Table of Contents
A Note to the Reader xi
Introduction 1
Part I Before
Life Goes Sideways 15
Guide: When Life Goes Sideways 31
Waiting for the Dice to Roll 37
Guide: When the Shit Hits the Fan 59
Family Meeting 67
The Last Day 81
Reentry Protocols 85
Guide: Quality of Life, Death, and Dying 91
Tell the Truth; Not Too Much 99
Found and Lost 105
Part II After
Aftershocks 109
Meridians 115
The Celebration-of-Life Memorial-Funeral-Ceremony-Service 125
Guide: After Death 133
Strangers in a Strange Land 141
Border Crossing 151
Death by a Thousand Paper Cuts 153
Guide: The Tangled Web We Leave 161
1 Essentials 165
2 Insurance 177
3 Money 196
4 Legal 208
Practice Makes Progress 225
The New Normal(ish) 233
Drink, Fuck, Run 243
Missed Connections 251
Part III Always
The Overview Effect 255
What Would Cher Do? 261
Guide: What Makes a Difference 267
Message in a Bottle 275
Where's the Bear? 281
Guide: What Matters Most 287
A Small Series of Losses 297
Departure 301
Jump 303
Afterword: Finding Shore 305
The Guidebook 309
Acknowledgments 315
Notes 317
Index 323