When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

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by David Richo
     
 

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In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our

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In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present  helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs.

Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to:

   • Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships—and why this is a gift
   • Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships
   • Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business
   • Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781590305713
Publisher:
Shambhala Publications, Inc.
Publication date:
07/22/2008
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
274,513
Product dimensions:
5.92(w) x 8.96(h) x 0.62(d)

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David Richo, PhD, is a therapist and author who leads popular workshops on personal and spiritual growth. He is known for drawing on Buddhist thought, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work. He is the author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.

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When the Past Is Present 3.4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 15 reviews.
A_Sloan More than 1 year ago
Profoundly Helpful My friend has an old edition of Dr. Richo's "How to be an Adult" that she treasures, but it wasn't until this book came onto my desk that I discovered how relevant his teachings were to me. Even though my spouse and I have been together for nearly a decade, I struggle with letting old issues lie and project them into current problems. I do think I'm getting better now because of this book's clear guidance. The 5 A's in particular are simple, beautiful, and easy to take home: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowance (for your partner to be his/her self). I have approached several books to improve the relationsships in my life and each have illuminated different ideas that have worked for me. Similar to Impossible Love, this book addresses transference of feelings, like obsessive love, into situations that are not exactly... ideal to say the least/ This book teaches you how to deal with the feelings by changing the thought patterns so they don't get the best of you!
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