When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life

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by Victoria Secunda
     
 

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This, the first book ever to say that mother is not always a girl's best friend, is based on a landmark study of the mother-daughter relationships. Secunda offers breakthrough advice on understanding, and improving, what could be a woman's most critical relationship.  See more details below

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This, the first book ever to say that mother is not always a girl's best friend, is based on a landmark study of the mother-daughter relationships. Secunda offers breakthrough advice on understanding, and improving, what could be a woman's most critical relationship.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
In her well-researched study freelance journalist Secunda draws on 100 interviews with grown daughters in which they describe early painful relationships with their mothers, protracted in their adult emotional lives and memories. To help repair the damage done to the psyches of daughters whose mothers are characterized as, for instance, the Avenger, the Doormat, the Smotherer, the author suggests a measure of separation from the mother--``divorce'' if need be--designed to rid the daughter of guilt, restore her self-esteem and prepare her for her own motherhood. Secunda advises daughters to forgive their fallible mothers, ``who did the best they could,'' and attempt a balance based on generosity and self-preservation. Nevertheless, this study tends to treat daughters as hapless victims, underestimating the pressures imposed on mothers of yesterday and today. Major ad/promo; first serial to Redbook; BOMC featured alternate; author tour. (May)
Library Journal
Extensive research went into this detailed study of troubled mother-daughter relationships and how these relationships can be improved, usually through the efforts of the daughter. Dysfunctional parents usually raise dysfunctional children who pass the same behavior on to their children unless a conscientious effort, often with the help of therapy, is made to break the chain. Practical advice on how to come to terms with, and often improve, unhealthy mother-daughter bonds is offered through excerpts from many interviews and quotes from experts. Serial rights to Cosmopolitan and Redbook will bring additional attention to this book.--Marguerite Mroz, Baltimore Cty. P.L.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780307431301
Publisher:
Random House Publishing Group
Publication date:
11/04/2009
Sold by:
Random House
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
432
Sales rank:
271,543
File size:
2 MB

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When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 8 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
A friend bought this book for me several years ago and I read it several times. The help it provided me was immeasurable. After several years and moving a couple of times I needed to read it again. I couldn't find it so I ordered it again. I have read it again and this time will keep it close so that I can refer to it when ever I feel sad about my mother. It is a wonderful book that you will want to read again and again. A.R. Wylie
Guest More than 1 year ago
As a 30-something daughter of a well- meaning "critic", I found this book extremely informative and helpful in providing insight into the complicated mother-daughter relationship. It also offers realistic ways to find peace and acceptance and/or make changes to improve the existing relationship. Highly recommended for any mother or daughter.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I bought this book from the B&N up the street and it was a great read. It was right on the money with my relationship with my mom.
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Guest More than 1 year ago
I have an estranged 19 year old daughter who chose her dad during the divorce. I am only hopeful that she contacts me again someday because I really love her. I have hurt and heartache. Can anyone help me and encourage me please?? still hoping and praying in Oakville, Missouri