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Praise for The Wedding Ceremony Planner
"Weddings are sacred acts surrounded by material hoopla. The Wedding Ceremony Planner clarifies the worldly issues but keeps the spirit central. It's the balance that every couple needs."
-Marianne Williamson, author, The Gift of Change
"With countless samples of ceremony segments and worksheets to put them all together, The Wedding Ceremony Planner affirms what we all hope for: to communicate our love in a clear, heartfelt manner that truly reflects who we are."
-Jack Canfield, co-author, Chicken Soup for the Bride's Soul®
"In this time of increasing exchange and friendship between people of many cultures ... what the world needs is an intelligent and compassionate 'how to' book on performing interfaith ceremonies. This book is an excellent example."
-The Very Reverend James Parks Morton Founder and President of the Interfaith Center of New York
"[This book] was [wonderful] in helping us create our wedding ceremony. Not only was it easy to follow, but it made us think of things we never would have thought of on our own ... Going through the book also brought us closer ... it is the one thing we have sat down and done 100% together."
-Jennifer Buehler and Frank Yanoti Jr., Bride and Groom
"Planning the wedding ceremony in itself can be a process of discovery for a couple entering marriage ... this marvelous book ... help[s] couples design a ceremony that truly and personally characterizes the meaning and uniqueness of each union."
-Pril Smiley, Mohonk Mountain House
"This book will aid and guide the couple in the creation of their unique wedding ceremony that appropriately states their personal beliefs. How refreshing, how important, how appropriate to help make the wedding yours."
-Alexandra Stoddard, author of Choosing Happiness
The wedding ritual is the ceremonial container for the celebration of a couple's love and their decision to journey through their lives together. To assist those of you who are embarking on the adventure of designing your own wedding ceremony, this section of the book contains collections of passages to be used for each of the traditional ceremonial components. You are encouraged to trust your own instincts as you read through the choices, choosing those elements that are right for you. The worksheet entitled "Designing the Ceremony Text" can be a helpful tool in collecting those passages that speak to you as you create a very rough first draft. Using the sample provided on page 23 as a guide, begin with the blank form provided for you on page 291. Just hold up the mirror of yourselves to the passages included here and you will find the ones that ring true for you. Feel free to find sentiments in one section that you would like to use in another, or to change or eliminate words or phrases, or use only a sentence or two from here or there. With the exception of rewriting poetry, give yourself lots of editorial license.
As with any well-constructed ritual, a wedding ceremony has a certain flow and order to it that leads up to the sacred moment of the exchange of vows and rings and the pronouncement that the bride and groom are now wife and husband. The format that is presented in this section provides a sequencing of components that allows for flow and order, yet customizing of the ceremony to your own taste.
It's a good idea to start with a rough draft and allow yourselves to explore various ideas without being concerned about what will make it into the final version. Like filling your plates at a smorgasbord, just gather all those items that appeal to you-discernment will follow. This more relaxed approach fosters greater creativity and the opportunity to consider the various components of the ceremony over time. It also allows you to more carefully consider and negotiate your way with passages that one of you likes and the other does not.
You may feel a bit overwhelmed by the volume of text choices. However, you are likely to find that the process of elimination goes much faster than anticipated and you will be able to come up with a rough draft in several hours. At this point, you may not have chosen readings and, if you are planning to write your own vows, you may want to do so after the first draft is written. Then you can work with the draft, giving careful consideration to the specific wordings, sequencing, and adding or deleting words and sections until it is just what you want. If the officiant is actively working with you on the ceremony text, it is helpful if you set specific deadlines for completing the text well in advance of the ceremony. Of course, there is not always that much time or the luxury of meeting in person, in which case you and the officiant can customize your process to your circumstances. Most of the couples I work with prefer to send email drafts back and forth until the text is complete.
I always give each couple a copy of their finalized wedding ceremony. This way, when guests want copies of certain passages, the bride and groom can easily provide them. And, many couples like to keep their ceremony among their wedding day keepsakes. On their anniversary, or anytime, some rededicate themselves to their vows, perform the candle ceremony together, or quietly re-read their ceremony together. It is a loving reminder of the foundation they have laid for their marriage.
Designing the Ceremony Text Worksheet
1. Create a rough draft. Use the sample text elements that have been included in this book and any others that you have gathered for inclusion in your ceremony. List all items in the order in which you would like them to occur. If you only want a segment of a sample item or want to change the wording, make note of that here as well. Remember, this is just a rough draft. So, don't be too concerned about editing at this point. Just focus on gathering those elements that speak to you, at least in part. At this stage, you are likely to select more passages than will appear in your final ceremony text.
Opening Prayer: OP2 Page XX
Gathering Words: GW3, lines 1-12 Page XX
GW5 Page XX
Remembrance/Acknowledgment: RA3, lines 1-3 Page XX
Names to be included: maternal grandparents _____ and _____ _____
Readings and Songs: Selection Author Reader/Singer
Declaration of Support: DS3 Page XX
Marriage Address: MA2 Page XX
Sacred Rituals: WC Page XX
Vows: To be written later
Officiant Prelude: PRE8&9 Page XX
Couple: RE1 Page XX
Final Blessing: FB3 Page XX
2. Identify any additional elements you would like to include in your ceremony such as religious or family traditions and note where they will occur:
3. Once you have created a rough draft according to your directions above, begin the editing and fine tuning process. Be sure to read the text aloud to be sure that it flows smoothly and isn't too long or short for what you want. Set a specific deadline for completion of the ceremony text well in advance of the ceremony.
Chapter 1 Setting the Tone for Your Wedding
What is a Spiritual Wedding?
Your Dream Wedding
Remember to Take Charge
Choosing an Officiant
A Personal Perspective
Chapter 2 Deciding Who the Participants Will Be
What to Consider in Designing the Ceremony
The Guest List
The Wedding Party
Chapter 3 Planning the Ceremony Location
Finding Your Wedding Ceremony Location
Identifying Your Needs and Desires
Researching Possible Sites
Optimizing Your Ceremony's Location
Balance and Fit
Special Considerations for Outdoor Weddings
Easily Accessible and User-Friendly
Factors to Consider in Designing the Ceremony Site
Ceremony Site Layout Worksheet--Sample
The Wedding Party
Chapter 4 Special Considerations
"Handle With Care" Relationships
Who Does What, When, Where, Why, and How
Wedding Day Information Sheet--Sample
Just Before the Ceremony Checklist--Sample
The Wedding Program
The Wedding Rehearsal
The Wedding Rehearsal Checklist--Sample
A Note About Ushers
Part Two: Designing Your Ceremony
Chapter 5 The Ceremony Text
Designing the Ceremony Worksheet--Sample
In the Beginning
The Seating of the Guests
Processional Cues and Sequencing Worksheet--Sample
Remembrances and Acknowledgments
In the Middle
Readings and Songs
Charge for the Couple
The Declaration of Support
Tree Planting Ceremony
In the End
Prelude by the Officiant
Ring Exchange by the Couple
Final Blessing and Pronouncement
Recessional Cues and Sequencing Worksheet--Sample
Chapter 6 Incorporating Personal Beliefs and Circumstances
For a Smaller Wedding
The Friendship Circle
When Your Ceremony Involves Children
Incorporating Religious Traditions
Jewish Wedding Rituals
Explanation of Jewish Traditions
Blessing and Drinking the Wine
The Seven Blessings
Prayers from the Old Testament
Incorporating Ethnic Traditions
Greek Crowning Ceremony and Common Cup
The Polish Ritual of Symbolic Gifts
The Wrapping of the Mantilla
Part Three: Putting It All Together
Chapter 7 Sample Ceremonies
Ceremony One: Spiritual and Heartfelt
Ceremony Two: Short and Sophisticated
Ceremony Three: Incorporating Your Story
Ceremony Four: Inspired by Nature
Ceremony Five: Short, Spontaneous, and Intimate
Ceremony Six: A Marriage with Children
Ceremony Seven: Nondenominational Christian with Scriptural Readings
Ceremony Eight: Joyful Family Togetherness
A Note About Commitment Ceremonies
Ceremony Nine: A Heartfelt Commitment Ceremony
Ceremony Ten: Renewal of Marriage Vows
Chapter 8 Checklists and Worksheets
Ceremony Site Layout Worksheet
Wedding Day Information Sheet
Just Before the Ceremony Checklist
Wedding Rehearsal Checklist
Designing the Ceremony Text Worksheet
Processional Cues and Sequencing Worksheet
Recessional Cues and Sequencing Worksheet
A Note to Officiants
A Final Thought
Posted March 23, 2010
My fiance and I were trying to work on our ceremony at a local Barnes & Noble and I decided to browse through the wedding section. We consider ourselves lucky to have found this book! It proved to be an invaluable resource to help us create our wedding ceremony. It is a very organized, laying out different aspects of a ceremony. Worksheets were provided including a ceremony script outline, rehearsal checklist and day of checklist. Several aspects for a wedding ceremony are described and how to implement them for your own ceremony. There are numerous examples for the different sections of your ceremony including the gathering words, sand/tree ceremony, vows, final blessings, cultural traditions, religious readings etc. We used examples from the book along with suggestions from our officiant. Our vows were taken from two of the vow examples in the book as well. If you are not following a specific religion's ceremony script then I highly recommend checking out this book to help you create your personalized ceremony script. (Married 13 March 2010)
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Posted May 7, 2010
being type-A, we bought 7 planning books and put sticky pads and notes in all of them. However, we soon found that this book was the only one we kept referring to.
It's very well structured -- giving you choices for each part of the ceremony. Judith Johnson is a gifted writer and, in the end, it's her writing that sets this book apart from all the others.
She made our wedding truly special and very personalized. Many many people have told us that it was the sweetest and most beautiful wedding they'd ever been to, and we give this book much of the credit for it.
If you're only going to buy one book, buy this one.
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Posted August 10, 2008
This book is a must have for couples who are trying to plan their own wedding but are not sure where to start or what order things are done in. It includes the what, when, where, how and why. There are ideas for your wedding, checklists so you are able to make sure everything has gotten done without worrying about it. This will also prepare you for meeting with your wedding officiant and will help you answer the questions he or she will ask you. Also, if you know the answer to some of the topics in this book you will be better prepared for picking the proper location for you wedding. If you know all the aspects you wish to include in your wedding you will be able to book the appropriate location that will allow you to do what you are looking to do. For example, including a unity candle or wine ceremony or certain types of religious ceremonies. There are also several examples of prayers, vows and ring exchanges to help get you started. If you plan on buying any books to help plan your wedding this one should be your first choice. As a wedding officiant I would recommend this book to couples and other officiants as well.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 26, 2008
Since I got engaged, I have received many 'hand me down' wedding planning books from my friends. These books although fun to read never provided me any information on the entire ceremony. This book does just that! I love it, and my fiance and I were able to put together our entire ceremony with the guidance of this book. If you are writing your ceremony, this is the only book to use!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 14, 2008
We are in the midst of creating and customizing our upcoming wedding ceremony, which has given us mixed emotions. Although we proudly and happily decided to go the non-denominational route, we are waving through the challenges it has posed, coming from a very traditional religious family. Reading this book has helped support and affirm our choice to pave our own spiritual path that is true to our beliefs. Of course the checklists and multiple ceremony passage examples are also extremely helpful-- they are providing us the scaffolding to begin putting together a ceremony that we can truly call our own.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 9, 2006
My fiancee and I eloped and had no idea what that entailed. Although it was just the two of us, we really wanted to make our day special. We hadn't realized how important it was to be able to personally choose the passages we wanted read at our ceremony. We hadn't given it much thought until we bought this book and knew that we wanted to customize our ceremony for our needs. Reverend Johnson's book helped us create a ceremony that was meaningful, lovely and memorable. This book is essential for ANYONE getting married - no matter how traditional or atypical your ceremony is. As the title says - it is the most important part of your wedding day. 'The Wedding Ceremony Planner' helped us tremendously.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted April 7, 2006
As clergy I find this book is an excellent resourse. After the first meeting, I give the couple a copy of this book to take home. The many options, the many ideas allow them to personalize their service. As well the language is beautiful, the spiritual images are lovely. I enjoy speaking the prayers.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 16, 2006
This is an excellent resource for clergy and couples. It is well organized, beautifully written and replete with lovely spiritual vows, prayers, rituals, ceremonies and ideas. As a minister who performs many weddings, I will be recommending this book to all my future clients.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 23, 2005
The Wedding Ceremony Planner, by Judith Johnson, is a wonderful, comprehensive, book that made it easy for us to plan a meaninful and beautiful wedding ceremony. As an older couple, we were fumbling for the words we needed and this book let us find the way.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted June 4, 2005
I found this ceremony planner to be more useful than any of the internet sites or wedding books that I got a hold of. Rev. Johnson allows the bride and groom to create their own ceremony that refelcts their personal style. There is something for everyone in this book.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
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