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When Someone You Love Is Kinky
     

When Someone You Love Is Kinky

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by Dossie Easton
 

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Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or

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Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or your boss.... If someone you love has a sexual kink, or if you suspect that she may, and you want to know more about what that means to her and how you can deal with what it means to you, this book is for you. "When Someone You Love Is Kinky will do more for family values than anything the right wing ever dreamed up, because it lets people communicate and love and respect each other on the basis of who they really are. A wonderful contribution twoards a more sex-positive culture." - Dr. Carol Queen, author, Real Live Nude Girl "Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt, both wise and compassionate women, and both players in the world of kink, welcome the reader gently into that world and answer everything anyone might have wanted to ask but was really afraid to find out." - Isadora Alman, syndicated sex and relationship columnist

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The spectrum of human sexuality and behavior is culturally defined, shaped, and sanctioned. Some acts and relationships being within the norm, others being viewed as extreme or deviant. In every society, consenting adult sexual practices can vary widely as to whether they are normative or "kinky". These practices include bondage, spanking, crossdressing, erotic roleplaying, fetishism, and related activities. Marriage and family counselor Dossie Easton and writer/educator Catherine A. Liszt wrote When Someone You Love Is Kinky to help "nonkinky" folks understand and communicate with their kinky friends, partners, and relatives. Included are guidelines for dealing with the emotional turmoil of the comingout process; brief and nonthreatening descriptions of the commonest kinks (and ideas about why people enjoy them); suggestions for how to talk to your kinky friend or relative in ways that promote good communication; explanation of how kinky people keep themselves safe while exploring diverse sexualities; a glossary of commonly used terminology from the kink communities; a resource guide to help the reader find further information and support. A highly recommended addition to personal, academic, and community library human sexuality reference collections, When Someone You Love Is Kinky is sound, appropriate, informative, and serious reading.
Marika Christian
When Someone You Love Is Kinky is a concise, and easy to read book, questions are anticipated and answered with respect. Kinky behavior is explained with dignity, and isn't cheapened.
Lambda Book Report Marika Christian

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781890159849
Publisher:
SCB Distributors
Publication date:
12/01/2011
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Sales rank:
682,400
File size:
4 MB

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Isadora Alman
This book should be required reading for anyone interested in expanding her knowledge of human sexuality.
— (Isadora Alman, syndicated columnist, Ask Isadora)

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When Someone You Love Is Kinky 4.7 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 3 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is aimed at those people not into alternative lifestyles like BDSM, but who have friends or lovers into SM. The authors take great pains not to talk down to the audience or to act like those into BDSM are better than anyone else. They instead take a calm, rational approach at explaining why there are those into consensual power exchange and why they enjoy it. They also take great pains to say those into this lifestyle are not being coerced or abused. The book's chapters deal with topics like how to deal with finding out your lover/friend is kinky; the 'world of kink,' how we manage to keep all our activites consensual, and how to better accept your friend's kink. The book's final chapter that explains how to deal with finding out it's your partner that is 'kinky.' One of the scariest things about being into 'kinky lifestyles' can be attempting to tell your friends who aren't kinky about this side of you. This book is an excellent guide towards telling the people you care about that you indeed enjoy so-called 'kinky sex' and explaining to them what consensual power exchange should be about.
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a first of its kind support and explanation book for those who love kinky people (either friends, lovers, or children) this is a wonderful book. Styled after the support materials for those with homosexual or bisexual children, it values the feelings of the non-kinky while trying to explain what BDSM is about and how it is safely practiced. Only two problems really: I wish it was bigger, there seems to be a lot left out such as dealing directly with the fact that someone might use the BDSM lingo to hide abuse and how to spot that (a fear I'm sure that enters people's minds). Also the language, while soothing and simple, might make a few feel patronized. Follow the advice of the book itself: read it together with your loved ones!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago