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In When to Forgive, psychologist Mona Affinito takes you, step-by-step, through a process that will help you understand what you want to do about an injury or insult you have suffered. She helps you confront your fears and doubts, come to terms with your own values, and evaluate the costs or gains of punishing the other person. Once you make a decision, go on to sort out how you want to put your decision into action. Then, monitor the results.
Posted January 5, 2000
This is an immensely helpful book. Through the subject of forgiveness the author gives the reader a complex yet clear guidebook for self-exploration. The exercises give the reader a practical method for disentangling a web of emotions so he or she can work through them one by one. I particularly like that the author left open the possibility that the reader may choose to punish. This way, the goal is a healthy and mindful decision rather than a demand for forgiveness as the only healthy option. Either way, the reader gains self-knowledge. I have gained some real insights in reading this book. By the way, the paragraph on moral rules in the blame section is an excellent nugget of insight. The book is full of these little bonuses, clear-sighted delineations of issues that you wouldn't necessarily expect in a book on Forgiveness. I think the book does a great job of treating the entire soul while always focusing on one aspect of human interaction.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.