When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

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There is a fundamental happiness available to every individual--yet we usually miss it while spending our lives trying to escape suffering that is ultimately guite inescapable. Pema Chodron, an American Buddhist teacher, shows that the secret to freeing oneself from pain is not to run from it, but to step right up to the uncharted territory of difficulty with friendliness and curiosity.
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Overview

There is a fundamental happiness available to every individual--yet we usually miss it while spending our lives trying to escape suffering that is ultimately guite inescapable. Pema Chodron, an American Buddhist teacher, shows that the secret to freeing oneself from pain is not to run from it, but to step right up to the uncharted territory of difficulty with friendliness and curiosity.
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Tibetan Buddhist Pema Chodron believes that by attending ourselves, we heal ourselves. Her clear call for this root serenity has already won this book over one hundred thousand readers.
Publishers Weekly
Pema Chodron, a student of Chogyam Trunpa Rinpoche and Abbot of Gampo Abbey, has written the Tibetan Buddhist equivalent of Harold Kushner's famous book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People. As the author indicates in the postscript to her book: "We live in difficult times. One senses a possibility they may get worse." Consequently, Chodron's book is filled with useful advice about how Buddhism helps readers to cope with the grim realities of modern life, including fear, despair, rage and the feeling that we are not in control of our lives. Through reflections on the central Buddhist teaching of right mindfulness, Chodron orients readers and gives them language with which to shape their thinking about the ordinary and extraordinary traumas of modern life. But most importantly, Chodron demonstrates how effective the Buddhist point of view can be in bringing order into disordered lives. (Sept.) Copyright 2003 Cahners Business Information.
Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
Pema Chodron, a student of Chogyam Trunpa Rinpoche and Abbot of Gampo Abbey, has written the Tibetan Buddhist equivalent of Harold Kushner's famous book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People. As the author indicates in the postscript to her book: "We live in difficult times. One senses a possibility they may get worse." Consequently, Chodron's book is filled with useful advice about how Buddhism helps readers to cope with the grim realities of modern life, including fear, despair, rage and the feeling that we are not in control of our lives. Through reflections on the central Buddhist teaching of right mindfulness, Chodron orients readers and gives them language with which to shape their thinking about the ordinary and extraordinary traumas of modern life. But, most importantly, Chodron demonstrates how effective the Buddhist point of view can be in bringing order into disordered lives. (Jan.)
Library Journal
An American Buddhist nun and author (Start Where You Are, LJ 6/1/94), Chdrn here passes on the teachings of the Venerable Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, advising a loving kindness toward oneself and awakening a compassionate attitude toward our pain and the pain of others. The readings allow us to reconnect with a truth already known or to find a new way of looking at everyday chaos. Throughout, we are shown basic Buddhist beliefs and given instructions in discovering one's true nature through asking questions, facing one's fears, and dealing with the present. The instructions can be taken as meditations, affirmations, or simple reminders of how to transform our minds and actions into nonaggression, which benefits ourselves and society. Popular reading recommended for all libraries; Chodron is donating the proceeds of this book to the Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia, Canada.-Leo Kritz, West Des Moines P.L., Ia.
Tricycle Magazine
There are few Dharma voices as clear as Pema Chodron's, and few people who know more about things falling apart than mothers.
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"Pema Chodron is one of those spiritual teachers who brings ancient wisdom to bear upon our daily triumphs and tragedies. . . . Incredibly wise and poignantly practical."—Spirituality & Health

"Chödrön's book is filled with useful advice about how Buddhism helps readers to cope with the grim realities of modern life, including fear, despair, rage and the feeling that we are not in control of our lives . . . Chödrön demonstrates how effective the Buddhist point of view can be in bringing order into disordered lives."—Publishers Weekly

"This is a book that could serve you for a lifetime."—Natural Health

"As one of Pema Chödrön's grateful students, I have been learning the most pressing and necessary lesson of all: how to keep opening wider my own heart."—Alice Walker

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781570629693
  • Publisher: Shambhala Publications, Inc.
  • Publication date: 9/17/2002
  • Series: Shambhala Library
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 338,895
  • Product dimensions: 4.58 (w) x 7.05 (h) x 0.75 (d)

Meet the Author

Pema Chödrön is an American Buddhist nun in the lineage of Chögyam Trungpa. She is resident teacher at Gampo Abbey in Nova Scotia, the first Tibetan monastery in North America established for Westerners. She is the author of many books and audiobooks, including the best-selling When Things Fall Apart and Don't Bite the Hook.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 24, 2001

    Buddhist Teachings for Western Ears

    How many times have you heard a Buddhist intellectual relate a teaching by saying, 'this reminds me of a Gary Larson cartoon I saw once?' Ane Pema Chodron, an American Buddhist Nun, truly knows how to bend the Western ear toward Eastern thought. Further, she does so with honesty, humor and clarity in this amazing book. I purchased this at a time when for me things seemed to be 'falling apart.' It reminds one of the need to attend to and, indeed, love one's self as a path to attending to and loving others. Pema Chodron is truly someone I would love to meet one day.

    10 out of 10 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 3, 2000

    Very Powerful

    This is a very powerful book. I am a Christian and a therapist but she raised some questions and issues that I wished I had studied many years ago. This is the most impactful book I have ever read

    6 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted December 30, 2008

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    When things Fall Apart They Really Fall Apart so Let them

    I had to read this book for one of my english classes as Saint Norbert College and it isn't really a self help book but it sure has helped me. Now I have this little pema that sits on my shoulder when I start to panic and she just tells be let it fall apart it will go back and fall apart again and again there is no use freaking out about it. I really like the stories in the book that she uses to get her point across as well. One book from school I don't mind hanging onto

    5 out of 9 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 29, 2006

    Helped me at a difficult time

    I bought this book after my mother died, and it did help me. Specifically, I found helpful the concepts that suffering connects us to other humans, not just today but who have suffered down through history, and that such events can be viewed as a gift, to 'wake us up' and help us become enlightened. Nobody wants pain, but it is better to face it and have a way of dealing with it positively.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 18, 2009

    We all need to read this in these difficult times!

    I highly recommend this book to help us all survive these difficult times with loving kindness toward one another instead of blame and "me-first" mentality. It helped me "lean into" difficult times instead of running to the refrigerator or the mall. Just READ IT!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 23, 2012

    Life Changing - perhaps the only book you ever need to read

    I’ve read a plethora of “self-help” books over the past years – most of which had at least some useful nugget. This book was different. When I finished I commented to a friend “I don’t think I need to read any more books – I just need to read this one over and over.” Of course, the key is that it’s not just about reading but about doing what’s suggested – that’s the hard part.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted April 24, 2010

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    Good tool for improving meditation practice

    I think this audio book was helpful to me in learning more effective ways to use meditation in my life. It's definitely a must read for those who are interested in improving and refining their meditation practice. Pema Chodron reminds us, however, that there is no right or wrong way to practice meditation but there are some useful suggestions you can incorporate into your practice. I enjoyed several concepts she discusses and the references she makes are helpful. One important point she makes is about the challenge we face in making changes in our lives. Pema explains that our lives are similar to the rotating mill wheel that we decide needs to reverse it's rotation. She reminds us that at first, it takes a lot of effort and energy to begin the process of reversing the wheel's direction, but once you make the commitment and invest that time it then starts spinning in the other direction almost effortlessly. She also talks about fear and how we have to learn to face it in order to overcome it. She gives the example of a Buddhist monk visiting a Monastery where a fierce dog ready to attack is chained to a gate from which he breaks free and starts running towards the group. While the others run away in fear, the monk runs towards the dog with an equal fierceness that stops it in its tracks. I like that analogy in terms of how we must learn to face scary things in our own lives. We can either choose to run away from them or face them and defeat them. It's a profound read and not for the faint of heart. It definitely is a book I'll need to go back to often, because there is a lot of deepness to it that can't be fully absorbed in one setting. I find myself reflecting and journaling on many of the key points. I love the audio version because I can pause the CD where I need to and then go back to it when I'm ready for the next major point. I think I'll be re-reading it (or listening to it) soon. There's always something new to absorb each time.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 13, 2010

    When things fall apart

    This is a good book because things will fall apart, even this book. Everything in the universe falls apart. We should learn and know how to deal with it. Pema Chodron expresses this truth wonderfully.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 2, 2010

    Interesting Take/ Refresher on Buddhism for Experienced Meditators

    Pema Chodron reminds us that the only way to get through life's difficult moments is to go through them. Not to escape, to hide, but to face them head on, face them consciously. If we do this, she proves, we will get richness from our difficult experiences, even if we do not get comfort.

    Her take on the powerful and often misunderstood practice of tonglen is first rate. She shows us how to use tonglen to make our difficulties digestible, instead of pennances to be endured.

    In her view, spiritual progress is a move down to profundity, where we can find compassion to relate to others no matter what we --or they -- they are called to do. Much more satisfying than a climb to the peak where we stand alone, as if that would make us "better than others." Maybe at the profound bottom, other readers will find her promise of "the love that does not die," something I can't yet claim.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 29, 2009

    Great reading

    Thoroughly enertaining and enjovable. If you didn't love Charleston before you will after reading this book.

    1 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 20, 2009

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    Excellent insight into utilizing Buddhist traditions

    There is a gentleness to the way Pema Chodron writes. Clearly, she comes from the Buddhist perspective - she is a Buddhist nun. However, she is also an American woman who has come to this spiritual tradition and represents it in a way a Western reader can easily relate to for their use in daily life.

    Great stuff!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 10, 2001

    Nice book

    This is a nice book for anyone, not just for those who feel that things are falling apart. It offers insight into accepting life just as it is, in this moment. The author shares her 'wisdom mind' in this concise and compassionate book about finding peace within the fundamental groundlessness of life.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 17, 2014

    This book calmed the fear that lives in me sometimes.  Thanks to

    This book calmed the fear that lives in me sometimes.  Thanks to Pema I remember to love for the sake of all livings things and live my life by that code.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 7, 2012

    Police road block

    Everyone must be serched

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 1, 2012

    Drake to "Jade"Or Whatever she or her calls herself

    Im done rping so if we're still "together" or whatever then its over.Becase honestly i think your a liar.And frankly i dont have time for your games.I have a rl gf and i dont have time for a rp one.Especially a sneaky b i t c h like you.Im still in love with jess but i don really think it matters now that shes dating that tyler/you guy.Thats why im quitting rp unless i can get jss back.But i guess that will never happen and she will never know how deeply i really feel for her.So goodbye and have fun with your games.

    0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 1, 2012

    Jade

    Rolls eyes.

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    Posted June 25, 2012

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 26, 2012

    Life changing

    If youre sad, scared, angry, hurt or alone read this book. It will change your life. I always come back to this book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 25, 2012

    Simply great.

    Pema Chodron is the best!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 21, 2011

    Wonderful advice

    Very helpful in putting things into perspective

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