Why Did I Marry You Anyway?: 12.5 Strategies for a Happy Marriage (and the Mythinformation That Gets in the Way)

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Movies like Sleeples in Seattle and "An Affair to Remember bombard people with bad ideas?MythInformation?about love. We are told that if you meet the right person and fall in love, your marriage will thrive and you will be happy. However, while love is important, stable marriages are not based on love alone. Barbara bartlein has worked with hundreds of couples as they have worked to save their marriages, and she is now ready to share the secrets of what they have learned together. A happy, successful marriage ...

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Overview

Movies like Sleeples in Seattle and "An Affair to Remember bombard people with bad ideas—MythInformation—about love. We are told that if you meet the right person and fall in love, your marriage will thrive and you will be happy. However, while love is important, stable marriages are not based on love alone. Barbara bartlein has worked with hundreds of couples as they have worked to save their marriages, and she is now ready to share the secrets of what they have learned together. A happy, successful marriage almost always is the result of hard work and commitment, she says, but all too often people don't know what to do to improve their marriages. This is where "Why Dia I Mary You Anyway? fills the grap. With 12.5 strategies that cover all the common problems in relationships, like money, children, sex, and in-laws, she tells couples that to do and shows them how to do it. Each chapter follows the same outline. First, a common complaint is explored. Second, common myths that block solutions to the problem—the MythInformation—are identified and helpful ways of countering them are suggested. Third, case studies illustrate the concepts in action. Finally, quizzes and tools provide opportunities to practice these new skills and behaviors. The result is a helpful, humorous, and easy-to-read book. Anyone who gives it just a little thought will come away with practical insights that will result in positive changes in their lives."

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Editorial Reviews

Robert E. Herman
Like Chatting with a [knowledgeable] Friend

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a marriage counselor for a friend? And wouldn’t it be nice to have a friend as a marriage counselor? Everyone is who is married—happily or aspiring to be happy—needs to continually examine and reinforce all those wonderful positive reasons you chose your mate…and chose to stay with your mate for all those days, months, years, decades…lifetimes. Marriage isn’t easy or perfect. It’s a special relationship that you have to work hard to make work.

OK, so how do you make a marriage work? Well, first you shatter all the myths about skipping down the daisy-lined paths along the white picket fence. Life isn’t like what we see in some of those movies and television shows that make it all seem so easy. Barbara knows. She’s been there, done that…and shares her life in personal disclosures that are comfortable and instructive. Readers will feel that they are building a friendship with this author, sitting over a cup of coffee—or herbal tea—at the table in cozy breakfast nook.

Barbara (we’re feeling that first-name comfort now) will tell you what works and what doesn’t. Her life and experience as a therapist, combined with her work as a consultant and professional speaker, enable her to really get her points across in ways that we can understand, relate to, and put to work.

Challenges in your marriage? Lay ‘em out. Is the commitment really there? Can I count on you? I married you because you were perfect; now change! You’re just like your father, mother, brother, sister, etc. Why don’t we do things together? Money, intimacy, kids. Just about everything you can imagine will bubble to the surface in these pages. You’ll read the myths and the realities. Stories, case studies, tools and end-of- chapter quizzes enhance the value of this book. No index: doesn’t need one, but there is a helpful section of resources at the end of the book.

You’ll learn. You’ll laugh. You’ll shake your head and nod your head. You’ll read sections to your spouse. And, as you share the concepts of this book, your marriage will become even stronger. Extra note for business owners, executives, and managers, many of the things you read just might have some application for a different kind of marriage: the relationship between employer and employee.

Warning: Don’t expect to read this book at one sitting. There’s too much content to absorb that quickly. Besides, because you’ll want to share with others too frequently, your reading will be constantly interrupted! (Bestselling author and contributing editor for "The Futurist" magazine)

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781581823677
  • Publisher: Turner Publishing Company
  • Publication date: 8/28/2003
  • Pages: 278
  • Product dimensions: 5.52 (w) x 8.60 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Table of Contents

A Personal Note from the Author xi
Acknowledgments xv
Introduction: Disposable Marriages in a Throwaway Culture xix
1 Why Did I Marry You Anyway? 3
Strategy #1 Build Commitment to Strengthen Your Marriage
2 I Can Never Count on You 27
Strategy #2 Create a Climate of Trust to Grow the Love
3 You're Absolutely Perfect... Now Change 43
Strategy #3 Focus on Being the Right Person
4 You Are Just Like Your Mother/Father 61
Strategy #4 Set Healthy Boundaries with Family
5 You're Going Out Again? 85
Strategy #5 Let Go of the Single Lifestyle
6 We Never Do What I Want to Do 109
Strategy #6 Create Common Interests and Activities
7 I'm Going to the Hardware Store, Honey 129
Strategy #7 Keep a Part of Who You Are Just for Yourself
8 If You Really Loved Me, You'd Know What I Like! 151
Strategy #8 Ask for What You Need and Want
9 Why Can't You Fill the Ice-Cube Tray? 175
Strategy #9 Express Feelings to Each Other
10 We Still Have Checks, How Can We Be Out of Money? 199
Strategy #10 Spend Less Than You Earn
11 We Never Have Sex Anymore! 219
Strategy #11 Practice Intimacy Outside of the Bedroom
12 It's Your Turn to Get Up with the Kids 235
Strategy #12 Negotiate a Shared Philosophy of Child Rearing
12.5 Is That All There Is? 253
Strategy #12.5 Reinvent Yourself and Your Marriage
Postscript: Why Did I Marry You Anyway? The Answer 269
Additional Resources 273
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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 7, 2003

    A Perfect Gift for Nearly Everyone

    Because this book is useful as well as inspirational, it would make a wonderful gift for any married (or about to be married) person. The only thing better than reading this book is hearing Barbara speak in person.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 5, 2003

    Wit , Warmth and Wisdom

    Finally, a marriage manual from someone who really understands how happy relationships are put together, that is also fun to read! Ms. Bartlein's advice is rock-solid, and her humor is laugh out loud. Get it, read it, study it, share it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 2, 2003

    Great for couples in relationships

    Caught a presentation by Barbara Bartlein earlier in the year and immediately scooped up an early copy of the book when I had the chance. 'Why Did I Marry You Anyway?' is a great book for any couple in a serious relationship, not just married couples. Barbara knows what she's talking about, and she keeps the book both thoughtful and humorous throughout. A must-have.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 22, 2003

    This book inspired me to make a renewed commitment to my marriage.

    Interesting, humorous and inspirational all rolled into one book. Barbara Bartlein is clearly an expert on marriage and I found this book to be one of the first I've read that offers tips and ideas I can actually understand and use. Now my husband is reading it, too.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 10, 2003

    A Must Read Book for Couples

    Entertaining and insightful, Why Did I Marry You Anyway? is a must read for couples considering marriage, those already married and those desiring to improve their relationship. It is a wealth of practical information that couples can use to address the common problems of money, sex, children, in-laws, and more. Don't miss this one if you are serious about making your relationship work.

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