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Posted January 23, 2012
This book is awesome! It teaches you how to discipline your children with love and without yelling. I've bought several of these books and gave them to friends. When my husband and I were going through childcare classes for adoption the teacher recommended it to me. It works really well.
a definite 5 stars!
Posted February 18, 2009
About 12 years ago, Dr. Robert Barnes came to my church and gave a seminar that changed our lives. My husband and I are in our second marriage and we both have a daughter each, one year apart. We had different styles of communication and rules and desperately tried to find a universal way that would work for both of them. After attending the seminar and reading his book, we devised a plan which consisted of rules and sat down with them and got their buy-in for the consequences. They thought it was fun and just another plan they could destroy. Not this time!!! I was amazed at how my husband and I could just sit back and tell them, "I'm sorry you choose not to do........" We removed ourselves from the consequence and the list on the refrigerator became the enemy. We would hear "oh man, I forgot.....and then without thinking, they knew what the consequence was and they followed through with it. The main word that I would use to guarantee success of this plan is CONSISTENCY!!! Kids are smarter than we give them credit for and if they weaken you (which they will try over and over again), then they do not take you seriously and think they have the upper hand. One of my daughters has ADD and the doctor told me the structure was the best thing that I could have done for her. The girls were so cognizant of what was on that list that they had to "think" or "contemplate" before doing something they would regret. I can't thank Dr. Barnes and his wife for what they have done to bring the discipline issue to the forefront and share how you don't have to have constant strife in the family. It is our job as parents to train our children and prepare them for the world. This plan is easy to accomplish and can be adjusted accordingly. When you see improvements, you praise your kids and reward them for being responsible and adhering to the rules. Our daughters are 23 and 24 years old and they are mature, respectful, God-fearing wonderful examples of what every parent strives for.Was this review helpful? Yes NoThank you for your feedback. Report this reviewThank you, this review has been flagged.