When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy

When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy

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by Geneen Roth
     
 

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“A life-changing book.” — Oprah

In this moving and intimate book, Geneen Roth, bestselling author of Feeding the Hungry Heart and Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating, shows how dieting and emotional eating often become a substitute for intimacy. Drawing on her own painful personal experiences, as well as the candid stories of those

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“A life-changing book.” — Oprah

In this moving and intimate book, Geneen Roth, bestselling author of Feeding the Hungry Heart and Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating, shows how dieting and emotional eating often become a substitute for intimacy. Drawing on her own painful personal experiences, as well as the candid stories of those she has helped in her seminars, Roth examines the crucial issues that surround emotional eating: need for control, dependency on melodrama, desire for what is forbidden, and the belief that one wrong move can mean catastrophe. She shows why many people overeat in an attempt to satisfy their emotional hunger, and why weight loss frequently just uncovers a new set of problems. But her welcome message is that change is possible. This book will help readers break destructive, self-perpetuating patterns and learn to satisfy all the hungers—physical and emotional—that make us human.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
"A life-changing book."
—Oprah

“A rare and special book that touches our inner selves with extraordinary courage, authenticity, and beauty. I have seen very few books with this kind of clarity and human depth. It will move you to tears and to joy. It will entertain and delight you, and it will make you a deeper and more compassionate human being.”
—John Robbins, author of Diet for a New America

“SPECTACULAR! I laughed and I cried. . . a tender and daring book that you’ll never forget.”
—Laura Davis, co-author of The Courage to Heal

“I SEE MIRACLES IN MY LIFE EVERY DAY, AND ROTH IS ONE OF THE PEOPLE WHO HELPED MAKE THAT HAPPEN.”
—Anne Lamott in Mademoiselle

“When Food is Love is Roth’s seminal work. This is a big, beautiful, and important book. I cannot say enough about it. I hope everyone reads it.”
—Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down the Bones

“She tells of her own experiences with a non-blink frankness cushioned by the gracefulness of her prose.”
Chicago Tribune

“This book is A) good enough to eat, B) nourishing to the heart.”
—Jack Kornfield, Buddhist teacher, co-author of Seeking the Heart of Wisdom

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
This is the fourth book ( Feeding the Hungry Heart, etc.) generated by the seminars Roth conducts at her Berkeley, Calif., home for people who believe that if they were thin, they would be happy. But the author makes clear that losing weight doesn't automatically gain one success, respect and love. Roth's personal story and those of her clients as related here exemplify the need to discover why the overweight are addicted to food. Citing her own deprived childhood, the author demonstrates that gluttons seek the reliable comforts of eating instead of closeness with humans who might become abusive (like her mother) or vanish (like her father). Those bent on self-improvement will find that the book merely repeats well-known principles in a melodramatic fashion. (Mar.)

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780452268180
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
07/28/1992
Edition description:
Reissue
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
221,250
Product dimensions:
5.29(w) x 7.99(h) x 0.57(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

What People are saying about this

From the Publisher
"A life-changing book."
—Oprah

“A rare and special book that touches our inner selves with extraordinary courage, authenticity, and beauty. I have seen very few books with this kind of clarity and human depth. It will move you to tears and to joy. It will entertain and delight you, and it will make you a deeper and more compassionate human being.”
—John Robbins, author of Diet for a New America

“SPECTACULAR! I laughed and I cried. . . a tender and daring book that you’ll never forget.”
—Laura Davis, co-author of The Courage to Heal

“I SEE MIRACLES IN MY LIFE EVERY DAY, AND ROTH IS ONE OF THE PEOPLE WHO HELPED MAKE THAT HAPPEN.”
—Anne Lamott in Mademoiselle

“When Food is Love is Roth’s seminal work. This is a big, beautiful, and important book. I cannot say enough about it. I hope everyone reads it.”
—Natalie Goldberg, author of Writing Down the Bones

“She tells of her own experiences with a non-blink frankness cushioned by the gracefulness of her prose.”
Chicago Tribune

“This book is A) good enough to eat, B) nourishing to the heart.”
—Jack Kornfield, Buddhist teacher, co-author of Seeking the Heart of Wisdom

Meet the Author

Geneen Roth is a writer and a teacher who has gained international prominence through her work in the field of eating disorders. She is the founder of the Breaking Free workshops, which she has conducted nationwide since 1979. She is also the author of Feeding the Hungry Heart, Breaking Free from Compulsive Eating, and When Food is Love. A frequent guest on television and radio programs, she has written for and been featured in Tie, Ms., New Woman, Family Circle, and Cosmopolitan. Her poetry and short stories have been published in numerous anthologies. Born in New York City, she now lives in northern California.

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When Food Is Love 3.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 37 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book had been recommended to me for years, and yet I kept passing it up because I did not want to acknowledge that there was a problem. After losing more than 100 pounds and then staying in a plateau for 18+ months, I finally had to admit that there must be a reason my weight wasn't moving anymore. And just maybe...I should look at the real problems. So finally, more than five years after Geneen was first suggested to me, I picked up this book and can finally claim the real issues at hand. I'm finally learning to TRUST ME and my body, and I'm dealing with the real pain that has caused my compulsive eating for so many years. I KNOW IT IS HARD TO TAKE THE FIRST STEP. I put it off for a long time, but I am so glad that I have finally faced the issues head on. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then at least buy the book and take a peek at it. If it seems like it is too much for you to deal with right now, then put it down. Trust your own judgement. But someday, it will be the right day, and you will have the understanding and guidance a compassionate woman who has been there herself to start you on your own journey of healing and self-love.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was a complete revelation. It gets the the heart of compulisive eating - it makes you laugh, cry & take a good honest look at yourself. A definate must read.
Kidshearts More than 1 year ago
I bought this book with high hopes because I also am someone who turns to food for comfort and love. Unfortunately, the author repeats and repeats and repeats the same stories of her abusive mother and distant father and how she filled the hole in her life with food. Her parental stories are at first compelling but eventually become tiresome. Her advice to the reader is to acknowledge the past but move on. This book, and her previous books, show that she clearly cannot move on. The stories she tells about her current relationships eventually seem self-absorbed. I did not find the book to be helpful.
KaraO More than 1 year ago
This book explores why so many of us turn to food to soothe our troubled spirits. It faces head on so many of the issues we battle, whether consciously or subconciously. It goes from childhood to present day, and can be an emotional read in and of itself.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have been battling myself internally for as long as I can remember. I began on a journey a couple of years ago to find some peace since the effects of my childhood were clearly protesting my best efforts as an adult to dismiss them as if they simply did not exist. I never addressed my eating disorder openly until about 6 months ago because the shame was too much for me. This book, along with other books by Geneen Roth, has helped me to understand why my battle with food exists on a level that doesn't make me feel isolated and alone. It gives me hope and strength. I have been working with a therapist who is passionate about the inner connection between women and food. She recommended Geneen Roth to me, and I am so glad she did. I wouldn't advise you read this if you are in search of a diet plan or feel it should containa magical revelation on its pages. The inspiration in this book is becoming aware of your relationship with yourself, getting honest about how you use food, and sharing in Ganeen's experience, strengthand hope.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is very touching. It even made me get teary-eyed at all the accounts and stories that I read. It also rings true in my life. However, this is not necessarily a recovery book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book really triggered an "AHA" moment for me. It has made me realize why I'm such an emotional eater and binger. I used to eat while not communicating my emotions. Since I've read the book, I try to think why I'm eating when I'm not actually hungry. This has helped me push the food aside and take in what I really feel. Thanks, Geneen for a very inspiring book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I recommend this book for those with an emotional addiction to food.  However, physical addiction to some foods, including sugar, has been proven scientifically and is documented in peer-review research.  Some of the author's recommendations would have catastrophic repercussions for those with a food addiction.  She should have been more careful with her advice.  It is because of such dangerous advice that I gave it three stars; otherwise, I would have given it four.  
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