When Partners Become Parents: The big Life Change for Couples / Edition 1by Carolyn Pape Cowan, Philip A. Cowan
Pub. Date: 01/01/1999
Publisher: Taylor & Francis
When it first appeared in 1992, this book became an instant must-read on the lists of new parents and family studies professionals alike. Its message is just as relevant, just as timely, and perhaps even more important today. As indicated in the new foreword, by John M. Gottman, and in the updates and new afterword provided by the authors, the transition to
When it first appeared in 1992, this book became an instant must-read on the lists of new parents and family studies professionals alike. Its message is just as relevant, just as timely, and perhaps even more important today. As indicated in the new foreword, by John M. Gottman, and in the updates and new afterword provided by the authors, the transition to parenthood remains one of the most challenging periods in adulthood. Readers today will be rewarded, just as earlier readers have been, by the stories reported in the pages of this book and by the wise counsel of the authors who put those stories in context.
Table of Contents
Contents: Preface. J. Gottman, Foreword. Introduction: Becoming a Family. Part I: The New Pioneers. Changing Families in a Changing World. To Be or Not to Be a Parent. The Pregnant Pause: Nine Long Months. Part II: Crossing the Great Divide. What's Happening to Me? What's Happening to Us? Beyond the Doorstep: New Problems, New Solutions. Legacies From Our Parents. Parenting Our Children. Part III: Protecting the Homestead. An Ounce of Prevention: Couple Groups. Talk to Me: Hidden Challenges in Couples' Communication. Who Is at Risk and What Can Be Done? Afterword.
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Despite the fact that this book is listed as a textbook and that it is a scientific study from the 70s, it is a delightful, insightful, and pertinent read for anyone considering having a family. When I began thinking of kids, I was curious to know how it would affect me & my marriage. There are many books out there that talk about the woes of motherhood and how to be a good parent (and, trust me, I've read nearly all of them), but this is the only book I've read that deals with the changes parenthood has on a marriage. The Cowans clearly identify the types of decisions, relationships, and patterns that play into this change and how, as a couple, you can weather them. This book will really help couples visualize their future with kids-- I highly recommend it.
When Parents Become Partners does a wonderful job of being accessible to new parents and parents-to-be, while also providing well-researched information and recommendations for professionals who work with couples. Carolyn and Phil Cowan's research following a group of pregnant couples and a control group of couples who hadn't yet decided whether to have children is fascinating, and readers will certainly recognize themselves and their friends, family among the various 'types' of couples that emerge. Given the enormous transition that takes place in a couples' relationship when a child is born, this book offers reassuring, realistic information about how to survive -- or help others survive -- the change.