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A well-behaved child? Yes, it's possible!

Do you battle with your kids over bedtime? Have fights over food? Are tantrums and conflicts ruling your day? If time-outs have quit working and you find yourself at wit's end, giving in to your kids' demands just to have a moment of peace, know there is hope!

In The Well-Behaved Child, beloved psychologist John Rosemond shares his seven essential tools for raising a child who pays attention and obeys. ...

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A well-behaved child? Yes, it's possible!

Do you battle with your kids over bedtime? Have fights over food? Are tantrums and conflicts ruling your day? If time-outs have quit working and you find yourself at wit's end, giving in to your kids' demands just to have a moment of peace, know there is hope!

In The Well-Behaved Child, beloved psychologist John Rosemond shares his seven essential tools for raising a child who pays attention and obeys. Once you learn how to use his proven, user-friendly techniques, you'll have everything you need to deal effectively with a wide range of discipline problems in children ages three to thirteen, what John terms "The Decade of Discipline." This clear, step-by-step program includes:

  • Seven Fundamentals of Effective Discipline
  • Seven Discipline Tools You Can't Do Without
  • Seven Top Behavior Problems of All Time—Solved!
  • Seven Tales of the Strange and Unexpected

You can raise well-behaved children! In this readable, entertaining "workshop in a book," John shows parents how to use the C-words of commanding communication, compelling consequences, and confirming consistency to create a well-behaved child and a family in which peace replaces hassles. It's not complicated at all, and the best part is, it REALLY works!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780849947155
  • Publisher: Nelson, Thomas, Inc.
  • Publication date: 9/13/2011
  • Pages: 240
  • Sales rank: 206,512
  • Product dimensions: 8.92 (w) x 6.06 (h) x 0.66 (d)

Meet the Author

John Rosemond is a family psychologist, popular speaker, featured guest on major television talk shows, author of thirteen books on parenting issues, and syndicated columnist for more than two hundred newspapers. He and his wife, Willie, have been married more than forty years and havetwo adult children and seven grandchildren.

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  • Posted November 26, 2009

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    The Well-Behaved Child by John Rosemond

    The Well-Behaved Child

    John Rosemond

    This book is about how to raise a well-behaved child. Part of the title says discipline that works. Does this book provide the answers? Can it help you raise a well-behaved child? I have read the book and I say it can lay the ground work to a well-behaved child. It is geared more toward the 2-12 age range, but if you have an older child, I would implement these rules first and proceed from there. In this book are many tried and true ways to have a well-behaved child. One quote I like from the book is "Children like to misbehave..misbehavior is addictive." The child learns they get a reaction from their parents when they misbehave, but they really want to do better.

    This book is about ways to cultivate a well-behaved child. "Punishment is every bit as necessary to raising a well-behaved child as weeding is to growing a successful garden." "A garden cannot weed itself, and children cannot discipline themselves." Parents have to take an active role in the discipline of their children. "Parental yelling is a sign that parents have lost confidence in themselves." This book shows you how to deal effectively with your child and teach them discipline in a loving way. "Effective punishment can only be done out of love."

    I like the way this book is set up and the ways John Rosemond shows you how to have a well-behaved child. It is very straightforward and filled with loving and understanding ways to get through to your child and teach them.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted November 20, 2009

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    The Well-Behaved Child

    I recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" by John Rosemond. In this book the author covers the 7 fundamentals to effective discipline with the understanding that the parent takes his/her role seriously. Mr Rosemond encourages no-nonsense parenting where children do as they are told ad parents are respected.

    I really struggled to get through this book. While I believe that children should be disciplined, I do not believe that this is the way to do it. I found the author to be very intolerant of any other parenting methods while bashing other child experts. I tried implementing one or two of his guidelines, but found that it did more damage than good. I have always tried to look to the Father as my example on how to raise my son. I don't feel that there are any Biblical principles outlined in this book. I wouldn't recommend this book to anyone.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted November 11, 2009

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    The Well-Behaved Child

    The Well-Behaved Child, written by John Rosemond deals with how to discipline our children in a way that actually works. This book is an encouragement to parents and a tool for those on the brink of starting a family. The message that the author gives is one of love, mercy, and consistency. We need to understand that yes, children misbehave, but they also have the capability to be good, well behaved children, when given the right structure.

    I personally felt that this book was a useful tool. The material the author gives helps to enable parents with the tools and resources needed to make a difference in the lives of their children. A highlight for me is the Q & A's that author has though out the book. The questions come from people who are sincerely seeking ways to make things better at home, and the author addresses them in a loving, yet stern way and lets the parent know that their at times needs to be change. But instead of leaving it there, again, the author gives tools to help make the change.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 25, 2009

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    Same ideas with a new twist

    I admit it. I have a 4 year old that is a problem child. She could scare Super Nanny away within 5 minutes! I have searched high and low for a book that would help me get her under control. After reading this book, I am still looking. Every suggestion in this book are ones that I have already tried and have already failed. This book just puts a new spin on the current methods that are already out there. This book would be great for a new parent of an infant to help them have a guide to start with, but since I didn't get to have this book from the beginning, I find myself still searching for the one thing that will work for me. Maybe these techniques can work for your child, so don't be afraid to try this book! Maybe I just have a stubborn child who refuses to listen to her mom!

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 6, 2011

    Highly recommend for all parents

    This book should be required reading for all parents! I found it to be very useful. The discipline techniques coupled with Alpha speech really works. As a mother of 3 young children, our family will be benefiting from this book for years!

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  • Posted February 20, 2010

    Very helpful

    Rosemond uses basic principals and reminds parents they are the boss and can be "mean" but do it with love.

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  • Posted February 5, 2010


    I enjoyed and found this book very helpful. As he father of an eighteen month old boy I have quickly learned that raising a "well-behaved child" is quite the endeavor. John Rosemond takes a very practical approach in giving timeless advice to parents. I appreciate his appreciate to principles of discipline and not just case examples. The illustrations provided necessary tools to help implement the principles. The "Question and Answer Section" at he end of the book alone would make the book worth the purchase.

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  • Posted November 22, 2009

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    The Well-Behaved Child

    The Well-Behaved Child from Thomas Nelson is a book that helps parents learn how to effectively discipline children. In this book "America's most widely read parenting expert" John Rosemond discusses the fundamentals of effective discipline and discipline tools for parents to use. He has a chapter on seven common behavior problems--bedtime battles, food fights (this includes things like children refusing to eat), stealing and lying, sibling warfare, refusing to use the potty, tantrums, and defiance.
    Discipline is one of those issues every parent struggles with at one time or another. In my opinion this author has some good tools for parents to use to get their children to behave. The main point is that the parents need to make the issue, whatever it is, a problem for the child and not let it become a problem for the parent. For example, repeatedly making threats to the child or getting all worked up over their misbehavior isn't giving the child any incentive to stop whatever behavior you want stopped. However, if you give a consequence like sending the child to bed early that night for the behavior with no questions asked, then it gives them a problem. They don't want to go to bed early so then it becomes a problem for them. The author gives examples of parents who have used his methods with success.
    I read this book to count towards my continuing education hours. He made many references to parents and teachers working together to solve behavior issues.
    I was turned off by this book in the first few pages because the author referred to children as "demon spawn of satan." I couldn't believe this when I read this. I would never refer to my child in this way. I have spent time in the classroom and seen a range of children, and I would never classify any child in this way either. I was turned off because of this in the first few pages. Throughout the book the author discredits psychologists and others in the field that they are making incorrect diagnoses for parents regarding children's behavior problems. It seemed to me that he believes his way is the only way and all others are incorrect. I just don't believe this. I'm sure his methods do work; I do not doubt that. It just felt all a bit extreme to me in how he presented it and his attitude that came across to me in his writing.
    This book was easy to read and the stories he used from parents were interesting. This book gave me ideas of things to try in our parenting. I wouldn't tell you to go buy this for yourself though. Read it from the library instead if you are interested.

    0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted October 27, 2009

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    Good Resource For parents

    As a parent of one young child, and another on the way, I think it's important to think about discipline practices and what works and what doesn't. There are so many different views on discipline and parenting, and from my experience not only as a parent, but also a teacher of young children, I think it's very important thing is to let children know what the boundaries are, have consequences and be consistent.

    When I was given the opportunity to review the book by Thomas Nelson Publishers, The Well-Behaved Child by John Rosemond, I wasn't sure what I'd think. I know his thinking is a bit different than my own in some ways, but I do agree that for children to learn from their misbehavior there must be a meaningful consequences in place. In some ways his thoughts may be a bit more extreme than my own, but overall, I think he makes a lot of good points, and this could serve as a resource for parents in many different situations.

    It's a book I'd recommend to parents. I think it offers a lot of good information and gives parents something to think about, and may be apply to their own parenting styles as they see appropriate.

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  • Posted October 17, 2009

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    Amazing Parenting Book!

    There are about a billion parenting books out there, and sometime, I think I've read most of them, but The Well-Behaved Child by John Rosemond is different. First of all, Mr. Rosemond is real...meaning, its not all about getting on the child's level, time out, and using a question at the end of a sentence type of child correction! Mr. Rosemond empowers the parent to become the parent again and free's the child to be a child again through solid guidance and rules.

    Mr. Rosemond takes the new "behavior modification" method and rewrites how children need to have rules, serious limitations and parents deserve respect, no matter what. He's very clear that there is a solid difference between loving discipline and abuse and makes sure you know it too.

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    I personally cannot recommend this book enough! You can pick up a copy at The Thomas Nelson website or any bookstore!

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  • Posted October 14, 2009

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    Finally a Doc Who Tells It Like It Is

    In a time when many parents refuse to discipline their children, it is refreshing to read the words of Psychologist and author John Rosemond:

    I think it is nothing short of tragic that American parents are seeking professional help for child-rearing problems in greater and greater numbers every year, which is not to say that professional help is never warranted. I am convinced, however, that the overwhelming majority of the problems in question could have been resolved ... with proper use of some good, old-fashioned, creative discipline.
    Rosemond's recurring theme in The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline that Really Works! is that far too many children are mis-diagnosed with an alphabet of disorders that he has seen "cured" by the creative use of such discipline tools as
    Report Cards
    and more... .
    By actually getting involved in their children's lives rather than letting them run wild and rule the roost, nearly all of the parents who have contacted John Rosemond for assistance with discipline issues have successfully avoided the diagnoses of ADHD, ADD, OCD, ODD, etc., and furthermore prevented their children from being put on medicine regimens that would only exacerbate the problem.

    As I first dug into Rosemond's The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline that Really Works!, both my wife and I were concerned that our "strong-willed child" (not a term Rosemond uses, but one of another child expert), I found it refreshing to read some of the many ways Rosemond suggests parents deal with their troubled tots -- from toddler to teen. In fact, without even implementing any of Rosemond's disciplinary methods, our son has already begun to be a better behaved, happier child.

    One evening, sitting at the family dinner table and explaining to my wife Rosemond's chart method, my son -- who was sitting at the table with us and within clear earshot -- quickly decided he didn't like what he was hearing. He immediately made it known that he wouldn't like the results of misbehavior that the Chart plan would include, to which I responded that if he behaved he would not have to worry about them. He hasn't become a perfectly-behaved child, of course, but he has certainly dropped many of the undesirable behaviors that drove me to read the book in the first place.

    It is my contention -- and the author's as well, it seems -- that by simply reading this book and putting into practice some of the methods he describes, parents might be able to avoid the embarrassing and potentially destructive tragedy of having their child labeled with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or one of the many other alphabet soup disorders that today's psychologists are so quick to diagnose. My point: what have you got to lose?

    Jeff Cole is an author, blogger, podcaster, and member of the Thomas Nelson Book Review Blogger Program.

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  • Posted October 2, 2009

    The Well Behaved Child

    As a member of the Thomas Nelson Review Blogger program , I had the privilege of reviewing John Rosemond's parenting book, The Well- Behaved Child.
    Of all the parenting/ child rearing books on the market today, Rosemond's strategies, based on traditional common sense, have been the most enlightening. This book is based on the basic premise that children, by nature are prone to misbehave, and therefore require a parent to understand, address and discipline such issues so as to raise happy, well adjusted children. In fact, he states on page two, "the incontrovertible badness of children is why it takes most of two decades to fully socialize them. This badness is the reason for this book." Firstly, before anything else, a parent must understand the basic antisocial, selfish tendency of a child, and address it- rather than dismiss or rationalize it.
    This book dispels common child rearing myths which prevail in today's society. For example, he advocates leadership rather than ineffective reasoning. The parent is the authority figure and does not have to justify his/ her actions to a child. The parent need not and should not engage in debates or bargaining with a child also referred to as the "short and sweet" principal. Rosemond is a proponent of the effectiveness of "reverse psychology". Contrary to popular opinion, what works to train a dog will not work for a child. Behavior modification is simply ineffective and temporary. Furthermore offering rewards in exchange for positive behavior is just a short term solution and in the long run, it just promotes the cycle of manipulation and control the child has over the parent and authority in general. "Reward- based discipline .. teach[es] children how to manipulate parents [teaching] that misbehavior and underachievement are the tickets to getting special privileges". P 17 Additionally, time-outs are simply ineffective, akin to "trying to fend off a charging elephant with a flyswatter". P 13 These are just a few examples of some of the parenting techniques and philosophies.
    Using relevant case studies, and summing up basic strategies and principals, positive and effective parenting strategies are offered in this book in an easy to understand format. I would recommend this book to any parent who wishes to raise a responsible and well adjusted child.

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  • Posted September 29, 2009

    Well-behaved behavior, but not from the heart...

    I'm always curious about new parenting books. And I'm especially curious when they mention discipline. The Well-Behaved Child is all about discipline. At first, I was impressed by the author's willingness to go against the grain and say some things that our culture today isn't very fond of. But, as I got into the book more and more I came disagree with the book.

    This book focuses almost exclusively on behavior as the problem. Near the very end, the author does mention the heart and scripture, but there are only a few mentions of praying and God in the book. I could readily recommend this book to someone who doesn't believe in God and I think if they were looking for a book about discipline, this would give them some ideas.

    But, as a Christian, I don't think I could follow this author's advice. It is missing grace. Our Father has grace for us--shouldn't we also as parents? In Shepherding a Child's Heart, Ted Tripp identifies that there are times for rebuke, times for instruction, times for warning, times for encouragement. As parents, we need to think about how to respond to a child's actions and behavior.

    John Rosemond jumps immediately to discipline. I'll be honest. Before I read Tripp's book, I was inclined to do the same! But, I was convicted several years ago that that is my folly--to jump immediately to discipline.

    I don't recommend this book. If you're an old school type parent, you may struggle with grace. If you're a co-parenting type of parent, you may find yourself too graceful and justifying your parenting to your child when you have to discipline him/her. This book is on one extreme and so I don't think it is the best book out there to encourage parents on either end of the spectrum. Grace is important--but grace doesn't negate the need for discipline and instruction.

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  • Posted September 29, 2009

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    A book well worn and used before you even finish it. Rarely does a book spawn immediate desire for action and produce instant results. This one does.

    Rosemond is sarcastic and I love it. Being helped and encouraged in parenting never hurt so good. My copy of this book is already well worn and I've only had it for a few hours. My wife and I loved his syndicated column until the local paper snuffed it out because it didn't fit their liberal, psychobabble agenda. I am so thankful I obtained this book. Still raising five children often puts me at wit's end and Rosemond has been such a breath of fresh air. I love his format with such an easy going writing style that makes you laugh and think at the same time. Parenting books are a dime a dozen and I have read at least ten to twenty in my day. This one goes down in the top three. You'll be hard pressed to read a better written one any time soon.
    Parenting and politics are two subject that are sure to start an argument at any cocktail party and this one won't disappoint. He is wonderfully irreverent to the established experts on parenting. You won't disagree with too much but if you do I hope its because you recognize that some of his practical tips are not very biblical such as the whole "The doctor is in routine." Essentially its lying to your child that you talked to a doctor who has prescribed such and such treatment for a certain bad behavior. I have no doubt that the trick would work but lets not lie to our children to accomplish a good end result. This tip can easily be tweaked, however, by just stating what you believe to be facts on a certain behavior issue. "Son I believe you are not eating your meal tonight because you might are not getting enough sleep so we will cure that right now by putting you to bed early." In other words, Rosemond suggests that a child suffer agony over his misbehavior which will give him some excellent self motivated reasons for living rightly. If the discerning reader will over look some of the minors and focus on his majors you are in for a feast of usable tips that cut to the chase and expose the heart of a child.
    I wish he would have used more scripture to back up most of his points which are certainly common sense from good theology. I found the chapter on strategy much more helpful than the practical tips section. His 'leadership parenting' concept was very beneficial and hardly anyone has really addressed this in parenting circles like he does. I highly recommend this book to any parent or grandparent and will hope for a subsequent study guide containing more bible verses to help flesh out his unique parenting viewpoint. Five Stars and I will be using his tips and in fact already put two of his tips to work within hours of reading the book. I think my 17 year old has actually cleaned his room because I offered a 'deal he can't refuse'. Thanks for the tip. The godfather of parenting has written a deal you shouldn't refuse either.

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