When Love Stumbles: How to Rediscover Love, Trust, and Fulfillment in your Relationship

by Randi Gunther

Overview

Discover the 8 Most Common Ways Love Stumbles and What to Do About Them

Falling in love is easy. Staying deeply committed to your relationship, even when love stumbles, is the greater challenge. Eight major stumbling blocks can cause even the most passionate couples to drift apart-and chances are, if you're in a committed relationship, you've brushed up against at least a few of these. When Love Stumbles offers a plan for reversing problematic relationship patterns by making simple changes to your everyday habits. You'll find that these small but important steps will help your relationship find its footing once again.

Remove the eight major stumbling blocks:

•End disillusionment and find fulfillment
•Banish boredom by adding excitement to your relationship
•Turn destructive conflicts into constructive challenges
•Shift your focus from self-preservation to putting your partner first
•Stop struggling solo and start operating as a team
•Go from feeling like you're on trial to feeling unconditionally loved
•Instead of pursuing outside interests, recommit to each other
•Different dreams? Find common ground in new mutual goals

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781608824427
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	06/02/2011
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	248
File size:	316 KB

About the Author

Randi Gunther, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in Lomita, CA. She has given multiple workshops and lectures, inspiring hundreds of couples to go beyond their limitations to create successful relationships. A practical idealist, she encourages couples to give up their deadlocked limitations and pursue the freedom to find new purpose together. In more than forty years of practice, she has spent over 90,000 face-to-face hours helping individuals and couples.

Randi Gunther, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor in Lomita, CA. She has given multiple workshops and lectures, inspiring hundreds of couples to go beyond their limitations to create successful relationships. A practical idealist, she encourages her patients to give up their deadlocked limitations and to create the relationships of their dreams. In more than forty years of practice, she has spent over 90,000 face-to-face hours helping individuals and couples.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments and Gratitude vii

Prologue ix

Introduction 1

1 discovering the stumbles 9

2 the healing plan 23

3 from fulfillment to disillusionment 42

4 from excitement to boredom 65

5 from constructive challenges to destructive conflicts 89

6 from sacrificing for your partner to self-preservation 111

7 from being a team to operating solo 129

8 from feeling unconditionally loved to being on trial 149

9 from focusing on the relationship to pursuing outside interests 175

10 from common goals to different dreams 197

11 creating a stumble-proof future 221

suggested reading 233

Editorial Reviews

“This is a wise and compassionate approach to helping couples recover from the ordinary ‘stumbles’ they may encounter. I think it will benefit couples who are experiencing breakdowns in communication, need to repair violations of trust, or simply recognize the wear and tear of a no-longer-brand-new relationship. I’d even recommend it as preventative work for couples who are still feeling great about their relationships.”
—Dusty Miller, author of Stop Running from Love

“When Love Stumbles is a comprehensive roadmap couples in trouble can use to get their relationships back on track. I highly recommend it.”
—Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, author of Contemplating Divorce and Stronger Day by Day

“Everyone stumbles in love. Randi Gunther has given her readers a set of tools and exercises to help get them back on the path of mutual respect and admiration. If your relationship is faltering, even just a little bit, read this book and take her advice.”
—Barton Goldsmith, PhD, author of Emotional Fitness for Couples and Emotional Fitness for Intimacy

“There is no better way to learn how to make a relationship work than by being in one. Relationship trouble doesn't mean that something is wrong. Quite the contrary, it means that something is right. Trouble shows us the next step necessary for our emotional maturity. With Randi Gunther’s new book, When Love Stumbles, we don't have to take this step alone. She shares exercises, perspectives, and solid advice that will help us cope better with our problems and realize our true potential as romantic partners.”
—Allen Berger, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Love Secrets Revealed

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