Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life [NOOK Book]

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From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more productive


It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people-especially women-to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number ...

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Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your Life

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Overview

From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more productive


It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture is pushing many people-especially women-to spend countless hours thinking about negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows that an increasing number of women-more than half of those in her extensive study-are doing it too much and too often, hindering their ability to lead a satisfying life. Overthinking can be anything from fretting about the big questions such as "What am I doing with my life?" to losing sleep over a friend's innocent comment. It is causing many women to end up sad, anxious, or seriously depressed, and Nolen-Hoeksema challenges the assumption-heralded by so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades-that constantly expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing.


In Women Who Think Too Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think Too Much will change lives and is destined to become a self-help classic.



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Editorial Reviews

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“The question of whether Nolen-Hoeksema is onto something was slam-dunked by the ‘I know exactly what she means’ reactions of women who caught sight of the title.” —The Washington Post

“A must read for any woman who has ever felt stuck in her life, and any man who has been confused by why the women they love get so ‘caught up thinking’ they can’t enjoy life.

Nolen-Hoeksema offers practical methods to self-diagnose and pathways toward greater emotional freedom.” —William S. Pollack, Ph.D., author of Real Boys, Assistant Clinical Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard University

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781429948630
  • Publisher: Holt, Henry & Company, Inc.
  • Publication date: 2/1/2004
  • Sold by: Macmillan
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 288
  • Sales rank: 124,742
  • File size: 2 MB

Meet the Author

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan. She received her B.A. from Yale University and her Ph.D. from the University of Pennsylvania. Her award-winning research has been funded by major grants from the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Science Foundation, and several private foundations. She lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan, with her husband and son.




Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, PhD, is the author of the bestselling Women Who Think Too Much and Eating, Drinking, Overthinking. A professor of psychology at Yale University, she has conducted award-winning research on women's mental health for twenty-five years. She and her research have been profiled on the Today show and in The New York Times. She lives in New Haven, Connecticut.
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From Women Who Think Too Much:
Over the last four decades, women have experienced unprecedented growth in
independence and opportunity. We are freer to choose what kinds of relationships to have, whether and when to have children, what careers to pursue, and what lifestyles to lead.

But too often, many of us are flooded with worries, thoughts, and emotions that swirl out of control. We are suffering from an epidemic of overthinking-getting caught in torrents of negative thoughts and emotions that overwhelm us and interfere with our functioning and well-being. Our concerns are about fundamental issues: Who am I? What am I doing with my life? Answers do not come easily to such questions and so we search and ponder and worry even more.

Types of Overthinking:

o Rant-and-Rave
This is the most familiar type of overthinking which
usually centers on some wrong we believe has been done to us. Women prone to this kind of overthinking tend to take on an air of wounded self-righteousness and focus on designing retribution that will severely sting our victimizers.

o Life-of-Their-Own
This type of overthinking begins innocently as we notice we're feeling upset or when we ponder a recent event. Then we begin to entertain possible causes for our feelings about the events. Overthinking causes us to exaggerate problems and make bad decisions.

o Chaotic
This type of overthinking occurs when we don't move in a straight line from one problem to another. Instead, it is as if all kinds of concerns, many of them unrelated, flood our minds at the same time.
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Table of Contents

Part I An Epidemic of Overthinking
1. What's Wrong with Overthinking? 3
2. If It Hurts So Much, Why Do We Do It? 32
3. Women's Unique Vulnerabilities 48
Part II Strategies for Overcoming Overthinking
4. Breaking Free 59
5. Moving to Higher Ground 80
6. Avoiding Future Traps 105
Part III Triggers for Overthinking
7. Married to My Worries: Overthinking Intimate Relationships 133
8. Family Matters: Overthinking Our Parents and Siblings 152
9. The Parent Trap: Overthinking and Our Children 165
10. Always on the Job: Overthinking Work and Careers 184
11. Toxic Thoughts: Overthinking Health Problems 205
12. Can't Get Over It: Overthinking Loss and Trauma 221
13. Moving Our Society to Higher Ground 243
Notes 255
Resources 261
Acknowledgments 263
Index 265
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Reading Group Guide

Discussion Questions

1. What are some of the distinctions between destructive overthinking and prudent planning? How can you tell when you’ve begun thinking “too much”?

2. The first part of chapter one mentions the unprecedented growth in independence and opportunities experienced by women over the past forty years as well as the fact that women are twice as likely as men to become severely depressed or anxious. In your experience, have the liberating legal and societal changes of the late twentieth century simultaneously created new constraints for women?

3. The book’s subtitle proposes that overthinking can prevent women from truly embracing their lives. What are some of the ways in which overthinking acts as a barrier to authenticity? In particular, what can morbid meditations reveal about sense of self?

4. How did you react to your results of the quiz on page 13? Which category presents the greatest challenge to you?

5. Pessimism and self-criticism are mentioned in the book as being especially harmful “thought pollutants.” What are their societal origins? Considering the brain’s impulse to connect otherwise unrelated negative thoughts, what are some of your own barriers to optimism and self-confidence? How can we heal thought processes without their metamorphosing into an outlook of entitlement and blame?

6. Consider the techniques listed on pages 78 and 79. What specific tasks could you apply to tailor this list to your own circumstances? Which loved ones could be enlisted to help, without risking a tit-for-tat escalation of negative thoughts? How could you apply the “breaking free” tactics to a particularly stressful situation or relationship in your life right now?

7. The drawbacks to “if only” thinking are numerous, but inaction is equally problematic. Consider some of your most frequently mentioned goals, and assess whether they serve as stalling devices or are actually healthy steps that deserve immediate action.

8. How does the concept of a nemesis, on the job or in a social context, fit in with the book’s assertions about “if only” thinking?

9. Spend a few minutes outlining your life’s narrative, without considering why your path unfolded as it did. Using the tools offered on pages 128 and 129, map out a vision for your next chapter. Which characters from your current “storyline” will need to play a diminished role? Which aspects will you enhance?

10. What is your greatest obstacle in simplifying your life? Remember to keep the response simple.

11. Explore the career sketch provided in chapter ten. Were you able to relate to Abby’s impulsive job change? How would you have responded if you were Gina, Abby’s roommate?

12. Chapter eleven mentions that optimists appear to fight illness more successfully than pessimists. Consider the ways in which this mind-body connection has affected your own health and that of your family.

13. How can readers avoid the conundrum of overthinking the problem of thinking too much? Discuss some of the ways in which you can implement Dr. Nolen-Hoeksema’s advice through action rather than through rumination.

14. Women Who Think Too Much concludes with inspiration for changing the tide of history. Does your culture or community reinforce negative moods, including helplessness, hopelessness, sadness, and anxiety, in its daughters? Propose your own ideas for eradicating the problem of overthinking among future generations.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 13, 2006

    All women need to read this book!

    I bought this book without even opening it, based on the title. I consistently analyze everything in my life...what if this happens, should I have done this, what did that comment mean? The author explains how thinking too much can literally stop one from being able to make good decisions, and even lead to depression. She also does a great job of explaining why women are especially vunerable to overthinking. Then she gives techniques to help us stop overanalyzing. When I started reading this book, I instantly felt relieved knowing that I am not the only woman alive who does think too much. Highly suggest.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 9, 2003

    OverThinking can be helped

    This book is sensitive to the pressures of contemporary society that increase "overthinking" and it is especially perceptive about the situation of women in America today. The author explains that overthinking is more than just worry, as worry about future events can be a constructive form of negative thinking. Overthinking is usually rumination about the past and negative self-thoughts that can get out of control and become chaotic. The book has useful "quick reference guides" that summarize helpful strategies described in the middle chapters. Overall, I found it to be an informative and very helpful book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 6, 2003

    This book will change lives!

    I have read alot of self help books that I usually do not finish. I loved the style and context of 'Women Who Think Too Much' and read every page. I could relate to her common sense approach to help women put a stop to over thinking. It has helped me realize that it is OK to say 'STOP' when my mind is racing.

    4 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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