Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

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by Sherry Argov
     
 

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Do you feel like you are too nice?

Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices

Overview

Do you feel like you are too nice?

Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:

  • Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?
  • Why do men take nice girls for granted?
  • Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?
Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry-you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

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"A self-help classic." --Daily Mail

"America's top relationship guide." --The Book Tribe

One of "The 10 Most Iconic Relationship Books of the Past Ten Years." --Yahoo!

"Men don't really go for 'nice.' They go for 'interesting.'" --Chicago Sun-Times

"We're talking about having so much self-respect, Aretha Franklin would high-five you." --Los Angeles Times

"The pejorative meaning of the word 'bitch' has been reclaimed... it means a strong, feisty woman who has moxie, and knows when to use it. A bitch is... sap free." --Pursuit Magazine

"[Argov is] talking about a strong woman. Someone who knows what she's doing in life. Someone who will share the load, but who will stand her ground." --Joy Behar, Co-host of The View

"Sherry Argov shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one." --The Today Show

"The Best of Culture." --Esquire

"A hot book!" --Fox News Channel

"A must-read at Sunday brunch." --New York Daily News

"Why Men Love Bitches flew off the shelves.... Men thrive with women who can set boundaries and who push back when they try to cross the line." --Cosmopolitan

"An anti-whining manifesto that encourages women who feel like doormats to develop a sense of independence." --Playboy

"Ultimately Sherry Argov's message boils down to one of confidence and self respect, which, let's face it...it's the only sane way to go. In short...stay for the sage advice." --Glo MSN

Publishers Weekly
Contending that some women are "too nice," comedian and radio show host Sherry Argov has written Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship. "I'm not recommending that a woman have an abrasive disposition," Argov writes, "The woman I'm describing is kind yet strong. She doesn't give up her life, and she won't chase a man." Her sassy book is filled with scenarios and advice aimed at making women subtly stronger and self-empowered. Argov's principles, which range from the farfetched to the downright absurd, include "If you give him a feeling of power, he'll want to protect you and he'll want to give you the world" and "A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you." The book, which has already been featured on The View and The O'Reilly Factor, should make waves with its controversial view of relationships. Copyright 2002 Cahners Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781580627566
Publisher:
Adams Media
Publication date:
10/01/2002
Pages:
288
Sales rank:
44,206
Product dimensions:
5.52(w) x 8.38(h) x 0.66(d)

Meet the Author

SHERRY ARGOV is the author of Why Men Marry Bitches, and her writing has appeared in over fifty magazines including People, Elle, Glamour, Esquire, and Cosmopolitan. Her work has been featured nationally on The Today Show, The View, MSNBC, Fox News Channel, and MTV. A first-class theater production abroad, her live play has topped Billboard charts for three consecutive years, and received critical acclaim. Her work is currently published throughout the world in over thirty languages. For more information, visit Sherry's Web site at www.sherryargov.com.

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Why Men Love Bitches 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 483 reviews.
Jessica30 More than 1 year ago
Some reviews suggest this book is about playing relationship "games". I just have to let people know that this is not true at all. The book investigates the psychological facts behind what really happens in a relationship. Most women, once attached, start being too nice. They compromise when they should not and give more than what they might recieve. The problem is, guys are different. If a woman is too nice they assume they have already won her over and do not have to try any harder. That's when women become frustrated and complain because they need more, but this neediness automatically turns guys off. This book simply opens your eyes to how men view relationships and read into a woman's bahaviour. I can personally relate to the examples in the book. When I first started dating my boyfriend 3 years ago, I was busy with university and friends, and so I did not really care about where and how the relationship was going. He knew that I wasn't attached and did not have a problem breaking up if he mistreated me, so he made sure that didn't happen. But after a couple of years I started acting needy, as I complained if he didn't call or was too busy to see me all the time. As a result he started backing off. I could not understand how someone who always went out of his way to make me happy and used to insist on "forever" only, now avoids talkin about anything serious alltogether. This book helped me a lot in understanding what had went wrong, and how it could get better. It's not about playing games; it's about remembering that guys do not respond to neediness.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
A definte MUST read for all women, regardless of age, etc. This book tells you how men react to women and how you can stop reacting to them, just by turning on your inner B. Well, that's what I got out of it. It's mostly about why men respect women who won't let them run all over them. It's highly informative, to say the least.
AuthorNancyNichols More than 1 year ago
I read "Why Men Love Bitches" years ago and it changed my life, and then later I benefited from "Why Men Marry Bitches". I didn't know how to stand up for myself in a relationship, which is why I always accepted a man¿s hurtful behavior and experienced failed relationships and a broken heart. Sherry's book opened my eyes to my faulty belief system, changed my attitude about myself and my relationship behavior and ultimately gained me confidence and self-respect that attracted men who would honor me as a woman. Not to mention it is an incredibly entertaining read! Nancy Nichols, author of Secrets of the Ultimate Husband Hunter: How to Attract Men, Enjoy Dating and Recognize the Love of Your Life, endorsed by Sherry Argov, Why Men Marry Bitches.
BlaqueDiamond More than 1 year ago
When I first bought this book I thought I was going to say what the magazines say and have a few quizzes, but I was wrong. To this day this is one of the most important books that I¿ve read. It points out every mistake that women make and how guys perceive them afterwards. My friends and I call it ¿THE BOOK¿, it¿s our secret code! I haven¿t had a chance to apply it to my life yet but I definitely will soon =).
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I'm a 21 year old woman who was in a relationship for almost 4 years,YEAH..I KNOW. Some of the things the author wrote really hit. The things that I was doing and not doing in my relationship, to being taken for granted,and letting my boyfriends treat me how HE wanted. It really inspired me and gave me the backbone to dump the loser and start doing things for myself and now I'm back in the dating scene and I'M in control!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I have always been the girl who wears her heart on the sleeve of my shirt. I have been told to many times that i am to nice and let guys walk all over me and so on. With this book i actually realized that what everyone was saying was true. I have been seeing someone for the last year that wouldn't commit to me. Well i started using the things from the book on him. It's amazing!!! He can't seem to get enough of me now and before he was always pushing me away. He is constantly asking when am i going to see you again, or calling all the time. It was hard for me at first to not be so available all the time. But it has given me time to spend with the dog, my girlfriends and even join a softball team. I recommend this book to every woman who is to nice or just seems to get walked all over again and again.
Zara00 More than 1 year ago
"I love him so much but hate him at the same time" is what happens to relationships where one person is more needy than the other. They will love the other person but resent them for not calling and the person becomes clingy and miserable and the relationship becomes unhealthy. It took literally two days for my relationship to change after reading this book. We've been together for 3 1/2 years, living together for a couple months, and I was always needy and bending over backwards for him every day, then wondering why he wouldnt call right after work and driving myself crazy. I took just two days to focus on myself and my hobbies and act confident, and he was eating out of my hand. He started talking about our future, bringing me my coffee and offering to buy me stuff. This coming from the guy who often pretends im just another piece of furniture in the house and rarely spent any money on me. Now thats its not all about him anymore i am more confident than ever with myself AND my relationship. I no longer harbor feelings of resentment towards him and we are super happy. Every girl should read this book, seriously, it will change so many things for the better,
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I loved this book. It had great information. There are a few things that are iffy and you have to be careful to make sure you dont lose yourself while following the authors rules. Example, if you love to cook and are proud of your skills, I wouldnt follow the authors rule to make your date hotdogs on toothpicks the first tiime you make him a snack... thats just trashy. Make a nice snack, but as the author says dont slave over it. You can be classy AND show you wont be taken advantage of. Some examples that are given like the hotdogs are going to an extreme, so be mindful when u read this, but for the most part, its a wonderful book.
AZLookinForLove More than 1 year ago
This book gave me power and made me feel like I had more control. It is a must read for all women, single or in a relationship!!!
iLuvOth More than 1 year ago
I finally finished reading this book & it threw me back on how much of a "nice girl" I was. To nice to the point that I was weak & always had failed relationships. Sherry was on point to almost everything I did wrong lol! I got this book after reading a preview of it & was so intrigued because I was so tired of getting hurt & taken for granted. The author fully opened my eyes to how I should handle myself with more respect the next time a new guy comes into my life. Right now i'm enjoying single life & focusing on my life taking time for me...but you better believe that the very next time I date...I WILL BE IN CONTROL! Thanx 4 the awesome book Sherry.
thecollector0 More than 1 year ago
I enjoyed reading this one. It changed my attitude! One of my fav.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book taught me so much about myself. I learned how to control my emotion, step back and assess the situation rationally. Now things could not get any better.Yes there is a game being played BUT It's Great when your in control yet allowing him to think he is. Thank you Sherry
Guest More than 1 year ago
It will change your life. Give it to your friends, your niece, and any other women, single or married, that you care about. The only thing you will regret is, 'Why didn't I get this 3 relationships earlier???' It's like a LOVE SPELL, but this one actually works and no chicken blood or rose quarts needed. It will save you so much money on your therapy sessions. I know, because I am a psychologist.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Awesome book... Clearly explains what a 'Babe In Total Control of Herself' means... It's about time women became bitches to earn the well-deserved love and respect is due them!!! You will NOT regret getting this book! I highlited all the good parts and refer to it from time to time. Great book whether you are single or married!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was definately the doormat (nice girl)until I picked this book up at B & N. This book has totally changed my attitude. If you have ever wondered what you have done wrong, what you could have changed or why doesn't he like me when I'm jumping through hoops..BUY THIS BOOK!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book is a "MUST READ" for any woman who is a typical "nice girl". It is written in a humorous way (hence the title) and I found myself laughing out loud while grasping the serious issues that every nice girl deals with in a relationship. I read this book after getting divorced, and suddenly, it made sense of every relationship I have ever had. It changed my life and has made me a better person. I now look at relationships, and myself, in a completely different way! I highly recommend it for any woman who is tired of being a doormat.
Mokensteph More than 1 year ago
i honestly learned a lot with this read. I just happened to read it when i was going through a REALLY BAD break up and this was really an eye opener!!!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I have to admit, the first three chapters I felt beat up by the author. I was able to see exactly why me having the tendency to be so nice to men was actually working against me. The things I had done just for love made me look stupid. And as soon as I opened the book I really felt like "She just TOLD ME". Since reading this book I have experienced a tremendous amount of personal growth in the area of relationships and being able to stand my own. I actually make myself do certain exercises when dating now. I want to make sure I establish boundaries and not seem so easy to please a man. This book gave me the permission I needed to love myself and to tap into who I am as a person and what I love to do. And not to think I am hurting a guys feelings when I say no. Cause in reality, I was getting played, now I feel empowered to play the game my own way, in a way that benefits me. I recommend this book to EVERY woman who ever said... "Why do I feel like I give so much and get so little in return". I have recommended this book to every woman in my circle and they are also recommending it to others. Absolutely incredible book!!! Timeless!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this book when i was in my junior jr of high school. I was reading it in one of my classes, and one of my teachers even asked me to do a power point and book report on it. I started dating this guy and was reading this book in the beginning of our relatioship so i decided to use a few tricks and tips, and they worked. I ended up being with him for 16 months. I still have this book and go back and reread it every once in a while. If you feel like your being taken advantage of, definatley reccomend this book.
jules28JT More than 1 year ago
There are some aspects of this book that's worth absorbing. The most important one of all is that men love women who can hold out on their own. Pretty much, a man will NEVER complete you. But I strongly CAUTION you to NOT follow the advice of playing hard to get and being aloof to a potential mate. I made the HORRIBLE mistake following the rules in this book about being aloof, succinct, etc. Now, I just lost the potential of being with a great guy. If you follow all of the tips and rules of dating, then it'll be game over for you. Really, girls, BE YOURSELF. If a man doesn't accept you for who you are, then he's not worth your time and attention.
labellaindia More than 1 year ago
The first time I read this book was almost 3 years ago & I realized then that I was the doormat girl. THIS BOOK REALLY WORKS!! I have recommended this book to all of my friends who are in a relationship or are single. This gives a detail insight of what men think & from what one of my close male friends say it's pretty much on point. I go back to this book everytime I see myself being a nice girl. It gives you advice of what to do and what not to do and how to change if you are being too nice. BELIEVE ME IT DOES WORK!!! It also shows you how not to give up your personal likes for the likes of your partner. ALL I CAN SAY IS THANK YOU!!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I do enjoy reading it, it has a lot of useful and insightful information about men and what they like in a woman, as well as what a woman can do to make relationships easier for herself. After the first chapter I was hooked
Loonaisha More than 1 year ago
Sherry did her thing with this very informative book. I think that every girl and women should read this book. She open the woman eyes to things that they do and do nor realize they do. She did her research and you get to see what the men are thinking and what they are looking for. I've already recommended that a couple of my friends read this booka and they are utilizing the tools giving.
Guest More than 1 year ago
There are some useful areas of information in this book to get a doormat to wake up and stop begging for love. But there¿s a big difference between being ¿too nice¿ and putting on an act. I tried the games in this book and they backfired on me. That taught me a lesson about being authentic and real. If you want a relationship book that is equally fair for men and women of all ages, the one book that put it all together for me without one single game is Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE. It teaches you how to have real standards and not compromise your dignity or truth. It¿s also real fair play for each person in the relationship. But you might want to get both and then make the decision for yourself.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I wish this book had been written years ago. This is a 'woman's bible'. You can read it over and over again every time you start dating someone new to make sure you are his dreamgirl and not his doormat. I even started a yahoo group with the same title and all of us women discuss the book and help eachother out.