When You're NOT Expecting: An Infertility Survival Guide

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Surviving the challenges of infertility

Often enduring years of heartache, couples with infertility number over 7.3 million. Enduring the daunting difficulties of treatment is something few women are prepared for. Based on the personal stories of 200 women determined to overcome infertility, this surprisingly upbeat survivors' guide gives the kind of hard-won wisdom essential to making it through the process. Not only does the book detail coping strategies, it also presents tips...

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Overview

Surviving the challenges of infertility

Often enduring years of heartache, couples with infertility number over 7.3 million. Enduring the daunting difficulties of treatment is something few women are prepared for. Based on the personal stories of 200 women determined to overcome infertility, this surprisingly upbeat survivors' guide gives the kind of hard-won wisdom essential to making it through the process. Not only does the book detail coping strategies, it also presents tips for strengthening stressed relationships and addresses the unique needs of single women and lesbians.

An essential guide for women and couples, friends and family, and health care providers and therapists, this book offers the solace and strength needed to prevail even after years of struggle.

  • Written by a therapist, consultant, and public speaker dedicated to the study of infertility and its emotional impact
  • Other titles by Shapiro: When Part of the Self Is Lost and Infertility and Pregnancy Loss

For any woman or couple who feel as if they're facing infertility alone, When You're Not Expecting is a must-have book.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780470736418
  • Publisher: Wiley, John & Sons, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 2/2/2010
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 272
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Constance Hoenk Shapiro, M.S.W., Ph.D. is a therapist, author, university professor, consultant, and public speaker dedicated to the study of infertility and its emotional impact on individuals and couples. She is a founding member of the Central New York chapter of RESOLVE and has been a member of the National Association of Social Workers and the Council on Social Work Education for over 30 years. She is a professor of Family Studies and Social Work at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction 1

Chapter 1 Infertility: The Journey Begins 5

Infertility Testing 7

Seeking Help from an Infertility Specialist 10

Choosing an Infertility Clinic 13

Communicating with Your Partner and Confiding in Others 14

Would a Support Group or Therapist Help? 17

Learning to Deal with Infertility 25

Chapter 2 The Club: On the Outside Looking in 31

Friends and Coworkers in The Club 32

Family Members in The Club 34

Creative Coping 37

Getting Support from Club Members 40

Chapter 3 Emotional Overload: Staying Together through Infertility 45

Husbands 46

Lesbian Partners 57

Chapter 4 The Waiting Game: When Life Is on Hold 71

Waiting 72

Not Taking On New Challenges 75

Infertility and Your Job 77

The Financial Crunch 79

Considering Adoption or Surrogacy 81

Chapter 5 Scheduled Sex: When Making Love Becomes Hard Work 87

Infertility and Your Sex Life 88

Seeking Counseling for Your Sex Life 94

Chapter 6 Celebrations and Special Events: Coping with Gatherings 99

Baby Showers 100

Religious Rituals 102

Holidays 105

Family Celebrations 109

Dealing with Gatherings on Your Own Terms 111

Chapter 7 Another Shoulder to Lean On: Support Groups and Therapists 115

In-Clinic Support Groups 116

Community Support Groups 118

Counselors and Therapists 121

The Counseling Experience 124

Chapter 8 Pregnancy Loss: A Shattered Dream 131

Types of Fetal Loss 132

Grief, Guilt, Regret, and Anger 133

Reactions of Family and Friends 135

Early Loss 135

Loss after the First Trimester 139

Loss in a Multiple Pregnancy 141

Stillbirth 146

Your Partner's Experience of Pregnancy Loss 153

Chapter 9 Achieving Pregnancy: An Emotional Roller Coaster 159

Why Your Pregnancy Feels Different from Others' 159

The Many Reactions to Pregnancy 161

Prenatal Testing 163

Emotions in the First Trimester 166

Emotions in the Second Trimester 169

Emotions in the Third Trimester 172

Unanticipated Complications 175

Post-birth Concerns 176

Chapter 10 Ending Treatment: When Enough Is Enough 183

Finances 184

Time Disruptions 185

Clinic Accessibility 186

Work Performance 187

Statistical Odds or a Poor Medical Prognosis 188

Emotional Issues 189

Letting Go 193

Moving On 196

Chapter 11 Different Dreams: Opening New Doors to Life 201

Adoption 201

Surrogacy 212

Child-free Living 218

Epilogue - The Legacy of Infertility 233

The Aftermath of Infertility 234

The Challenges of Living Child Free 236

Re-evaluating Relationships 237

Your Long Journey 239

Resources 241

Index 257

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