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“This new title matches a worthwhile premise—the question of how we each find our personal mission in life—with a tone refreshingly free of either sap or cynicism.... What [Bronson] finds is equally useful to middle-age folks and fresh college grads.”
—Cleveland Plain Dealer, “Year’s Best Books”
Destiny vs.Self-Created Meaning
An Ordinary Guy
EVEN THE DESTINED STRUGGLE
Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you got a letter in the mail when you were seventeen, signed by someone who had a direct pipeline to Ultimate Meaning, telling you exactly who you are and what your true destiny is? Then you could carry this letter around in your pocket, and when you got confused or distracted and suddenly melted down, you’d reach for your wallet and grab the letter and read it again and go, ÒOh, right.Ó
Well, a friend of mine has such a letter. He’s thirty-two years old and rents a bedroom from a nice lady in Phoenix near the base of Camelback Mountain. He’s gray at the temples, wears Hawaiian shirts, and drives a dusty Oldsmobile that suffers from bad alignment. The car’s tape player is broken, which is fine by me because I can’t stand the soft rock he listens to. He loves America because friends here treat him like an ordinary person. He says being here has made him much more open-minded. He grew up in a refugee camp in southern India. When he got the letter he had just enrolled in a special school there, with the vague notion of eventually becoming a professor of Tibetan literature, though he admits he wasn’t much of a student. But what else was there to do in life? No way was he going to be a farmer. Being a businessman meant having to sell, and he didn’t study hard enough to ever become a doctor. He couldn’t imagine sitting out his life in a government office job, filing forms. His name was Choeaor Dondup, but everyone called him Ali, after the boxer, because he was big. His hair hung to hisshoulders. He spent most of his time figuring out how to get into his girlfriend’s pants. He played soccer. He was scared of the dark. Then one day at school he received this letter, signed by the Dalai Lama.
Ali was a big believer in the Dalai Lama.
The letter said he wasn’t Choeaor Dondup after all. Instead, he was the reincarnation of a warrior who, along with his five brothers, had ruled a poor and remote region of eastern Tibet six lifetimes ago. The brothers had descended from one of Genghis Khan’s grandsons. Ali’s Previous One turned his back on the family’s violent rule and became a monk. Over his lifetime he founded thirteen monasteries and became the great spiritual leader of this region, the Tehor. Ali’s real name was Za Rinpoche, which is Tibetan for ÒThe Dharma King.Ó
Imagine! You’re not a dumb, lost, inexperienced seventeen-year-old! We actually have a
spot picked out for you! And not just any spot!
wanted: Great Spiritual Leader. No experience necessary.
Nevertheless, the letter was a bit of a shock. They wanted him to attend the Drepung monastery in northern India. All Ali could think about was, ÒAm I going to have to cut my hair?Ó ÒAm I going to have to become a monk? Give up sex?Ó You think it would be easy if your destiny were offered on a silver platter. But Ali went around for a few days openly expressing his angst and annoying his friends by debating whether this was the right thing to do. The social pressure was so great that eventually he shut up, gave in, and went off to the monastery, keeping his doubts to himself. It took four years for the doubts to evaporate. But it’s never been easy. He spent the next twelve years memorizing two-thousand-year-old ancient texts, the whole time craving the kind of understanding that comes from experience. Back in Tehor, when people are dying they hold his photograph inches from their face and stare at him, wanting him to be the last thing they ever see before they cross over into unembodied consciousness. That’s how much faith they have in Rinpoche–more than he has in himself, I suspect.
I found Rinpoche like this: When my son was born, my mom cleaned out her basement and brought up my well-preserved souvenirs from my childhood, soccer trophies and warmup jackets and my high school yearbooks. In one of those yearbooks was a nice note from an upperclasswoman, Jodi, fondly remembering those long conversations we used to have during studio art classes. ÒWhat conversations?Ó I wanted to remember. So I tracked her down, and during another long conversation she mentioned she’d been hanging out with Rinpoche. I was curious, though not for any particular reason. Just curious. Curiosity is a raw and genuine sign from deep inside our tangled psyches, and we’d do well to follow the direction it points us in. So to Jodi I said, ÒI gotta meet that guy,Ó and booked tickets to Phoenix.
What would it be like to have this certainty about your place in the world? To have it in writing from the Dalai Lama himself! Of course, my desire to understand this wasn’t my only motivation. I was excited to meet a holy man. Perhaps his spiritual presence might rub off on me, and he might offer me guidance. Instead I found a friend, who, though sacred, was still utterly human and real. He was skilled at minimizing his anguish over everyday struggles, but he still faced them routinely and fought his urges like any of us. Possessing that letter had not relieved him of having to figure out where he really belonged and make some hard choices. In his mind, this question was not settled.
He and I were riding around Phoenix a little while ago, looking for some authentic Mexican food. I was joshing him about this reincarnation thing.
ÒCome on, you really believe it?Ó
ÒSo, all of you, or just, like, your soul?Ó
He said the biggest misconception in the West, and in young Tibetans, was that mind is physical.
I said, ÒHow do you know young Tibetans? You said you’ve never even been to Tibet.Ó (China wouldn’t let him into his country.)
ÒLike, you know, I’ve met many who are also in exile.Ó
He said that they were mostly in New York.
ÒWhat does that even mean, ‘mind is not physical’? That’s so cryptic.Ó
He tried to unpack his statement for me. Sanskrit describes five layers of self, or mind:
His consciousness had been reincarnated, but his perceptions and feelings and body had not. That said, the inner layer, by itself, is no more valid or important than the outer. Self is the combination of the five.
ÒSo on the inside you’ve got it figured out, but the rest of you is dragging along.Ó
Rinpoche laughed, and it’s when he laughs that he seems so wise. He learned his English in Atlanta from undergrads at Emory University, and he picked up their vocal idiosyncrasies, tossing Òkind of,Ó Òlike,Ó and Òyou know what I meanÓ into every sentence.
He speaks English like a teenager, but laughs like a man six lifetimes old–such a deep, merry, pure chuckle.
I asked him if Buddhists believe we all get a specific destiny.
ÒWe don’t think there’s a specific place in your life to go. Everybody’s destiny is to become an enlightened being and reach the everlasting state of mind.Ó
ÒThat’s pretty easy for you to say. Your destiny arrived in the mail. What if you had to go out and get a job?Ó
He laughed again. ÒYes, that I could not imagine.Ó
Rinpoche has always had to be pushed to take the next step. In 1998, the Dalai Lama chose him to lead a tour of monks across the United States. Rinpoche didn’t want to go. He’d heard the tour required long bus rides, thirteen hours at a time. He relented when the abbot leaned on him. Rinpoche says he was a narrow-minded snob back then. Maybe a monastery sounds like a terrific place to become a deep person, but the truth was, he was sheltered and had a big ego. He didn’t hang out with ordinary monks, only monks of high status. He had no respect for other religions, and assumed anyone who wasn’t a Buddhist couldn’t be a nice person. He was lonely and too serious. But traveling in America did wonders for his personality. After a year, he went back to the Drepung Monastery, and everyone said, ÒWow, you’ve changed a lot.Ó He hung out with monks regardless of their status. He laughed all the time. He felt more grounded. His elders were so impressed they asked him to stay and teach. For once he had the balls to say, ÒThat is not in my nature,Ó and stick by it. He wanted to return to America, where not everyone treats him like a divine being. He wanted to understand the Western mind, how people in the West think.
Exposing himself to this crazy world was making him into a better person, and that was the right path to be on.
If it were me, no matter how cool or great it would be to have a spiritual calling, and to be given this early in life, I’d still have that American notion of needing to discover things myself. I’d need independence–I’d feel controlled. I might now and then be testy about having my calling put upon me rather than arriving at it by myself. We have mixed feelings about the seductive notion of destiny. There’s a persistent tension between wanting our life’s purpose to be revealed to us by some higher power and wanting to scrap and fight for it against all odds–to earn it without help. We think about destiny sort of like how we feel about inheritance–we covet its fruit but it’s sweeter if we earned it ourselves. And so I wasn’t surprised when Rinpoche called to give me his new address and phone number.
ÒI am not with Bodhiheart anymore.Ó Bodhiheart was the foundation he cofounded with his sponsor–the woman in whose house he had lived until now.
ÒDid you get in a fight?Ó
ÒUh, not really. Kind of. I myself am not a citizen, you know? So as my sponsor, I relied on her for legal things like this.Ó
ÒLike creating the foundation.Ó
ÒThat is right. So I have my own foundation now.Ó He let out a hearty laugh, his punch line coming a little quick before I could understand.
ÒWhat happened between you?Ó
ÒI felt she tried to keep people from me, control my schedule, these things, you know? Like she wanted to be the access to me. Like last time you were here? She was upset with that.Ó
ÒBut you’re my friend!Ó
He sighed. ÒThat is right. You understand.Ó
ÒYou don’t want anyone to control you.Ó
ÒThat is right.Ó
ÒSo have you ever lived alone before?Ó He’d spent most of his life in a monastery with four thousand monks.
ÒCan you cook?Ó
ÒGoing out for burritos a lot, I bet.Ó
ÒYes, that’s right.Ó
ÒHow big is your apartment?Ó
ÒNot too small.Ó
ÒYou’re not still scared of the dark, are you?Ó
ÒI’m glad you’re learning to look out for yourself,Ó I said.
ÒYes. At this I am getting better.Ó
Once he’d said to me, ÒI wish I could be ordinary sometimes.Ó He was getting his chance.
At one of Rinpoche’s ÒteachingsÓ at a hospice, he described how fears hold us back from our own advancement. ÒFear is like a wound within our emotions,Ó he said. You heal a fear much like you heal a cut on your hand. If you ignore a cut on your hand, it will get infected. But it will heal itself if you pay attention to it and give it time. Same with a fear.
First, recognize its existence–what kind of fear is it? Is it fear of poverty, of loneliness, of rejection? Then use common sense. Don’t let the fear get infected. Often we burn 70 percent of our emotional energy on what we fear might happen (90 percent of which won’t happen). By devoting our energy to our other emotions, we will heal naturally.
This didn’t sink in for me right away. In the moment, my mind tagged it as Òdeep,Ó and filed it away to be revisited later. Which I did. When my way of organizing this book was finally coming into focus–as stories portraying people working through their fears and misconceptions–that method rang a bell. I dug up my notes on Rinpoche’s teaching and found the similarity. I felt like I’d wasted time getting there the hard way. ÒLook, it took me nine months to figure this out by myself, when all along Rinpoche was trying to show me this is how to do it.Ó But, then again, I felt like I understood it better because I’d done it the hard way.
Which was how he’d lived, too. His purpose was given to him, but he’d had to go find it anyway.
From the Hardcover edition.
|Introduction: Obvious Questions Don't Have Obvious Answers: From Your Fears Come Misconceptions||xiii|
|That Sense of "Rightness"|
|1||An Ordinary Guy: Even the Destined Struggle||3|
|2||Have You Looked Under the Bed?: Ignoring the Obvious||9|
|3||Hunted by Her Cause: Learning from Hard Times||15|
|4||Synchronicity or Not: Is There Meaning in Coincidence?||20|
|5||The Dharma Adviser: Being vs. Doing||25|
|6||Isn't It Clear!? Waiting for Clarity||33|
|7||I Belong to You: Is It Self-Serving to do What You Enjoy?||39|
|8||The Brain Candy Generation: Stimulation/Intensity vs. Significance/Fulfillment||46|
|9||Parasite Entrepreneurism: Finding Your Story||51|
|10||Lacking an Off Switch: Always Knew It||57|
|In Another Class|
|11||The Ungrateful Soldier: Torn Between Classes||65|
|12||The Umbrella of Freedom: Anyone Can Find This Important||72|
|13||A College Man: From Working Class to Educated Class||79|
|14||The Diver Who Loved to Read: Neither Fight Nor Flight||84|
|15||Building a Cathedral: The Fear You Don't Belong||90|
|16||The Casino of the American Economy: It's Supposed to be Hard||97|
|17||Lady Reads the News: A Good Day Job||102|
|18||Getting Oily, Then Even: Switch Sides After an Injustice||107|
|19||Learning Delta Pride: The Fear That Our Choices Are Irreversible||114|
|Temptations vs. Aspirations|
|20||A Billion Is Chump Change: Is Turning Down the Money Stupid or Brave?||127|
|21||That Magical Thing: Overcoming the Stigma That This Isn't Important||132|
|22||The Lockbox Fantasy: Getting Rich Changes You||136|
|23||A Tour of the Country: This, Then That||139|
|24||After a Brief Period of Experimentation: Fear of Saying No||145|
|25||There's More to Motherhood than Baking Cookies: Never Give Up||158|
|26||The Chemical Engineer Who Lacked a Chemical: What's Real?||166|
|Destination vs. Journey?|
|27||Guidance, Navigation, and Control: Three Lessons from One Who's Stayed Put||177|
|28||The Boom Wrangler Has Many Reasons to Live: Change, for Some, Keeps Them Alive||182|
|29||The Phi Beta Slacker Dances for Herself: Be Your Own Audience||189|
|30||The Runway Gypsy: Back to Reality||196|
|31||New Person, Same Job? A Different Kind of Hard Work||205|
|32||My New Start-Up: How the Past Colors Perception||211|
|33||Dropping the Watermelon: The Practical Way to Pursue the Impractical||219|
|34||The Toner Queen Unmasks Herself: The Resume "Me" vs. the Work-in-Progress "Me"||224|
|35||The Once-Angry Minister: A New Kind of Success Story||231|
|Changes of Scenery|
|36||Ambition in Neutral: Deemphasizing the Question in Order to Answer It||243|
|37||Nobody Taught Me: The Benefit of Being Around Like-Minded People||251|
|38||The Romantic Depressive: Enjoying People||257|
|39||On Planet Hug: Finding Your People||258|
|40||Uncomfortable Is Good: Rehearsing for Life's Improvisation||264|
|41||Success Formula: Giving Up That It's about You||266|
|42||Trafficking in Extremes: The Adventure of Working Abroad||269|
|Relationships and Family|
|43||The Twin Who Wanted to Be Unique: Struggling to Satisfy Dual Careers||279|
|44||H = P [greater than sign] J: When Paths Begin to Part||291|
|45||Ski Bums: Working with Your Spouse||297|
|46||Where Fears Hide: This is Your Own Responsibility||303|
|47||The Lottery Winner: Resisting Parents' Pressure||307|
|48||The Monkey Law: Finding Inspiration in Our Ancestry||316|
|49||A Burial with Pinstripes: Fears are Inherited, Too||326|
|50||Accepting a Gift: Will I Have to Put My Aspirations Aside?||330|
|51||The Mechanic Gives 100 Percent: Children Help You Remember What's Important||338|
|52||A Fragile Blow: The Hardest Things Are the Most Liberating||346|
|The Appropriate Time Frame|
|53||Out of My Mind: When Is It Too Late to Start Over?||359|
|54||Contribution X: Keep in Mind Even What You Can't Define||366|
|55||Twenty Thousand Lives a Year: Business is a Tool to Support What You Believe||371|
|56||Magic Powers: No Big Picture Is Too Big||376|
|57||Closing Remarks: All Stories Are Unique||385|
|A Reading Group Guide||395|
Posted April 13, 2009
Po Bronson has written quite the inspirational book. It's not like traditional self-help books (which I believe is the section I found it). It doesn't necessarily give you a set of rules or procedures. It tells the story of everyday people and how they found a sense of balance in their lives by trying to do something meaningful while also facing their everyday responsibilities. I found it motivating because it wasn't necessarily about living your dream. It was about people who had dreams, but for one reason or another have been unable to fulfill them in the traditional sense. But while on the journey to their dreams they found other things that were satisfying. It was about living and when you put your whole self into living fully you will lead an incredible life, even if you do not realize your dreams.
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Posted September 5, 2005
I looked so forward to reading this highly-recommended book, especially finding myself now in a position where, after 25 years, I do not have a choice as to whether or not to make a career change: The choice has already been made for me. What I was hoping for was some sort of blueprint to follow as I find myself facing so many difficult decisions. What I found instead was story after story of somebody simply stumbling upon his perfect match or dream job, rather than a guide as to how someone might find it with deliberation and planning. There seemed to be no starting point from which one might begin his search for the 'ultimate answer,' and I had no more insight as to 'Where do I go from here?' after reading the book than I did before. Definitely disappointing.
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Posted August 1, 2005
While this book may have a somewhat narrow audience, as mentioned in the above reviews, I found it to be very good at getting right to the core of what holds us back. This book does not spoon feed the reader answers to the question posed by the title. But it does give one many things to think about some of which may be questions the reader is has avoided.
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Posted July 9, 2003
As I read this book, I began to realize who this work was meant to appeal to. The majority of individuals whose stories were documented happened to be those who have made loads and loads of money, enough to feel comfortable with a major life decision or career change. Doctors, lawyers, Wall Street execs and the like. Most had advanced degrees and experienced things most Americans would never dream of but somehow still felt their lives were missing something. It seemed like the author himself came from privledge and chose to interview individuals who came from similar backgrounds. There may have been one story I could relate to in the entire 300 plus page work. Being a 29 year old, college educated individual attempting to return to business school I had hoped the book would tell at least a few stories of middle income individuals like myself. Unfortunately, there are not. I would not recommend this book.
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Posted June 10, 2008
I really enjoyed the stories and it reminded me of people to contact about some similar changes to my own path and decisions. I think this is a good guide to thumb thru and see if Ia few of the people touch your own concerns and goals.
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Posted October 18, 2006
When I first glanced at this book, I thought it would be any normal self-help book. I thought there would be a little quiz here and there, places to journal, and a few predominant questions to answer for yourself. I was pleasantly surprised that the focus of this novel was more based on the examples of other people, rather than most books, which tend to be solely about you. I appreciated his creativity and originality while I read. I am a high school senior and I believed that by reading this I could finally answer life¿s toughest question we must all ask ourselves. Unfortunately, I have not answered that question after reading. I am somewhat disappointed because I was depending on the book to tell me what my future held. The stories taught me that no one else could decide for you, you must be strong enough to figure it out on your own. It was refreshing that real people just like me have been successful with their lives and happy with where they are. I loved that Po Bronson told stories of people through out all walks of life. It gave me reassurance because I realized that I don¿t need to be so urgent and anxious for my future. The major themes of this book are to over come fear and confusion to find a larger truth in their lives. This truth differs from person to person but moving past your animosities will help to find out how to live your life. Read this book with no expectations and no dependence, and then it will be enjoyable.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted September 23, 2006
Po Bronson has written a unique book. Like a good anthropologist, without providing a synthesized set of lessons, he lays out the story of 50 individuals allowing the insights to emerge for the reader. While Po has been able to commit to his own dreams and be successful, the characters profiled in his book are different. Most of them do not care about anything, make career changes that are triggered by feelings of unhappiness or some abstract romantic notion in their heads or just pure randomness, and eventually fail to find fulfillment in a meaningful way. So it seems that one must do exactly the opposite of what these individuals did i.e. introspect deeply and understand one self, and find what one is passionate about before making big changes. Even if one fails to find a passion, one might attempt to live life with a bit of lightness and gratitude for one¿s good fortune relative to most people. Also, the pursuit of one¿s dreams and being practical are not mutually exclusive ideas. Charles Ives, the music composer, worked in the insurance business and T.S. Eliot was a banker. Making successful transitions requires talent, effort, passion and good fortune, and one must assess decisions on each of these factors with humility and honesty. I don¿t think these ideas are inconsistent with Po¿s, but are not exemplified by these 50 people. Po has clearly thought about this topic deeply, and that is reflected in both the questions he raises and his commentary.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 3, 2006
This book offers insight into why we are not happy and are often yearning for meaning in our lives. It is not a career tool, it goes much deeper. There are many other books of that nature on the market. This one is unique.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted November 26, 2005
If the path you've chosen no longer satisfies you like you thought it would. If you're feeling like there's no way out of your dead-end job, but KNOW you can't go on doing what you currently do day in and day out for the rest of your life--then this is the book FOR YOU! It helped me SEE and ENVISION that my situation can CHANGE if I truly want it to--that it's NOT too late. Change is not easy, but I now am proud to be halfway through medical school and know that I am where I am meant to be. The book will not physically pick you up and place you in a fun and exciting new job--what it will do is enable you to SEE the possibilities and the fulfillment you deserve in your life.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted March 5, 2004
Would you give up a salary of $300,000 a year to find yourself? Po Bronson seems to think that after reading his latest book, What Should I Do With My Life?, you will feel compelled to do just that. He seems to think he has the power to influence the masses. To be fair: events surrounding the publication of Bronson¿s last book, The Nudist On The Late Shift, would seem to back him up. Published just before the dot-com industry collapsed, the book ¿ an enticing account of all things great within that industry inspired many of its readers to jump on the dot-com boat. When the industry sank these poor suckers went down with it. Bronson felt so guilty he published an apology in The New York Times Magazine. Because of these events the author emphasizes that this book, is meant only to help people find what¿s best for them. In other words, reader beware ¿ he¿s done apologizing. He doesn¿t have to worry. What Should I Do With My Life? simply isn¿t that convincing. Most of us twenty and thirty-something BA wielding working saps aren¿t making $300,000 a year. Though we¿re the ones most likely to be intrigued by such a title, we shouldn¿t be fooled: This book isn¿t about us. The author¿s passion is most ignited when he¿s detailing the stories of people who were financially successful and who, for their own reasons, turned away from that success. He seems so intrigued by these stories that he fails to realize they are essentially one story -- retold forty times. In the introduction to What Should I Do With My Life, Bronson claims to have interviewed some 900 people for this book. Supposedly, one of his goals is to show that his question is one with which people of all classes struggle. Yet of the 50 people whose stories make it into the book, all but about 10 began as highly paid professionals who found themselves asking this question in spite of their six digit incomes. Where are the high school drop outs, housewives, editorial assistants, bar tenders and others who have struggled with this question? Bronson begins the book with the story of a spiritualist who finds peace only after he leaves the monastery. He later profiles a blue collar worker who goes off to college and starts his own business and a self-proclaimed loser who invents golf equipment. But his treatment of these stories feels forced ¿ as if he is aware of the need for diversity among his subjects but isn¿t all that interested in creating it. This is unfortunate, as these are the stories that could turn this dull, repetitive book into an engaging read. If you¿re confused, frustrated and lacking direction you may feel inclined, after reading this book, toward a little late night soul searching. Just don¿t lay awake waiting for any revelations ¿ What Should I Do With My Life isn¿t likely to help you identify or live your dreams.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted January 3, 2004
I picked up this book looking for inspiration on how I could narrow down all the things I want to do with my life. I came not lacking inspiration or motivation, but feeling called to do too many things. This book didn't help. It tried to focus too much on the average person, trying to market itself to the Wal-mart crowd. A lot of people were interviewed but what they found seemed to be lacking somehow. Maybe the truth is one can never find what EXACTLY you want to do OR be ESTATIC about one's life, but that's why I picked up the book.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted October 16, 2003
That's what I've said to more than one person about this book. While I'm only about halfway through, I could probably stop reading at this point and have a ton of things to think about (however, I will finish it, since the stories and people are so interesting) Being in career flux myself, I am comforted in the knowledge that other people have had/are having the same kind of problems with this question. I'm at a point in my life where I've given a large amount of thought to what I would like to do next. However, like many in this book, there is a tinge of fear in making a move just to make a move or settling for something just to make ends meet. All in all, a very interesting, revealing and inspirational read. Enjoy!Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 24, 2003
If you are struggling with this question, you will be comforted by others why have been in the same boat. The best self-help book I have read for finding your supreme purpose in life and making the most of every moment is Optimal Thinking by Rosalene Glickman. You won't go wrong when you read these books.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted August 26, 2003
The title really captures your attention as well as the subect and the hope that you might get something meaningful out of this read. It was really boring and not well written. I would have put it down but I thought that there must be SOMETHING I am missing .... NOT! Don't waste your time or money on this drab stab at life's important question.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 6, 2003
I was initially very excited to read this book, and got caught up in the first 50 pages or so. Then the stories and people began to seem very similar, and I lost most of my interest. I agree with a previous reviewer who mentioned that there was a definite lack of cultural diversity. It felt like ninety-five percent of those whose stories made it into the book were people who are or had been in some sort of investment banking business or in the computer tech industry, were white, middle class, and very educated. Po Bronson writes at the beginning of the book that his question is for people of all classes and educational backgrounds, but after reading the whole book, that seemed only lip service to me. I felt that his interview sampling was skewed towards people he could relate to and felt comfortable with, and that he was probably not even aware of this bias. I give the book three stars, however, because I think he deserves credit for coming up with a wonderful idea for a book, and giving us a great question to ponder.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 18, 2003
Recently, I have just graduated high school, I thought I knew what I wanted to do going into college. Since reading this book, I have asked myself everyday what I REALLY want to do with my life. For a long time, I wanted to find the job that will make me the most money. I have come to realize through other's experiences that it necessarily shouldn't be that way. Through each encounter, I have looked at myself in a way and questioned 'What is going to make me happy?' I recommend this book to anyone that is tired of their current job or just have no clue what they want to do in life.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted July 7, 2003
If you have an amiable or expressive social learning style this book would interest you. I have an analytical driver style so after the first chapter I was bored. I thought the book would be more like 'What Color is Your Parachute' or 'Whistle While You Work'. I expected some interesting means/methods to discover what I want to be when I grow up. If you find yourself lacking self-esteem or seek the comfort how others finds themselves, try this book. There was too much emphasis on the Generation 'Why' crowd in the interviews. Maybe the author feels more comfortable interviewing his generation.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.
Posted May 1, 2003
Posted May 7, 2003
This book isn't bringing anything new to the table. I was un-impressed with any of the stories. A better cultural selection would have been appreciated as well. The author failed miserably in this aspect.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.