We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Loveby Robert A. Johnson
Provides an illuminating explanation of the origins and meaning of romantic love and shows how a proper understanding of its psychological dynamics can revitalize our most important relationships.
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The third of Robert A. Johnson's books. My favorite being his books on dreams. This book clearly explains our false notion of romantic love and how we should be searching for wholeness of our own psyche rather than expecting another human being to complete us. Transformational for me.
There is a reason We is a classic. I couldn’t put this book down while I read it and I have been recommending it to friends since finishing it. For those searching for happiness with another, “We” is helpful because it is accessible, powerful, and enlightening. Since reading We, my husband and I have worked to ground our marriage with what Johnson calls: “stirring the oatmeal”… an expression I love! By removing our projections of the perfect partner and consciously appreciating the other’s flaws, we remember that authentic love is humble and long lasting, like oatmeal. It’s so much better than the instant gratification of cereal and milk, which leaves you hungry way before lunch! But really, there is so much Johnson helps you see about our culture that makes it so hard to love! He claims that romantic love is an “unholy muddle of two holy loves” and says that “by some trick of psychological evolution our culture has muddled the two loves in a potion of romantic love and has nearly lost them both.” Johnson has a trademark writing style, which can also be found in his books titled He and She. In We, he uses the ancient, mythological narrative of two lovers, Tristan and Iseult, to explore the origins of romantic love and what it is, how it has infiltrated our Western psyche and affects our relationships with ourselves and others, and what we should do about it. The author is also a renowned Jungian analyst, which is incorporated into his examination of the subconscious and how relationships deteriorate into egotism. I really liked We, and I hope you will too. The only issues I had was that it focused on the male psychology a bit more than female in the relationship. For more reading on this subject, I would recommend: Ehrich Neumann’s Amor and Psyche, which is a classic examination of the role love plays in female psychology and Impossible Love or Why the Heart Must Go Wrong by Jan Bauer.
This book clearly explains projection and the historical roots of romantic love as it has evolved in current culture. What an eye opener!!
I am not a phsychologist, but want to know life like one. This book is a door to that self-knowledge. An excellent, simple, yet profound text. Not for one looking for surface reading. A true life-changing book!