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When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships
     

When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships

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by Mira Kirshenbaum
 

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A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from

Overview

A world-renowned therapist, Mira Kirshenbaum has treated thousands of people caught in the powerful drama over what to do when an affair rocks their emotional lives. Now, in When Good People Have Affairs, Kirshenbaum puts her unsurpassed experience into one clear, calming place. She leads readers through six easy-to-navigate steps that will take anyone from anxiety to clarity, and identifies seventeen types of affairs, helping readers figure out which type they're in and what it means. Is it a:

--"See-if" affair?

--Ejector-seat affair?

--Distraction affair?

--Unmet-needs affair?

--Panic affair?

Kirshenbaum encourages honest answers to such questions as:

--What am I missing in my marriage?

--How do I decide between two people when it's like comparing an apple to an orange?

--How do I decide to end my marriage, end my affair, or end them both?

When Good People Have Affairs will be a lifeline to any man or woman who feels caught between two lovers, and its insights are indispensable to anyone else touched by an affair.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

“Gets to the heart of the matter…a fascinating and insightful read.” —Pepper Schwartz, PhD, author of Prime

“Offers some helpful--and sometimes surprising--advice.” —Time

“A wise and welcome addition to the self-help literature on infidelity.” —Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, author of After the Affair

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780312563448
Publisher:
St. Martin's Press
Publication date:
07/21/2009
Edition description:
First Edition
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
169,198
Product dimensions:
5.54(w) x 8.26(h) x 0.72(d)

Meet the Author

MIRA KIRSHENBAUM is clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston, and has been treating patients in individual and couples therapy for over 30 years. She is the Relationship Expert at Revolution.com, and the author of ten other books.

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When Good People Have Affairs 3.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 40 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book has been a life changer for me! She took the most complex and painful thing i've ever faced in my life and gave me a clear, rational, and amazingly simple way out of it. After reading the book just once, i was able to get myself out of a hole i've been digging and suffering in for 5 years!! I'm deeply grateful for all her insight and help on this subject no one else could help me with!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you are going through the turmoil of any side of an affair. Read it. It will not solve the problem, but may help you to review different sides of the issue before deciding what is next.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I would highly recommend "When Good People Have Affairs," for anyone that has had an affair, is thinking of having an affair, or even whose partner has had an affair. This book has helped me tremendously. I don't feel quite so alone, and it has helped me better understand my actions. Ch3 helped me recognize why I had an affair and Ch7 helped me focus on and feel validated for the 'something' that was missing in my marriage. The book itself really put things in perspective, and showed me that I am not a terrible, evil human being.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If you are the offender, this will help you to forgive yourself without justifying that what you did was ok.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Thirty pages into this book, the author tells the reader they should NOT come clean about their affair to their partner because "not hurting people" is higher on the morality scale than "telling the truth."  I stopped reading at that point.  What a waste of money. 
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It didnt help me walk away from the love of my life. It didnt help me fall out of love. It just made me more sad.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Felt as though it did an awful lot of justifying affairs.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Excellent book - sensible and non-judgmental. Provided tremendous clarity around a set of very powerful emotions and confusing decisions.
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