WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY [NOOK Book]

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After the Shock – Moving from Despair to Healing and Hope
When your husband’s addiction to pornography leaves you shattered, betrayed, and alone,
where do you turn? Who do you turn to? Vicki Tiede, writing from personal experience, gently guides women toward God and away from despair. Through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness, you will grow in healing and hope. ...
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WHEN YOUR HUSBAND IS ADDICTED TO PORNOGRAPHY

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Overview

After the Shock – Moving from Despair to Healing and Hope
When your husband’s addiction to pornography leaves you shattered, betrayed, and alone,
where do you turn? Who do you turn to? Vicki Tiede, writing from personal experience, gently guides women toward God and away from despair. Through daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness, you will grow in healing and hope. Allowing God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, but he promises to help you every step of the way. Questions and daily readings are suitable for both individuals and small groups.
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Speaker; author of Between a Rock and a Grace Place
Vicki Tiede has done an extraordinary job of describing one of the ‘hidden sins’ in our churches and culture that destroys marriages and causes deep anguish. She shares the stories of twenty five women who have known this pain; and she gives poignant, biblical advice on a workable plan of action. Vicki’s willingness to tell her own story makes this book shine with warmth, depth, and renewed hope.
LAMFT; author of Shattered Vows
There is no doubt that pornography has created a tsunami of personal and relational pain. While culture might suggest that it is normal, the trauma that it creates in marriages suggests that it isnot healthy. Vicki brings her extensive experience in Bible teaching to provide hope and healingfor spouses who have been betrayed by pornography addiction. Her use of Scripture gently reminds spouses to lean into God’s truths.
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Product Details

  • BN ID: 2940015583243
  • Publisher: New Growth Press
  • Publication date: 10/10/2012
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 312,547
  • File size: 594 KB

Meet the Author

Vicki Tiede, MEd, MMin, is a Bible teacher; conference speaker; author of Plug Me In and Let Me Charge Overnight (2009); and a contributing author for five other books. Her passion is to share God’s grace and faithfulness with women through the Scriptures. Vicki
transparently relates life experiences that resonate and draw others into a lifelong pursuit of knowing God. Living in Rochester, Minnesota, Vicki is also a wife, homeschooling mom, and women’s ministries coordinator at her local church.
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  • Posted December 5, 2012

     ast week I read a wonderful series of articles by Tim Challies

     ast week I read a wonderful series of articles by Tim Challies on pornography. He addressed the fact that pornography has warped our conscience as a Nation, setting the tone for the way millions of men view women and marriage. He said that every time a man views pornography he deadens his conscience a little bit more. What broke Mr. Challies' heart the most was this-




    "The saddest emails I have received in the past few days came from women who are older than you are and perhaps even old enough to be your mother. They told tales of utter devastation—of husbands who got into pornography when they were young and who never cared to give it up. And here they are, all these years later, still damaging themselves and their wives and families. The choices they made as young men threaten to tear apart their families today. The women, the one God calls these men to be intoxicated in for all of their lives,  live with gaping holes in their hearts, longing for their husbands to step in and fill them up. Could this be your wife some day?"     
    Tim Challies was writing to young men, teens or newly married. He is pointing them to the fact that if they continue on this road of  death they will someday break their wifes  heart.  




           Mrs. Vicki Tiede was one of those women. This book is her story.  She wrote this book to address the questions that a woman has when her marriage is blown apart by a husbands pornography addiction. Can she ever have  Hope again? How does she  Surrender? Is it safe to Trust?   How do you deal with being Broken?   Where in this madness do you find Identity?  And how do you give Forgiveness to someone who tore up your trust and betrayed you? Are you even expected to forgive them? 




             Vicki writes Sister in Christ to Sister in Christ, praying for her readers and crying with her readers. Her book is saturated in prayer and tears. Tears because Mrs. Tiede had to open up the old wounds to write heart to heart with the wives of other porn addicts, prayers because she interceded before Our Heavenly Father, for every woman that would read this book.  "I did not choose pornography. (I am sure you did not either.) God did not choose it for me either. However, when my husband chose pornography, God inserted a parenthetical moment into the story of my life. In the space between those parentheses, He assured me I was not alone. He knew my pain. He saw my tears. He felt my losses and he would redeem it all. He did."  Page 147, emphasis mine. The idea of a parentheses in a woman's life is a very helpful idea. The parentheses contains a limited number of words. The parentheses is not the story itself, only a part of it. But the words within the parentheses change what comes after them.    




           Vicki writes the way she speaks, overflowing with the word of God and the love of God. She wrote this book to come along side women and walk with them through a six week journey. This book was written to say  the things she needed to hear as the wife of a porn addict.  The first thing needed is Scripture. Scripture fills this book. Scripture to comfort you, Scripture to counsel you, Scripture to do what God wrote it to do- Point you to Christ. The second thing needed is a sister who has walked this road to help you understand how to move forward in the healing process, because with Christ there is healing, but it is a process. This book is not a book about your husband or about addiction. This book is about you and your healing. This book is arranged as a Bible study, and takes a number of weeks to complete, which allows the reader to soak in the Truths of Scripture. The verses used come from a variety of translations, including the Kings James Version, the ESV, the NIV and the Message. 
            The women that this book was written for are the wives of level one or two addicts. Level one and two are everything below criminal behavior, and these behaviors are considered normal by todays culture. Wives of Level three and four addicts  (affairs, raped someone, or molested a child) can also benefit, because tragically enough the "normal male behavior" of pornography use leads to these other acts. 
          The women this book is written for also are probably hoping to reconcile with a changed husband, although that is not always possible. This book does NOT affirm divorce as a simple, painless solution. It is Not.  However, in this fallen world, there are times when a husband is dangerous to his wife, unrepentant in his sin, blaspheming God and dishonoring his marriage covenant unrepentantly. There is one time in the New Testament when divorce is permissible, when the spouse has committed adultery.   Pornography is adultery. It is marital unfaithfulness. God hates it. God hates divorce also. Once again, Vicki's story will minister to a woman's heart. From page eleven, "When my first husband refused to responsibility for his actions or recognize a need to repent of his behavior, the behavior escalated, and my emotional, physical and spiritual health was at risk.  I was advised by a Christian counselor and my pastor to end the marriage, and I did. Please hear me when I say this- God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16 NIV), and I have never met anyone who has gone through a divorce who does not agree with God. It is God's desire that every heart and marriage be restored (Job 22:23)." If you are afraid that there is no hope, then this book is for you. If you are praying for reconciliation, then this book is for you. 












         Mrs. Tiede also ministers to the heart of hurt wives who believe the lie that whispers if they had been more-whatever- then he would not have gone elsewhere. This is  a flat out lie.  Your husband did not choose pornography over you because the women were more beautiful. He chose pornography because it was forbidden, dangerous, and evil, and sin drew him. People are not tempted by the pure, sweet, normal and wholesome. Temptation is the slimy, the sick, the ugly, the brutal, the secret.  That is pornography. It is an absolute perversion of a woman's body and sexuality. And yet there are wives who try to "compete" with this filth for their husbands love.  No amount of "being more beautiful" would have filled him, because he was not looking for his wife's natural beauty that every woman is born with, he wanted the fantasy of photoshopped pixels.  




    Vicki tells the Truth plain, but gently in this book. This kind of gentle "truth therapy" will help heal a woman's heart.  What he is doing is not innocent. No matter what the culture says.  It was not a deficiency in you that made him choose this sin. Attempting to give "instant forgiveness" to avoid the pain of working through the problem sounds more Christian- but it isn't. Yes, a wife's identity is shattered after this- but God holds the pieces and it is God who knows what you were created for, and who can put your heart back together.  It is not your fault, and there is no way you can "fix" him. That is between him and God. There are ways to promote healing, however.  There are ways that you can work with a willing husband to make healing possible.  




       This book is honest, loving, and encouraging.  If she could, Vicki would invite every woman who is in her former shoes as a wife of a porn addict to come to her house, sit on her couch, take out her Bible and a box of tissues, and talk  heart to heart. This book is part of what she would say. This is her heart behind the book, her hope fo

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 28, 2013

    After learning about my husband's addiction, my world crashed ar

    After learning about my husband's addiction, my world crashed around me. The ups and downs, small steps forward and massive steps back as his behavior escalated was poisoning our marriage and crushing my heart at it's core. I sought refuge in God and supportive friends. I read so many books on sexual addiction generally and pornography specifically. I joined chat groups and read articles and listened to webinars. But NOTHING gave me a step by step guide for how I heal? How I pick up the pieces and live life irrespective of my husbands choices? Nothing until this book.

    Through this book, Vicki Tiede, literally helped me peel back the painful layers of my wounded heart and heal from the inside out. This isn't a typical "book"; it is a conversation with someone who has been where you are and is guiding you into a deeper relationship with the only One who knows how to heal the deepest places. It is a profound devotional that fosters dialogue with self and with God, reminding me of the choices I have control over and of the God who loves me, desires my good, and who had not forsaken me.

    Any woman who is hurting from her husband's sexual addiction, MUST READ this book. It will change your life. It definitely has changed mine. I feel like it was written for my heart. And that's because it was.

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