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Why Him? Why Her?: How to Find and Keep Lasting Love
     

Why Him? Why Her?: How to Find and Keep Lasting Love

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by Helen Fisher
 

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The national bestseller that shows you how a better understanding of who you are will help you find and keep the love you want

Helen Fisher can often tell, almost instantly, the hidden strengths and weaknesses in a relationship that are likely to keep a couple together or pull them apart. The words they choose, their facial structure and body language,

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The national bestseller that shows you how a better understanding of who you are will help you find and keep the love you want

Helen Fisher can often tell, almost instantly, the hidden strengths and weaknesses in a relationship that are likely to keep a couple together or pull them apart. The words they choose, their facial structure and body language, even their doodles and where they live give strong clues to their personality type. After three decades of studying romantic relationships, Fisher has discovered that your dominant personality type guides not only who you are but who you love.

Why Him? Why Her? provides a new way to understand relationships, whether you're searching for one or eager to strengthen the one you have. Beginning with a scientifically developed questionnaire to determine your prevailing personality type, Fisher tells you not only what type of person you might have chemistry with but how to find them, attract them, and keep them. Once you know the personality profile of the partner you're with—or hope to find—you can use your knowledge of how your types match up to improve your love life.

More than seven million people in forty countries have learned Fisher's techniques and are using these tools to make and keep lasting romantic connections. Based on proven results, this groundbreaking book goes beyond theory to show that the complex nature of romance isn't so complicated once you truly understand yourself and others. Provocative and illuminating, Fisher's book deserves to be read by everyone looking to be loved for who they really are.

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"Fascinating…. You may already have your dream lover, but you’ll want to read this for the many insights on the science of love."—The Boston Globe

"Why Him? Why Her? examines how brain chemistry determines temperament and temperament dictates whom we love…. [Fisher offers] a giddy, romantic notion, well worth considering."—Los Angeles Times

"In times of upheaval, nothing offers safe harbor like science. That’s where Helen Fisher comes in…. Her research led her inside the biological mechanisms of mate choice."—TIME magazine

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780805091526
Publisher:
Holt, Henry & Company, Inc.
Publication date:
01/05/2010
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
247,842
Product dimensions:
5.60(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.90(d)

Meet the Author

Helen Fisher, PhD, is a research professor of anthropology at Rutgers University, and the bestselling author of four previous books, two of which—The First Sex and Anatomy of Love—were New York Times Notable Books. She is Scientific Adviser to Chemistry.com (a division of Match.com) and lives in New York City.

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Why Him? Why Her? 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 25 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I found this book very insightful into the way that different people work. Personally, I've always been very intuitive & have easily read people. However, because I tend to be on the emotional side, I've often been confused when people react differently than I do to the same situation. This book also gave me some insight into the best way to interact with people who relate to situations differently than I do. I went through a rough break up a few years ago - being able to understand what type of person my ex is & why it didn't work was quite intriguing. Definitely worth the read!
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This was a very informative and interesting book. I saw my and my husband's personalities! We are both builders! If you are interested in "what makes people tick", this is your book!
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kaitlynlenhart More than 1 year ago
it was pretty informative
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Great read i enjoyed this book a lot !
ngangy More than 1 year ago
I have to admit that I skipped over this book in the years that it's been out. My quick scan in the bookstore caught similarities to personality categories with new labels. It seemed like just another attempt to recycle advice and capitalize on our wishes and dreams. I was wrong. This is not a self-help or dating book! (Though it does well there, too.) Anthropologist Helen Fisher sought to find a biological explanation for how we discriminate in our mate choices, and the result is this highly readable story of exploration with theory based on solid, well-established chemistry. It is not based on idealism but on what is actually happening in relationships. Fans of John Gottman will find this a wonderful complement to the workings of relationships.
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dublinmarial More than 1 year ago
The book describes personality types (Explorer, Builder, Director, Negotiator); has a test for determining Primary and Secondary personality type: discusses relationship among these four types. I understand myself so much better. I understand the difficulties in previous relationships. I avoid certain personality types. I know the quid pro quo that works between my personality type and others. Dr. Fisher is an anthropologist so her theories are premised on experimental fact. Anyone in a relationship, or seeking a relationship would benefit from this book. This book is among a very few that has had a powerful positive effect on my life. Thank you Dr. Fisher
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kristen930 More than 1 year ago
I had first seen Dr. Fisher online at TED. com where she lectures about how love effects the brain. She mentions that she will be working on a book which records her findings on compatibility and personality and how these factors effect love and dating. This book is the product of her research. I found it to be very informative and enjoyable to read. She splits the book up into sections that easily flow from analyzing each personality type to how the personalities act toward eachother in relationships. She is thorough and easy to understand, as well as extremely accurate in her findings. The personality test is included in the second chapter, and the results are dead on, at least in my case. Overall, I recommend this book to anyone interested in learning more about their own personality and the psychology behind dating and relationships. Great read.
slimikin More than 1 year ago
While I enjoyed reading Dr. Helen Fisher's theories of romance, I can't say I'm entirely convinced. Parts of her argument read as rather circular, and her description of the four categories---Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator---was frequently uneven. She wrote about her own two categories with a great deal more insight and sympathy than the two categories she's not. And while I can certainly understand why that might be the case, I would have had a bit more respect for her research if she'd been able to overcome her own bias while elaborating on all the types. Still, her perspective certainly provides some food for thought, and I found the chapters targeting the biology of how we meet and choose those we love fascinating.
Melancholia More than 1 year ago
I read this book very quickly and found it the perfect antidote to a very difficult time I was experiencing with a man I loved. I learned a tremendous amount about both of us and about many other loves of my life. I felt very inspired and well informed by Helen Fisher who is one of the smartest people writing about love. I highly recommend it; it will give you new insights and good ideas for how best to conduct the most important of journeys, that of loving others and yourself.
MotivatedMomma More than 1 year ago
This book was so informative and I am currently married. It was introduced to me by a friend looking for love. I think everyone should read this to find out about their OWN personality and others around them. It will give you GREAT insight on your family members, coworkers, loved ones, friends, potential mates, etc. It is good for so much more than just finding love, it could lead you to better communication skills, better job hunting skills and so much more. Just being able to understand the different personality types and how they interact with each other is monumental. Helen breaks it down in such a simple, truthful, genuine, non-voodoo way that helps you understand yourself and be proud of who you are. You can also see the danger zones and know how to approach them. I LOVE THIS BOOK! (Obviously) :)
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book was a fun read. A lot of good informatin to start some interesting conversatins. I passed the book on to my grandaughter and her fiance and they are reading it. I hope it will inspire some interesting conversations that will help them understand each other.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
An excellent read about the different personality types of people. Good to know when foraying into the big, bad world of dating--and first dates--ekk! I learned quite about about myself, the men out there and dating, in general. A helpful book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I really enjoyed this book and couldn't put it down! I am very interested in personalities and relationships so this book was perfect for me. I learned a lot and found myself identifying my loved ones primary personality types as I read! It helped me understand myself better and those I am close too. I loved this book and will probably reference it time and time again!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in why we are romantically attracted to certain people, and to anyone who would like to just learn more about yourself. From my experience, the author is amazingly accurate in her research and her conclusions about the four personality types and how certain types are attracted to, and mesh with, other types. The book was incredibly fascinating to me, and definitely helped me to understand why I have made the choices that I have made, why some relationships worked out the way they did. I would have liked more in depth discussion of this subject in the book.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can recognize the different personality types in some people that I know. The book was well written and very interesting. She bases her theories on the four different personality types and from there explains why we each choose our mates the way we do. Awesome! She is a great author and I hope she will write more great books like that one.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I can recognize the different personality types in some people that I know. The book was well written and very interesting.