Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date

Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date

by Rachel Greenwald
     
 

You get that he’s just not that into you, but why?

What really happened when that cute guy never called you back after your date? Why didn’t that intriguing man you flirted with online or at the party ask you out? It’s an annoying mystery. One minute there was a potential romance happening, and the next? He vanished, inexplicably. If you

Overview

You get that he’s just not that into you, but why?

What really happened when that cute guy never called you back after your date? Why didn’t that intriguing man you flirted with online or at the party ask you out? It’s an annoying mystery. One minute there was a potential romance happening, and the next? He vanished, inexplicably. If you knew why men reacted in these ways, you could do something about it next time when the right guy comes along.

So Rachel Greenwald did what you’re too embarrassed to do yourself. As a renowned dating coach with a Harvard MBA, she applied business savvy to the dating world by conducting in-depth "Exit Interviews" with 1,000 single men, asking them why they hadn’t called back after a date or online flirtation. By refusing to accept glib responses such as "There was just no chemistry," she extracted unabashedly honest and raw answers. It turns out that men leave women hanging for clear, consistent reasons. The Top Ten Date-Breakers–revealed here in Greenwald’s unique research–are the result of signals that women of all ages send unknowingly, but are easily fixed. Citing true anecdotes and case studies, this book examines the most frequent date-breakers that men confessed, and offers practical advice on how you can avoid them.

Greenwald’s goal isn’t for you to pretend to be someone you’re not, but rather to keep the ball in your court. By using her research results as a guide to tweak your comments and gestures, you’ll have more men asking to see you again. Then you can accept or decline their invitations: you’re doing the selecting–not them.

In today’s increasingly complex dating world, both online and offline, learning how to maximize your dates is essential. With a fresh and entertaining behind-the-scenes vantage point, Why He Didn’t Call You Back offers simple solutions that empower women to choose the men they really want to date.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
In this dating guide for women getting nowhere fast, professional matchmaker Greenwald takes the intriguing step of interviewing a thousand men who decided not to follow up on a first date. Unfortunately, that stab at quasi-scientific methodology doesn't turn up anything new-though you wouldn't suspect it to see the volume of Greenwald's text. To her credit, she doesn't advise readers to change who they are, but how they present themselves, emphasizing the importance of first impressions and refusing to heap blame on either men or women. Detailed descriptions and checklists will help readers determine what disagreeable stereotype you may projecting ("The Boss Lady," "The Bait & Switcher," "The Park Avenue Princess") and how to remedy it. Despite a direct voice and infectious confidence, Greenwald echoes much that's already been covered in countless other volumes-don't seem desperate, show genuine interest, don't bring up your ex-and often with more detail, examples, lists and subcategories than are necessary. Those who like their self-helps busy, or who are new to the genre, may find this book worthwhile, but in most ways it's the same story, different date.
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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780307406538
Publisher:
Crown Publishing Group
Publication date:
04/07/2009
Pages:
304
Product dimensions:
5.90(w) x 8.20(h) x 1.10(d)

What People are saying about this

From the Publisher
Cosmopolitan Magazine voted Why He Didn't Call You Back one of this summer's 4 Hottest Beach Books (2009)

“Rachel is my kind of gutsy girl: all the kick of cheddar on rye, minus any trace of baloney. Within two weeks of trying Rachel’s strategies, I . . . am now juggling so many suitors that I’ve started a ‘man-agement’ diary.”
O, The Oprah Magazine

“Greenwald is the hottest thing to hit the dating scene since Sex and the City!”
Observer (London)

“Advocating that you change his perception instead of your personality, Greenwald’s vast study and witty analysis of men’s behavior is nearly a science in its fine points, and truly a contemporary approach to the speedily evolving game of dating.... Loud and clear, Greenwald offers the no-frills, tough-love advice that every single woman doesn’t want – but often needs – to hear.”
—King Features (synd.)

“This book is brilliant! I really love Rachel Greenwald’s approach. This is a must-read guide to help single women find the right mate, even for women who have lots of guys pursuing them.”
—Tim Sullivan, former CEO, Match.com

“Greenwald . . . has become a national sensation. Her advice is uncommonly blunt.”
San Jose Mercury News

“Dating diva Rachel Greenwald [delivers] an espresso shot of practical advice.”
Rocky Mountain News

“Rachel Greenwald . . . has taught thousands of mature women how to meet Mr. Right.”
People

“Rachel Greenwald is the Wife Maker.”
Denver Post

“Rachel’s approach is clear, systematic, and motivating.”
—New York Daily News

Meet the Author

RACHEL GREENWALD is a professional dating coach, matchmaker, and the international bestselling author of Find a Husband After 35: Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her husband and three children.

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