What I Know Now: Simple Lessons Learned the Hard Way

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"I do not merely rise above old wrongs; I deny them their reality. I sever my connections to darker times and circumstances. I take people with a fresh eye and an open heart, as they come to me today. Their old dossiers have expired. Our new story has yet to be written."

With the characteristic candor and down-to-earth charm that have won our admiration and our hearts, Sarah Ferguson The Duchess of York shares the hard-won lessons that have helped her work through challenges and lead a simpler, more fulfilling ...

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Overview

"I do not merely rise above old wrongs; I deny them their reality. I sever my connections to darker times and circumstances. I take people with a fresh eye and an open heart, as they come to me today. Their old dossiers have expired. Our new story has yet to be written."

With the characteristic candor and down-to-earth charm that have won our admiration and our hearts, Sarah Ferguson The Duchess of York shares the hard-won lessons that have helped her work through challenges and lead a simpler, more fulfilling life. Admired as much for her honest assessment of her foibles as for her grace in the glare of the media's spotlight, The Duchess here reveals her most private self. She shares the truths she has discovered from embracing her flaws, striving to make every life decision with integrity, and witnessing the selfless acts of others around her. She takes on challenges both small and daunting -- from putting strangers at ease in a social setting to coping with the death of her beloved best friend; from appreciating the small wonders of the natural world to protecting private time with her girls while honoring her many work commitments. Each lesson springs from a life rich with disappointments and victories, and each lesson is seasoned with a healthy dose of humility and warm wit.

Although her personal struggles have been played out on the public stage, The Duchess's thoughtful, simple approach applies to the struggles we all face. Like sharing a cup of tea with your closest confidante, What I Know Now offers advice for the everyday as it illuminates the delightful spirit, undeniable resilience, and trademark grace under fire of a woman who considers every challenge an opportunity to learn and grow.

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Editorial Reviews

School Library Journal
Adult/High School-The Duchess's book is reminiscent of Maria Shriver's Ten Things I Wish I'd Known-Before I Went Out into the Real World (Warner, 2000) in its common sense, self-effacing humor, and paparazzi-chased perspective. The royal uses some of her high-profile predicaments to reflect on what she has learned about daily life, and her style gently reveals a maturation that has gone unnoticed in the tabloids. She talks about health, relationships, faith, and her belief in the importance of gratitude (and not superiority). Readers will enjoy this romp to interesting places on Fergie's sometimes-bumpy, but never boring journey.-Karen Sokol, Fairfax County Public Schools, VA Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781416578413
  • Publisher: Simon & Schuster
  • Publication date: 9/25/2007
  • Pages: 192
  • Product dimensions: 0.45 (w) x 5.00 (h) x 8.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Sarah Ferguson, The Duchess of York, is the author of several children’s books, including Ballerina Rosie; Tea for Ruby, illustrated by Robin Preiss Glasser; and the Little Red series as well as a memoir, Finding Sarah. The Duchess is a devoted spokesperson for many charitable organizations, including Changes for Children. She has two daughters, Princess Beatrice and Princess Eugenie.

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Chapter One: Forgiving the Past

Readers of My Story may recall my old foes the Grey Men, the Palace bureaucrats who found me insufficiently royal in every way: my dress, my bearing, the friends I kept. They did what they could to make my life a misery, with a strong assist from myself, of course. After leaving their milieu, I'd had no contact with any of these gentlemen for an age — until last year, when I strolled down a street in Mayfair and passed an art shop. There in the window sat an original portrait, by a well-known painter, of one of the top courtiers.

I didn't think twice. I bought the portrait and sent it to the courtier (now retired) with a simple note that I thought he might like it for his children, and I hoped he was well, and I sent my love. I didn't buy the gift to be kinder-than-thou. I simply knew that it would please him, as it would have pleased me. I would have done the same for anyone I knew.

A few days later, the mail brought the man's response. Out of respect I will paraphrase, but here is the gist of it: I cannot believe that after all that has happened between us, you can be kind enough to do this.

In that exchange, our history was forever altered.

For years I had stewed in my anger at all who had hurt me. Bitterness can be seductive. As long as you hold to it, you are forever wronged — and thus forever right. Over time, however, I came to realize that animosity was no good for me. It spoiled my natural optimism, made me tedious to be around. Worse yet, it kept me from learning from my errors.

When it came to the Grey Man in question, I thought about why I'd been so furious with him. Then I solved the puzzle: I was angry with myself, for the blunders that had prompted his rebukes. I tried to look at life from the courtier's point of view. By his own lights, he was an honest man doing his job. And if, with hindsight, he might have done it less gruffly, what did that matter now?

My first step, in sum, was to acknowledge my own trespasses. Once done, it was not so hard to forgive the Grey Man, too.

Now I see that I have no right to bear a grudge, nor any interest in it. To lash back can only feed the old injury and any lingering self-doubt. To snub a person is to forfeit our future together. In the end, we both lose.

I do not merely rise above old wrongs; I deny them their reality. I sever my connections to darker times and circumstance. I take people with a fresh eye and an open heart, as they come to me today. Their old dossiers have expired. Our new story has yet to be written. By refusing to hurt another, I heal my wounds as well.

Copyright © 2003 by Sarah Ferguson The Duchess of York

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Table of Contents

Contents

Introduction

Forgiving the Past

Co-parenting and Common Sense

Eating Out, Eating Right

Reaching Out

Timing It Right

Surviving Your Critics

Laughing Out Loud

Keeping Rituals

Rejecting Rejection

Finding Empathy

Naming Names

Minding Manners

Aging Well

Taking What Life Grants You

Dressing to Thrill

Corresponding in Style

Speaking Out

Accepting a Compliment

Choosing Battles

Trusting Our Children

Learning and Living

Spending Wisely

Breaking Patterns

Keeping Faith

Trusting Others

Assuming the Best

Setting First Things First

Shelving Regret

Escaping Routine

Respecting Elders

Seeing the Light

Bending the Rules

Taking Risks

Bingeing No More

Breathing Deep

Bearing Dignity

Saying Yes to No

Living Small

Quelling Panic

Going One on One

Slowing Down

Coming Home

Finding Refuge

Taking No One for Granted

Living On

Loving Well

Author's Note

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