Women's Best Friendships: Beyond Betty, Veronica, Thelma, and Louise

Paperback (Print)
Buy New
Buy New from BN.com
Used and New from Other Sellers
Used and New from Other Sellers
from $1.99
Usually ships in 1-2 business days
(Save 95%)
Other sellers (Paperback)
  • All (7) from $1.99   
  • New (2) from $45.46   
  • Used (5) from $1.99   


Explore the distinct relationships of close female friends!

Women’s Best Friendships: Beyond Betty, Veronica, Thelma, and Louise gives new and comprehensive insight into the complex world of women’s closest friendships. Recent studies have shown that women place enormous value on best friendships and consider them to be woven tightly into the fabric of their lives. Using in-depth interviews, along with close readings of relevant literature and theory, this book focuses on the many facets of these relationships.

With heartfelt first-person accounts and insightful commentary from the author, this book examines three intertwining themes: feelings of competition, issues of dependence and independence, and knowing/understanding. This book sheds light on areas of tension among women, especially difficulties in communication, frustration about not being entirely let into a friend’s life and thought processes, and the feeling that one friend may value the friendship more than the other. It also discusses women’s struggles to maintain closeness over increased distances and the realization that one’s friends are flawed, even as friends. This informative book, grounded in established research and theory, presents stories of real friendships—told by the people who live them. These women talk candidly about what makes a best friend, about navigating the choppy waters of friendship, and much more: “Somehow, when we started living farther apart there were ways in which we were being insensitive. We recognized that there was a really strong bond, but we were taking it for granted. So we talked about how close we feel to one another and perhaps how that leads to some arguments or hurt feelings.” —Liz, on how distance has affected her relationship with her best friend Susan

“Em and I don’t fight at all. I don’t know if that’s good or bad. I don’t think I do well with fights. I think that’s probably a lot of conflict avoidance on my part. And I think it does lead to some distance, even though it’s a best friendship. I think I’m uncomfortable asserting myself. And so it’s easier not to have to do that. So maybe my inability to deal with the problems keeps the friendship at a distance, where it’s safe and comfortable for me, in that one respect.” —Linda, about her desire to avoid any confrontation with Emily, her best friend

Women’s Best Friendships: Beyond Betty, Veronica, Thelma, and Louise is a fresh and exciting look at the inner workings of relationships between women. Drawing upon a multitude of issues and insights, this book is a must-have for women’s studies classes.

Read More Show Less

Product Details

Table of Contents

  • Preface
  • Acknowledgments
  • Chapter 1. Introduction
  • Women and Fiction
  • My Research Methods
  • How the Findings Are Presented
  • What This Book Is Not
  • Chapter 2. Linda
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: Keeping Some Distance
  • Chapter 3. Nancy
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: A Question of Loyalty
  • Chapter 4. Liz
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: Knowing What to Say and When to Say It
  • Chapter 5. “Although Sometimes My Friends Are Competitive, I Don’t Think I Ever Am”: Navigating Choppy Waters
  • Nancy
  • Linda
  • Liz
  • Reflections
  • Chapter 6. Alice
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: Communication Breakdowns
  • Chapter 7. Amy
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: What Makes a Best Friend?
  • Chapter 8. “I Can Count on My Best Friend . . . Not That I Would”: The Conundrum of Independence versus Dependence
  • Alice
  • Linda
  • Nancy
  • Reflections
  • Chapter 9. Deb
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: A Different Kind of Friendship
  • Chapter 10. Denise
  • The Story
  • Further Reflections: Are All Best Friends Considered Equal?
  • Chapter 11. “They’re Both People Who Truly Know Me”: A Need Fulfilled
  • “They’ve Seen Me Through a Lot of Changes”
  • “They’re Very Attuned to My Feelings”
  • “They Don’t Just Know Me, They Understand Me”
  • “She Knows What Would Happen If I Did That”
  • Deb
  • Reflections
  • Chapter 12. Conclusion
  • Appendix A. Transcript versus Poem
  • Appendix B. Nancy Poem 1
  • Appendix C. Nancy Poem 2
  • Appendix D. Liz Poem
  • Notes
  • Bibliography
  • Index
  • Reference Notes Included
Read More Show Less

Customer Reviews

Be the first to write a review
( 0 )
Rating Distribution

5 Star


4 Star


3 Star


2 Star


1 Star


Your Rating:

Your Name: Create a Pen Name or

Barnes & Noble.com Review Rules

Our reader reviews allow you to share your comments on titles you liked, or didn't, with others. By submitting an online review, you are representing to Barnes & Noble.com that all information contained in your review is original and accurate in all respects, and that the submission of such content by you and the posting of such content by Barnes & Noble.com does not and will not violate the rights of any third party. Please follow the rules below to help ensure that your review can be posted.

Reviews by Our Customers Under the Age of 13

We highly value and respect everyone's opinion concerning the titles we offer. However, we cannot allow persons under the age of 13 to have accounts at BN.com or to post customer reviews. Please see our Terms of Use for more details.

What to exclude from your review:

Please do not write about reviews, commentary, or information posted on the product page. If you see any errors in the information on the product page, please send us an email.

Reviews should not contain any of the following:

  • - HTML tags, profanity, obscenities, vulgarities, or comments that defame anyone
  • - Time-sensitive information such as tour dates, signings, lectures, etc.
  • - Single-word reviews. Other people will read your review to discover why you liked or didn't like the title. Be descriptive.
  • - Comments focusing on the author or that may ruin the ending for others
  • - Phone numbers, addresses, URLs
  • - Pricing and availability information or alternative ordering information
  • - Advertisements or commercial solicitation


  • - By submitting a review, you grant to Barnes & Noble.com and its sublicensees the royalty-free, perpetual, irrevocable right and license to use the review in accordance with the Barnes & Noble.com Terms of Use.
  • - Barnes & Noble.com reserves the right not to post any review -- particularly those that do not follow the terms and conditions of these Rules. Barnes & Noble.com also reserves the right to remove any review at any time without notice.
  • - See Terms of Use for other conditions and disclaimers.
Search for Products You'd Like to Recommend

Recommend other products that relate to your review. Just search for them below and share!

Create a Pen Name

Your Pen Name is your unique identity on BN.com. It will appear on the reviews you write and other website activities. Your Pen Name cannot be edited, changed or deleted once submitted.

Your Pen Name can be any combination of alphanumeric characters (plus - and _), and must be at least two characters long.

Continue Anonymously
Sort by: Showing all of 3 Customer Reviews
  • Anonymous

    Posted January 29, 2003

    Women's Best Friendships: Beyond Betty, Veronica, Thelma, and Louise

    This is a wonderful book for a man to read. Women's friendships are mysterious to men, and we rarely get a glimpse into what makes them tick. Furthermore, I will use this book in the classroom.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Anonymous

    Posted January 29, 2003

    Women's Best Friendships: Beyond Betty, Veronica, Thelma, and Louise

    This wonderful book has caused me to think about the relationships I have had with other women throughout my life. It has given me insight into my own behavior, as well as an understanding of others. A must for all women!

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
  • Anonymous

    Posted December 2, 2002

    Who Needs Archie? Beyond Betty and Veronica is Superb

    Women's Best Friendships was a very insightful, well-written book. It revealed a tremendous amount about what best friends mean to women. Given all of the recent literature about how difficult girl's adolescent friendships can be, the importance of this book, showing the positive effects of female friendship, is immeasurable. The writing is wonderful. It flows quite smoothly.

    Was this review helpful? Yes  No   Report this review
Sort by: Showing all of 3 Customer Reviews

If you find inappropriate content, please report it to Barnes & Noble
Why is this product inappropriate?
Comments (optional)