From the Publisher
"This powerful book is strongest in its depictions of Goldin's large extended family, some of whom struggled against tradition while others fought to maintain it."—Hadassah
"The strength of Wedding Song, however, is not only in the autobiographical plot, but in the skillful way Goldin weaves the story and its topics together: blood lines, the older generation, the battle for education, the Jewish ghetto, and the final crunch of marriage are all explored in the context of place and time. . . . It is the vividly described ritual and spiritual events that add the most to this memoir. . . . Goldin's prose is clear, intense - practically tangible.”—Jerusalem Post
"Big questions about the role of religion in society and the nature of family loom behind the dark moments of Goldin's memoir, and equally satisfying are the windows into Iranian Jewish culture."—Antioch Review
"A narrative of women's abuse in Iran from her grandmother's generation to her own. . . . During college, Goldin broke with her community and fled to America. Now, in writing this book, she has broken with them once again."
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The first time the khastegaree, the marriage proposal, came for me, I was only twelve years old. I was at the movies with my mother to see an American comedy, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang. Wearing a new brown dress with yellow flowers, I yearned to run and make its flowing skirt twirl, but I knew girls had to be modest and squashed my desire to skip from happiness. As we waited in the newly opened indoor theatre, an old woman in chador approached my mother and whispered something in her ear, while her eyes focused on me.
My mother threw her chin up, indicating a negative answer in the Iranian fashion. 'No,' she said. . . . 'I was married young myself. I don't want my daughter to have the same fate,' my mother said. She gave her refusal finality by turning her back and walking away. Then she looked directly into my eyes. 'I could have given you to them, you know. That's what happened to me.'