When Am I Going to Be Happy?: How to Break the Emotional Bad Habits That Make You Miserable

Overview

Learn to change the emotional bad habits that make you unhappy.

- Recognize Your Emotional Bad Habits (and start to break them)

- Throw Off Your Security Blanket (and accept that you can have happiness)

- Talk Tenderly To Yourself (and increase self-esteem)

- Use The "To You-Ness To Me-Ness" Technique (and respond to negative comments with firm conviction, not rage)

- Get Rid Of The Imposter Phenomenon (and stop devaluing yourself)

- Accept Praise (and cease being your own worst...

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Overview

Learn to change the emotional bad habits that make you unhappy.

- Recognize Your Emotional Bad Habits (and start to break them)

- Throw Off Your Security Blanket (and accept that you can have happiness)

- Talk Tenderly To Yourself (and increase self-esteem)

- Use The "To You-Ness To Me-Ness" Technique (and respond to negative comments with firm conviction, not rage)

- Get Rid Of The Imposter Phenomenon (and stop devaluing yourself)

- Accept Praise (and cease being your own worst critic)

- Stop Measuring Your Self

Based on a popular course given at the New School in New York City, When Am I Going To Be Happy? teaches that many of the negative emotional habits that make us unhappy are learned behaviors which can be exchanged for habits that are life-giving, not life-wrecking.

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Using concrete examples from her clients' experiences to illuminate what emotional bad habits are and how to undo them, psychotherapist Russianoff offers practical suggestions for breaking the grip of depression. Exercise, a new hobby, and making a tape during the good times as a reminder that depression is only temporary are among her tips. This book is best suited to those who function well but do not feel that they are living to full potential; those with more serious emotional difficulties will find it far too simplistic and superficial to offer any real benefit. For public libraries and larger academic collections. Kim Banks, Columbia Univ. Libs., New York
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780553282153
  • Publisher: Random House Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 1/28/1997
  • Format: Mass Market Paperback
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Pages: 271
  • Sales rank: 430,464
  • Product dimensions: 4.15 (w) x 6.87 (h) x 0.81 (d)

Table of Contents

Introduction 1
1. Emotional Bad Habits: Our Insecurity Blankets 5
2. Shedding Those Cultural Cliches 24
3. Can You Change? 35
4. "Aha! I See!": Recognizing Your Emotional Bad Habits 49
5. The Only Person Who Can Reject You--Is You 65
6. Talk Tenderly To Yourself 91
7. To You-ness To Me-ness: Making Your Feelings Known 102
8. Guilt: Banishing the Gray Ghost 110
9. Assertiveness: The Emotional Good Habit 124
10. "Sorry, I'm Not Available" 137
11. Inferiority: Chasing the Nobody Blues 147
12. Depression: Breaking the Black Mood 175
13. Sex and Emotional Bad Habits 192
14. Fantasies: Use Your Imagination 216
15. Anger and Anxiety 227
16. Phobias and Obsessions: Prisons of the Mind 250
17. The Last Word 266
Bibliography 273
Index 281
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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 17, 2010

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    Profoundly Life Changing

    Simply put, this book, if read in earnest, adhered to and put to practice, will change people's lives for the better. If they're in a dark place, it can help them profoundly. Of all of the self help books I've read over the course of nearly a decade now, I would credit this one for being the most useful, and certainly the most memorable in terms of what I've gotten out of it. It can make you a much happier and more resilient person. I've recommended this book to friends and family, and will continue to as it has dramatically changed lives.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 22, 2007

    A great book!!!

    I have read the fire out of this book. I love it that much. When Am I Going To Be Happy? tells you how to break the emotional bad habits that make you unhappy. When I find myself slipping back into my old emotional habits, I just pick up this little gem of a book.

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