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Posted June 10, 2012
I purchased this after reading an excerpt on Barnes and Noble. The excerpt was by far the most compelling that I had read of the titles on loss of a parent as an adult. Unfortunately, the book did not fulfill the promise of the excerpt and does not deal with the loss of a parent in any way other than cursory. First, it's anecdotal, and anecdote-filled "support" books are of no help in understanding one's own situation. Not only that, but it deals with the loss of parents at all ages--and in this work, the average age of loss of a parent seemed to be early 30's.
I finished reading (after some skimming) in less than an hour. With all due respect to the author, I don't see how this book will be of help to anyone in the midst of grief. It's the kind of thing one would encounter in a mid-80's women's magazine. Readers in 2012 are generally more sophisticated if not more highly educated than when the book was published; *SOME* attempt to help a reader to understand the grief process is essential.
Posted January 5, 2011
I recently lost my father and was struggling to cope and deal with his untimely passing. I was 21 years old when he passed; my mom's birthday was only a week away, his was a week and a half. The passing was a complete surprise to all of us. My mom and I don't exactly have a great relationship, so talking about my dad and his passing became more difficult. I do not have any friends who's had a parent pass away at a young age, so no one could really help guide me.
I was told by several people to find a book that would possibly help me understand and cope with my dad's passing. This book did a great job of relating to different age groups (ages 13 - 60+) and different kinds of untimely passing's (whether it be a long-term disease, suicide, murder, or just out of the blue, like a heart attack). The book remained relatively neutral about the age of the person dealing with the death of his/her parent and how the parent passed, which is great because there aren't that many books for people (especially my age) dealing with the untimely death of a parent. I have researched and looked for books that could help me (I found that a lot of books deal with young children, teenagers, or people who are 40+ who have recently lost a parent). I realize that young adults like myself experiencing a passing of someone important in their lives may be rare, but it does happen and I'm sure a lot of young adults would like a book to help them; that being said, this book is the closest and best reference out there that I have found.
The author included had many useful tips, tools, and suggestions for how to deal with such a passing and even gave a reference to other books that may be helpful and even some outside resources.