Why Boys Don'T Talk--And Why It Matters

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"This wise and warm book encourages mothers not to let their sons become unemotional robots but instead to stay connected."
?Michael Kimmel, professor of sociology, SUNY Stony Brook

"Shaffer and Gordon shed light on the cultural reasons boys frequently don't talk and then show how to encourage conversation and when to respect the necessary silences."
?Laura Sessions Stepp, author of Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence

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Why Boys Don't Talk--and Why It Matters: A Parent's Survival Guide to Connecting with Your Teen

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Overview

"This wise and warm book encourages mothers not to let their sons become unemotional robots but instead to stay connected."
—Michael Kimmel, professor of sociology, SUNY Stony Brook

"Shaffer and Gordon shed light on the cultural reasons boys frequently don't talk and then show how to encourage conversation and when to respect the necessary silences."
—Laura Sessions Stepp, author of Our Last Best Shot: Guiding Our Children Through Early Adolescence

Whatever happened to that chatty little boy brimming with quirky facts and interminable accounts of his adventures? When did your son grow into the sullen stranger in your house who communicates through shrugs and one-word answers? Is this just part of growing up or is it a sign that something is wrong?

In Why Boys Don't Talk—and Why It Matters, Susan Morris Shaffer and Linda Perlman Gordon draw on their professional and personal experiences to provide answers to those common questions. You'll discover why adolescent boys often feel the need to protect themselves behind a wall of silence and why it's important to your son's emotional health to break through that wall. Most important, you'll gain the knowledge and tools you need to:

  • Recognize and understand the subtle ways boys communicate connection
  • Reopen the lines of communication with your adolescent son
  • Help him learn to express his feelings and experience a range of normal emotions
  • Maintain strong emotional bonds with your son in order to support his positive growth and development
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In adolescence, boys and girls distinguish themselves, among other things, by their communication style: the former don't talk, and the latter talk a lot. With research data and focus-group input, Shaffer and Gordon, an educator and a clinical social worker, respectively, solidly establish the social elements in which these behaviors take root. In Why Boys Don't Talk, the authors describe how the media, culture, and history all maintain the idea that in order to become men, boys have to be tough and hide their emotions; therefore, they become emotionally disconnected. To fix that, parents need to pursue connections and communication. Girls, on the other hand, are expected to connect and to seek relationships with others. Add to that gender inequalities and the distorted portrait of women in the media, and girls face many challenges in their path to self-knowledge. Parents need to help a teen daughter stay connected to her true self and not give in to social pressure. Why Girls Talk succeeds better in speaking to parents by giving them sound advice and strategies. Libraries should know that Why Boys Don't Talk was first published in 2000 by the Mid-Atlantic Equity Consortium as Why Boys Don't Talk and Why We Care and is not revised here. For specific communication strategies in parenting, see Haim Ginott's Between Parent and Child: The Bestselling Classic That Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication. Why Girls Talk is recommended for parenting collections in large public libraries.-Maryse Breton, Ann Arbor, MI Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780071417877
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
  • Publication date: 12/9/2004
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 224
  • Sales rank: 647,283
  • Product dimensions: 6.00 (w) x 9.00 (h) x 0.55 (d)

Meet the Author

Susan Morris Shaffer is a parenting expert, a nationally acclaimed gender equity specialist, and an educator with more than thirty years of experience.

Linda Perlman Gordon, M.S.W., M.Ed., is a clinical social worker, trained mediator, and a graduate of the prestigious Family Therapy Practice Center. They are coauthors of Why Girls Talk—and What They're Really Saying.

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