at any age, but it can be particularly difficult during college and young adulthood. From developing a sense of identity to living away from family and adjusting to life on and off campus, college students and young adults face a unique set of issues. These issues often make it difficult for young adults to talk about their loss, leading to a sense of isolation, different-ness and a pressure to pretend that everything is OK. The narratives included in this book are honest, engaging and heartfelt, and they help other students and young people know that they are not alone and that there are others who 'get' what they are going through. The narratives are usefully divided by themes, such as isolation, forced maturity and life transition challenges, and include commentary by the authors on grief responses and coping strategies. Each section also ends with helpful questions for reflection.

Inspired by the experiences of Dr. Fajgenbaum losing his mother during college and Dr. Servaty-Seib dedicating her career to college student bereavement, this book will be a lifeline for students and young adults who have lost a loved one. It will also be of immeasurable value to counselors, college administrators, grief professionals and parents.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781849057523
Publisher:	Kingsley, Jessica Publishers
Publication date:	06/21/2015
Edition description:	New Edition
Pages:	208
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Heather L. Servaty-Seib, Ph.D., is a counseling psychologist. She is currently a professor on the Counseling Psychology Doctoral Program in the Department of Educational Studies at Purdue University, US. Dr. Servaty-Seib also maintains a small, grief-focused private practice. She is well-published in the areas of adolescent and young adult grief, social support and grief, and she is a past president of the Association for Death Education and Counseling. Much of her recent scholarship has been focused in the area of student bereavement, with articles published in both The Counselling Psychologist and Death Studies. Dr. Servaty-Seib was heavily involved in implementing a bereavement leave policy for students at Purdue University, an effort which has set a precedent for other campuses. She lives in Lafayette, IN.

David C. Fajgenbaum, M.D., MSc, is an Adjunct Assistant Professor of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania and the co-founder of the National Students of AMF Support Network, a non-profit organisation dedicated to supporting college students grieving the illness or death of a loved one. Dr. Fajgenbaum co-founded the organization in 2006 in memory of his mother, Anne Marie Fajgenbaum (AMF). The organization is now a national movement that has supported 3,000+ students on 200+ campuses and raised national awareness about college student grief. David has been profiled on Forbes Magazine's 30 Under 30 list, the Today Show, Reader's Digest, and 40 million bags of Doritos. AMF now stands for "Actively Moving Forward." David received his BS from Georgetown University, his MSc in Public Health from Oxford University, his MD from the University of Pennsylvania, and his MBA from The Wharton School of Business. Dr. Fajgenbaum lives in Philadelphia, PA.

Table of Contents

Introduction 9

Chapter 1 Feeling Alone 17

Chapter 2 Continuing Connection, Memorialization, and Active Grief and Coping 33

Chapter 3 Forced Maturity 57

Chapter 4 Importance of Connecting with Grieving Peers 66

Chapter 5 Disconnection of Grief Expectations 81

Chapter 6 Life Transition Challenges 93

Chapter 7 Existential Questions about Self and Future 109

Chapter 8 Importance of Connecting with a Mentor 121

Chapter 9 Life Lessons Learned 130

Chapter 10 Powerful and/or Challenging Grief Reactions 143

Chapter 11 Importance of a Community of Support 153

Chapter 12 Changing Family Relationships 161

Chapter 13 Tips for Grieving College Students and Young Adults 170

Chapter 14 Tips for Supporting Grieving College Students and Young Adults 180

Appendix: Author Background Information 201

References 206

Editorial Reviews

Whether you're a counselor, parent, or grieving college student, the 33 stories shared here will provide insight into some of the commonalities and differences young adults experience after the death of a parent or sibling, as well as tips on how to be helpful. Their journeys of struggle and healing offer wisdom and hope.

Donna L. Schuurman

This book is important. It brings to life in clear, plain English stories of young adults who have coped with the death(s) of persons they love. Heather and David get it. They understand what coping with loss entails for a college student. They make the myriad experiences of young adults dealing with bereavement come alive for all of us. The stories told by grieving young adults illustrate clearly several important themes that scholars have uncovered about bereavement. Heather and David's mastery of what they know will help others to get what the bereaved college student knows.

David E. Balk

I see We Get It as a much needed tool for those who work with college students on a daily basis. College student personnel such as clinicians, residential life staff, Dean of Student staff, and faculty and administrators could truly benefit from reading about the themes noted-and even more powerfully from the students' stories. The range of student experience covered through the first-person and beautifully honest narratives allows for a deeper level of understanding and perspective-taking, providing a unique insight into how best to support grieving students.

Philip M. Meilman