What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

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Having studied how boys and girls develop differently, Michael Gurian turns his attention to adult men in this entertaining, informative, and groundbreaking book on the male brain. Following two decades of neurobiological research, What Could He Be Thinking? answers the questions women and the world are asking about husbands, fathers, boyfriends, and coworkers. Mixing neurobiology with Gurian's very readable style, anecdotes from everyday life, and a new vision of the male psyche, the book will satisfy the ...

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Overview

Having studied how boys and girls develop differently, Michael Gurian turns his attention to adult men in this entertaining, informative, and groundbreaking book on the male brain. Following two decades of neurobiological research, What Could He Be Thinking? answers the questions women and the world are asking about husbands, fathers, boyfriends, and coworkers. Mixing neurobiology with Gurian's very readable style, anecdotes from everyday life, and a new vision of the male psyche, the book will satisfy the tremendous curiosity women and our culture have about the roots of male behavior.

Women know intuitively that men are different from them. What women are now just coming to realize is that the men they are married to, having sex with, working with, parenting with, and trying to fathom, act and think in very male ways, not only because they are socialized to do so, but because they are built to--neurobiologically.

The new field of brain science has revealed wonderful secrets about a man's mind. In this book, women who are eager to understand the men in their lives can discover the new brain science in an entertaining way, as they get answers to the prime question every woman asks at some time in her life: What could he be thinking?

The book provides fascinating information about the male brain, male habits, male tendencies, and the nuances of men's actions and thoughts. It is a provacative, exciting vision into the minds of men.

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Editorial Reviews

Plain Dealer

Gurian's research is both fascinating and eye-opening.
Dave Barry

I cannot recommend [this book] highly enough.
Reuters

[Gurian] leads the nonscientist to some of the most frustrating sources of conflict between men and women in long-term relationships.
From the Publisher
"Gurian's research is both fascinating and eye-opening."

- Plain Dealer, Cleveland, OH

"I cannot recommend [this book] highly enough."

- Dave Barry, author of The Book of Guys

"[Gurian] leads the nonscientist to some of the most frustrating sources of conflict between men and women in long-term relationships."

- Reuters

The Washington Post
Gurian's book explores the fascinating science of the difference in male and female brains and how differences dictate behavior. His hope is that, by illuminating the construction of each gender's amygdala, cingulate gyrus, hippocampus, et al., not to mention the action of our hormones, we can better negotiate the battle of the sexes.—Lily Burana
Library Journal
While plenty of books offer to help us understand the opposite sex from a psychological perspective, this one tackles the topic from a neurological one. Family therapist Gurian (The Wonder of Boys) takes readers on a voyage through the male brain, offering "nature-based" explanations-that is, well-established biological tenets-for how men think and act differently from women (e.g., why they love to tinker with gadgets and why they remember fewer details about an event). In the process, readers discover almost as much about women and how their brains function. Gurian's writing style falls somewhere between academic and self-help. As a result, some people will find the book too light, while others may find it too challenging. Nonetheless, it is recommended for all public libraries because of Gurian's name and because it bridges the areas of self-help and biology as few books do. Simon Baron-Cohen's recent The Essential Difference: The Truth About the Male and Female Brain could be construed as such, but it's more of a science book summarizing recent neurological findings.-David Leonhardt, Chesterville, Ont. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780312311490
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 8/18/2004
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 330,379
  • Product dimensions: 8.20 (w) x 5.46 (h) x 0.72 (d)

Meet the Author

Michael Gurian has published eighteen books in seven disciplines. A pioneering social philosopher, he has authored four national bestsellers, translated into fourteen languages, including the groundbreaking The Wonder of Boys, A Fine Young Man, and The Wonder of Girls. He is cofounder of the Gurian Institute, which conducts research and trains internationally in male/female brain difference. He is also a novelist. He lives in Spokane, Washington, with his wife Gail, and their two daughters.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi
Introduction: What Could He Be Thinking? xiii
The Science of Manhood xvii
The Nature of a Man xx
A Note of Gratitude xxiii
Part I The Male Brain
1. What's in His Head: A Friendly Look at the Male Brain 3
Can We Really Know What He's Thinking? 5
A Friendly Look at the Male Brain 6
Avoiding Stereotypes 9
How Do We Recognize a Male Brain? 9
The Male-Brain Questionnaire 21
Bridge Brains 25
The Theory of Intimate Separateness 28
The Power of Natural Identity in Our Relationships 31
2. How Nature Answers the Question, What Is a Man? 33
The Despair of Men and the Core of Manhood 35
The Biology of Male Identity 37
Men Seek a Calling 45
The Making of a Man, from the Inside Out 53
Male Identity and Character Development 55
Bringing It All Together: Men Are on a Quest 61
The Future of the Male Quest: The Future of Testosterone 65
Bridge Brains: Exceptions to the Rule 67
Practicing Intimate Separateness 69
Part II What Could he Really be Thinking?
3. What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Feelings and Emotions 75
The Biology of Male Emotion 80
The Male Mode of Feeling 85
A Bottom Line: Women Trust Feelings More Than Men 94
Bridge Brains: Exceptions to the Rule 99
Practicing Intimate Separateness: Finding Power in the Nature of Emotional Life 100
4. What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Sex and Romance? 105
The Biology of Sex and Romance 107
How Romantic Idealization Can Make or Break Lovers' Hearts 119
What Are Reasonable Romantic Expectations of One Another? 123
Bridge Brains 129
Practicing Intimate Separateness 130
Turning Romance into Commitment and Marriage 136
Part III What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Marriage and Commitment?
5. I Think I Love You: Men and the Biology of Commitment 141
The Biology of Commitment 147
How a Man's Relationship with His Mother Can Affect Him 151
Are Men the Only Ones Who Fear Commitment? 161
Bridge Brains 163
Practicing Intimate Separateness 164
6. I Know I Love You: Men and the Biology of Marriage 173
The Human Divorce 176
The Biology of Marriage 179
A Map for Marriage 189
She Says: "I Feel Fat." What Should He Do? 190
We Are Too Close. Can We Come to Terms with It? 196
Bridge Brains 198
Practicing Intimate Separateness: Turning Marriages Around 199
A Natural Optimism 214
Part IV What Could He Really Be Thinking ... About Home and Children?
7. The Male Brain at Home: Men and Women Living Together 217
The Biology of the Home 219
Why Can't He See That the House Is a Mess? 219
Why Can't He Load the Dishwasher the Right Way? 221
Would It Kill Him to Put His Laundry Away? 223
What Is It with Men and Their Cars? 225
What About That Remote Control? 228
Why Do Men Love to Tinker Around with Gadgets and Electronics? 230
Doesn't He Realize That God Is in the Details? 233
Bridge-Brain Men at Home 235
Practicing Intimate Separateness in Home Life 238
8. What a Father Knows: The Nature of Being a Dad 243
The Biology of Fathering 245
Don't Worry, Honey, the Kids'll Be Fine 246
Don't You Even Care How the Kids Feel? 251
Divorced from the Mother, but Still a Father 254
The Biological Role of the Father 256
Bridge-Brain Fathers 260
The Practice of Intimate Separateness 263
The Best Father 266
Epilogue 267
Notes 269
About the Author 277
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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 1, 2005

    What great insite!

    For years I just couldn't understand where my husband was coming from. He has all brothers and I have all sisters. So relating to each other has always been difficult. This book has helped tremendouly in our relationship. I don't let him use it as an excuse not to have feelings, compasion but helps explain why something I would think would be so obvious.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 7, 2005

    Pyschology 101

    Overall this was a good book. I found that reading this after studying my social pysch unit in my Psychology 101 class. It was much easier to understand. I found that maybe a man's mind really works that way. This book, to me, is worth all that it's worth. Though one of my male friends said it was propoganda. But, I still read the book and found it enjoyable.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 24, 2005

    I'm a woman and thought I was reading about myself

    None of his theories have any basis in reality.He states the 'female brain' needs to talk about touchy feely subjects but the 'male brain' needs to zone out and watch TV or be involved in sports.When I have a problem I zone out.I know men who like to talk about feelings while it wears me out. I've hear all this nonsense before about the 'female brain having more receptors for taking in verbal learning and everything verbal,verbal memory.This is an agenda.He wants to sell books ln an alreeady gender 'differences' soaked culture. And why do you think I put 'male,female brain' in quotes,because I question the reality of it.

    0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 20, 2004

    What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

    How can anyone know what any given man is thinking!I couldn't see the link between biology and thinking because the so called research is so subjective.The brain research done has been controversial and bias.Gurian is trying to drive a wedge between men and women.Maybe he does it to cause a fury so his popularity will remain intact.I'm a man and could not relate to this book at any level!Women should overlook this book and view their man as an individual tainted by a sexist culture,rather than a different species!As a male I found the book insulting but maybe Gurian is writing from his own experiences?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 26, 2003

    What Could He Be Thinking?: How a Man's Mind Really Works

    I've been reading Gurian's books and their similarity to Mars and Venus is astounding. Gurian tells us how men and women can't possibly understand one another because of 'hard wiring'.What he fails to mention is how expectations play a part in behavior. He relates everything to his 'research' yes, the same 'research' John Gray promoted which is a best spotty if not completely subjective. I smell an agenda here,big money,sell appeal to an audience of ready readers allowing themselves to be blinded by sterotypes. Basically in a nutshell the book replays the old Mars Venus assumptions of logical male and emotional female as fixed behaviors due to this hard wiring.In reality people are a mix of logical and emotional but women have been encouraged to show emotion while men have been encouraged to see it as a weakness.

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