When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships

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Overview

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they’re in and what it means. Is it a:

—“See-if” affair?

—Ejector-seat affair?

—Distraction affair?

—Unmet-needs affair?

—Panic affair?

Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as:

—What am I missing in my marriage?

—How do I decide between two people when it’s like comparing an apple to an orange?

—How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both?

When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780312563448
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 7/21/2009
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 272
  • Sales rank: 179,178
  • Product dimensions: 5.54 (w) x 8.26 (h) x 0.72 (d)

Meet the Author

MIRA KIRSHENBAUM is clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston, and has been treating patients in individual and couples therapy for over 30 years. She is the Relationship Expert at Revolution.com, and the author of ten other books.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction: "You Just Don't Help Those People" 1

1 No Regrets 7

First Level Getting Beyond Guilt

2 "I'm So Tired of Feeling Ashamed" 25

Second Level Uncovering the True Motives

3 The Seventeen Different Kinds of Affairs 35

Third Level Finding the one True Love

4 Is Your Radar Working? 77

5 How to Compare an Apple to an Orange 93

6 Not Stupid, Crazy, Creepy, Mean, Ugly, or Smelly 97

7 Better Living Through Better Chemistry 110

8 Loving the Lifestyle 126

9 The Feelings Inside 134

10 The Final Comparison 143

11 What's Closest to Your Heart 147

Fourth Level Doing What's Best for the Children

12 What About the Kids? 165

Fifth Level Breaking up the Triangle

13 Making a Clean Break 185

14 Look Before You Leap 197

Sixth Level Healing the Past, Building a Future

15 It's Not About Saying You're Sorry 209

16 Don't Think Trust, Think Bowling Balls 217

17 "Sweetie, It's You" 225

18 The Love You've Been Searching For 234

Resources Stuff You Need to Know About Divorce

Lawyers and Money: Ouch! 237

Protecting the Kids When There's a Divorce 246

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  • Anonymous

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    Incredible!!!

    This book has been a life changer for me! She took the most complex and painful thing i've ever faced in my life and gave me a clear, rational, and amazingly simple way out of it. After reading the book just once, i was able to get myself out of a hole i've been digging and suffering in for 5 years!! I'm deeply grateful for all her insight and help on this subject no one else could help me with!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 31, 2010

    It helped me find the answers i have been looking for

    If you are going through the turmoil of any side of an affair. Read it. It will not solve the problem, but may help you to review different sides of the issue before deciding what is next.

    5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 11, 2011

    What a great help!

    I would highly recommend "When Good People Have Affairs," for anyone that has had an affair, is thinking of having an affair, or even whose partner has had an affair.

    This book has helped me tremendously. I don't feel quite so alone, and it has helped me better understand my actions. Ch3 helped me recognize why I had an affair and Ch7 helped me focus on and feel validated for the 'something' that was missing in my marriage. The book itself really put things in perspective, and showed me that I am not a terrible, evil human being.

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