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When You Lie about Your Age, the Terrorists Win: Reflections on Looking in the Mirror

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Not long ago it occurred to Carol Leifer that she had to stop telling one of her favorite stories—seeing the Beatles perform at Shea Stadium—because it dated her. But then she thought: what's that about? "I see now that when you deny your age, you deny yourself," she says, "and when you lie about your age, you become your inauthentic twin. But mot importantly, when you lie about your age, they win. (And of course, by 'they,' I mean the ...
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Not long ago it occurred to Carol Leifer that she had to stop telling one of her favorite stories—seeing the Beatles perform at Shea Stadium—because it dated her. But then she thought: what's that about? "I see now that when you deny your age, you deny yourself," she says, "and when you lie about your age, you become your inauthentic twin. But mot importantly, when you lie about your age, they win. (And of course, by 'they,' I mean the terrorists)."

In When You Lie About Your Age, the Terrorists Win, comedy veteran Leifer tells hilarious stories about herself in her own voice; her Long Island childhood; her late, beloved father, the inveterate teller of dirty jokes ("I see now that, as a child, a lot of 'looking up to your parents' has to do with height"); and her eight-eight-year-old mother, who is still a practicing psychologist. Along the way, she also takes shots at plastic surgery, class reunions, the techno craze, Chanukah, becoming a first- time parent at mid-life, and a host of other twenty-first-century crazinesses.
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  • ISBN-13: 9781597772587
  • Publisher: Phoenix Books, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 4/1/2009
  • Format: CD
  • Product dimensions: 5.70 (w) x 5.10 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Carol Leifer

Carol Leifer is an accomplished stand-up comedian, Emmy nominated writer, producer and actor. She has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Will and Grace and Seinfeld. She was a regular on Late Night with David Letterman, appearing 25 times. Currently touring, reading pieces from her book to sold-out audiences, she lives in Los Angeles with her partner, their son and seven rescue dogs. 

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  • Posted June 29, 2009

    So much fun!!

    I have always loved Carol's stand up and her witty writing on Seinfeld and The Ellen show so I was very excited to see that she had written this book.

    This book was my treat when I was on the elliptical at the gym. I was only allowed to read it while working out. There were times that I laughed so hard I almost fell off the elliptical! (ok, that may be a sign that I need to work on my core more, but still!)

    Carol's positive and funny outlook on life and how she got were she is today is contagious. Though one may not see it in the moment, lives hardships can translate into times you can look back on and smile, and lucky for all of us, in Carol's case, laugh out loud.

    This book reminded me of being at a girls night with about 20 of my girls. It's like a bottle of wine (well probably more) with a cover! I will be getting this books as gifts for all my girls! and my ex husband as well....

    My only problem was that I read it too fast and now the elliptical doesn't seem as fun. I read it cover to cover, including the paragraph at the very last page about where the font originated. Ok, I may be a geek but this book made me happy and smile every time I think about it.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 14, 2010

    Literary Agents Tell Aspiring Writers

    Literary Agents Tell Aspiring Writers that your book must have one of the following to be successful....(1) A Recognizable Name; (2) A Great Cover; (3) A Catchy Title; (4) A Reputation For A Great Story or Success; or (5) Great Word of Mouth.....Ok, so Carol's book has a Catchy Title.....but don't let that deceive you. I checked it out at the supermarket for a long trip and found it hard to put down. Its funny, touching and provides great cocktail chatter...everything a guy looks for in a book, right? Seriously, it is intelligent and a wonderful read from a comedian who has been around long enough that she intuitively knows what makes a highly entertaining book.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted August 5, 2009

    Read this book and then give it to your favorite friends!!!

    Loved the book but honestly when I lie about my age it's because I'm just too old to do the math. Fortunately for me my birth year ends in a zero so I can at least get it right plus or minus 10 years. Whoops, off subject again. Who knew you could make friends with a book? WYLAYATTW feels like a chat with a dear old friend. For three days I was devoted to finishing this wonderful conversation about life's ups and downs and the privilege of being able to enjoy a life full of imperfections.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 30, 2010

    Amusing

    This was an amusing book, but does not live up to its title. A little self-serving, but mildly funny

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  • Posted June 25, 2010

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    Touching, Personal, and hilarious story of the author's life as well as recent self-discovery

    I recently found this author on Facebook after having been a fan of her stand-up comedy for many years. I didn't realize she had written this book so I got it in audio format for a recent road trip and loved it, so much so that I'm writing a review for it.

    The author read this audiobook which to me magnified the intimacy of her personal story.

    She talks about growing up on the East Coast, some of her first jobs, her first marriage, finding her true love, starting a family, discovering how much she loves pets and has a passion to save them (so much so that she jokes about being called the "Crazy Chihuahua Lady" and she became a vegan. She discusses her spirituality as well as rediscovering that as an adult. The author is Jewish as am I so maybe I related more to her story because of that commonality. I also loved her take on growing old and doing good in the world. Plus it's funny. Very funny. It's like listening to her do a routine that involves her telling you all about her life. I found myself laughing out loud many times.

    The thing that struck me the most though; and I think prompted this review is her discussion of her father. I felt this book was a touching tribute to her father, including a discussion of what to do with the house she grew up in and some of her father's personal effects after he passed. I lost my father-in-law a few years back to a terminal illness and my Rabbi recommended I read "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" by Harold S. Kushner. That book was helpful and comforting but I would add this book to the same list. I don't think it was written to comfort a grieving child, but Carol Leifer's tribute to her father was very touching and helped me remember the lighter moments about my father-in-law. I think some of my favorite stories she includes are about some quips he had that I thought were very insightful and of him filling in as a stand-up comic (his dream) at a medical convention when the entertainer canceled.

    I just realized when i was writing the review the author had written another book (a year before this one) so now I'm ordering that one too. I hope you enjoy this book. I certainly did.

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  • Posted February 17, 2010

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    Very Uplifting & Easy Relation

    Very seldom do I find a book that once I pick up, I have a hard time putting down. I read this book as I was trapped on an ambulance in the middle of a snowstorm and found myself putting it down at the very last minute before climbing out at the next patient's house because I was so captivated. She carries a laugh out loud story line through out the book, provided MANY ways to find the brighter side of life and encompassed a geniune passion and zest for life. I felt as though I could have written the story myself (as did many people I spoke to who also read the book). I even STRONGLY suggested to my husband that he read it. On one page I would find myself tearing up at her outlook on an event, and the next page being laughing out loud at the turn of events. Although the book being a fast read, it's one I can easily go back to over and over when I need a little laughter boost.

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  • Posted January 23, 2010

    What a wonderful book!

    I picked up my copy of "When You Lie About Your Age, the Terrorists Win" the day I heard Carol talking about it on The Stephanie Miller Show. I knew that it would be funny... it being from Carol Leifer, that seemed to me to be a safe bet. What I didn't expect was how the book pulled me in and kept me wanting to continue on to the next chapter throughout. The book is intelligently written and, yes, very funny! I honestly cannot remember the last time a book has made me laugh OUT LOUD so much (or at all, for that matter). My apologies to the burly man on the bench press next to me and that startled woman in front of me at the bank.
    "When You Lie About Your Age, the Terrorists Win" is a marvelous mini memoir that had the laughs I was hoping for... but also had the tears I was not expecting. I unwillingly had to set the book down to gain my composure as a few of Carol's many heartfelt memories opened up a mini-floodgate of my own. When a book brings both side-splitting laughter and consoling tears, it is one that will be picked up again and again as a refresher in the knowledge that it is good to be alive. Do yourself a favor and pick up a copy for yourself or as a gift!

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  • Posted January 6, 2010

    Such a great book!

    I thought this book was so great that I was sad when it ended. Carol Leifer's observations on life are so perceptive and imaginative. Her reality is very universal yet relates so well when told in her creative writing style. Her descriptions will leave you with warmth and joy and more insight than before you read the book. Her writing is very funny and touching. Some stories were serious and some humorous but all were defined by Carol's quick wit and charm. I am buying this book for friends and recommending it to everyone- it is THAT good! Enjoy!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 19, 2009

    Better In Person

    I have seen her on many talk shows and she has written on many shows, I think when she put pen to paper it lost something....I don't think you can pen in her type of comedy...

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  • Posted September 29, 2009

    Laughter definitely lessens the sting of the universal truths 1) everything changes and 2) nothing lasts forever.

    Carol Leifer succeeds in broaching many of life's difficult situations with humor and compassion. Whether gay or straight, Jew or Gentile, male or female, her insights into relationships, loss, and aging are truly uplifting.

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  • Posted July 25, 2009

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    VERY VERY GREAT BOOK

    I saw the author on a tv show and she was talking about the book. I bought and fell in love with it.

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  • Posted July 18, 2009

    Very funny and very personal.

    This audio book made my trip a pleasure.

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  • Posted July 13, 2009

    Hilarious!

    If you need a good laugh, buy this book! It won't disappoint. Carol is a great writer and comedian anyway, so you can't go wrong. And don't we all need a something light-hearted and funny right now?

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  • Posted July 2, 2009

    Witty, funny and sensitive

    I heard Carol on a podcast and immediately went and purchased this book. What a great talent. Since she is an established, success comedy writer and comic it wasn't surprising that this would be a funny book. But what was refreshing was the sentiment and honesty when speaking frankly about her relationships, children and family. You can't help but be moved by the relationship with her parents.and also her pets. This is a fantastic book for a great laugh and a good cry.

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  • Posted June 29, 2009

    Funny. Heartwarming. Too short.

    I loved this book. I read a lot, and it's usually fiction. But after seeing Carol Leifer on the Bill Maher Show I decided to break the mold a little and dive into something auto-biographical. Great way to start. This book made me laugh, made me tear up once (or twice), and as a 39-year-old mother of two, it helped ease my "aging anxieties" a little bit. My only criticism is that it was too short! I read all the acknowledgements so that it wouldn't end, and as a graphic designer, it pleased me to learn the name if the typeface used to set the book. Who does that? I wish all books did. Anyway, great summer read...

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  • Posted May 29, 2009

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    I love this book....

    I have been a fan of Ms. Leifer's ever since I saw her in an HBO Young Comedians Special way back in 1982. To this day my dad will still quote (from the show), "my name is Armando but call me Skip"...lol...it's been a family joke for many years and one of the reasons I found this book so touching. Ms. Leifer's stories are of love, life and family and they are told with such warmth, humor and candor, it's like your best friend is talking to you. Please read this book...you'll laugh, you'll cry, it'll become a part of you....

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  • Posted May 27, 2009

    Could NOT put it down! (even with 4 kids and a husband bugging me...)

    LOVED this book! Laugh out loud funny(too many examples to name here) and extremely endearing (Carol's reminiscing about her father,etc) I found it touching, engaging and hilarious. I just love how Carol met Laurie and they began their new life together- so inspiring. I only wish they lived down the street as I'm sure we'd have a riot hanging out!!!

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  • Posted May 25, 2009

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    Very rarely does a book make me laugh out loud like this one did

    I thoroughly enjoyed this book and could not put it down until I was finished. Carol's stories about growing up, losing her father, finding true love, and (surprise!) discovering how easy it is to love a dog had my full attention from the minute I started reading. I could totally relate to her growing up stories and would have loved to live in her neighborhood and known her Dad. He was quite the character... not unlike a few guys in my own family. How she went from having no pets, and doing just fine, thank you, to sharing her king-sized bed with her partner and SEVEN little dogs had me laughing out loud. I've been enjoying Carol's TV writing for years and she's never failed to tickle my funny bone. I hope she has more books planned for the future. Maybe one on becoming a Mom and raising a son at 50?

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  • Posted May 24, 2009

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    Excellent food for thought!

    I typically do not read this genre, and I was concerned that I wasn't in the correct age bracket to truly enjoy the book. It was presented to me that the book is about coming to terms with yourself, coming into your own, and becoming the person you are meant to be. Since turning thirty a few years ago, I am all about coming to terms with myself and coming into my own, so I took the plunge.

    I wasn't disappointed. While I might not have been able to relate to some of the stories Ms. Leifer mentioned, her main message is for all ages. No matter what age we are, life is going to continue to throw us curve balls, but that is what makes life interesting. We can either sit in a corner and hide or we can adapt and grow. More importantly, we are never too old to continue to grow and learn.

    Even more vital, Ms. Leifer's opinions about growing old gracefully are refreshing in this era of plastic surgery and fighting any hint of age on our face. While I still struggle with the idea of death, she did give me food for thought that every wrinkle is a testament to our journey through life, and we shouldn't be ashamed of that. And to erase those wrinkles (through Botox or face lifts) is not being true to ourselves. It's a message that I wish more in society would adopt.

    In general, Ms. Leifer's novel was enjoyable. Her list of forty things she knows at age fifty cracked me up to no end. I seriously laughed out loud with that one. At other times, she was quite poignant about the twists and turns her life has taken. In all, she does give food for thought. It's a quick read that I would recommend to anyone interested in a bit of self-discovery.

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  • Posted May 24, 2009

    Consistently Amusing and Genuinely Affecting

    I picked up the audiobook for "When You Lie..." after hearing an interview with Carol Leifer on "Fresh Air" - and was surprised at just how much I enjoyed and took from this funny and poignant examination of life and the loss of a loved one, in this case Leifer's inspiring and eminently quotable father.

    The book's many jokes - and several are loud out loud - belie a wisdom about aging which is truly quite profound.

    I've already shared this book with a handful of close friends - and look forward to discussing it at length with them after they've had their own chance to enjoy it and fully consider its thoughtful conclusions.

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