When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

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by Manuel J. Smith
     
 

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The best-seller that helps you say: "I just said 'no' and I don't feel guilty!"  Are you letting your kids get away with murder?  Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you?  Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism?  Are you having trouble coping with people?  Learn the

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The best-seller that helps you say: "I just said 'no' and I don't feel guilty!"  Are you letting your kids get away with murder?  Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you?  Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism?  Are you having trouble coping with people?  Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty,  the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.

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ISBN-13:
9780553263909
Publisher:
Random House Publishing Group
Publication date:
01/28/1985
Edition description:
Reissue
Pages:
352
Sales rank:
146,781
Product dimensions:
6.88(w) x 10.92(h) x 0.93(d)

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When I Say No, I Feel Guilty 3.9 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
RolfDobelli More than 1 year ago
Take a trip back to the 1970s, when leisure suits, long sideburns and "assertiveness training" were all the rage. Psychologist Manuel J. Smith was a pioneer in the life-changing assertiveness training movement. Reading his bestseller about it decades later adds a new perspective. Some of his advice still feels relevant, particularly when he urges you to beware of those who try to impose their standards of "right" and "wrong" to manipulate you. Smith lists your 10 "assertive rights," the most important being the right to be the ultimate judge of your own behavior. He details several verbal techniques you can use to block manipulation, and encourage productive communication and negotiation. He supports each tactic with sample dialogues from real-life situations. Although some of his counsel may seem as dated as disco, getAbstract recommends his classic training manual to anyone who still feels guilty about saying "no!"
ClassicRockFan More than 1 year ago
I like the author's main principles. His Assertive Bill of Rights is a list of a person's rights in social interactions. His main premise is that we all ultimately must judge our own actions and should not make decisions out of guilt or anxiety (In other words, do not allow yourself to be manipulated). This was a quick read and it was easy to understand. However, I have to say that his suggested methods seem somewhat robotic and sometimes not very genuine. The book includes plenty of examples of assertive dialogue. These are useful in exemplifying the author's concepts to readers, but reading similar exchanges gets very repetitive. In my opinion, No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover is better if you're a male reader.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I consider this book close to the bible. I learned how to handle situations and can relax when conflict comes my way. I also recognize what's happening when things are phrased a certain way and can respond immediately.This book has hit the nail right on the head for me for different situations that I would normally feel scared, guilty, argumentative and defensive in.I feel like I can deal with almost anyone in social situations.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Probably one of the most helpful books I have read....definately a good purchase! It was very helpful to me in many ways because it went beyond how to handle 'manipulative situations.' It has given me a new outlook on how to handle certain situations that I was having a hard time dealing with. I found myself analyzing other people in my life that I converse with, and it made me realize why they say what they say & do what they do. Which in return has given me a new positive approach on how to handle uneasy situations.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I really love this book. It helped me so much. I didn't have trouble being timid or shy, but I tended to blow my stack when I didn't get things the way I wanted. I would hold things in if it felt 'uncomfortable, akward, or embarrassing' making it worse. Got a lot of stomach trouble and high blood pressure. I learned that my temper and anger just made it harder to get things my way and created resistance in others. It comes in a tape form too if you're super busy. Get it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a therapist, I have occasion to refer to this book almost daily, definitely every week. Whether dealing with the health care system, a partner, a child, a clerk in any store, we all need to be able to stick to our guns and be heard. This book shows you how, and shows you what techniques others use to get you to fold. You'll be prepared in no time to stand your ground in a polite, reasonable manner.
ijohnson250 More than 1 year ago
If you want to know the basics of assertiveness and how to use it in your daily life this is a great book to start and build with.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
If you want to be self-aware of how people try to manipulate (make you feel guity) you and be able to do something about it read this book it will change your life and give you a clear perspective on the topic-at-hand! You'll relize that you can be in control of your own life!!!!
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