Words Are Not for Hurting

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Some of your words are kind. But some of them are not. Words are not for hurting. What do hurtful words do?”

Children are known for speaking their minds. We can’t expect them to watch every word, but we can help them to understand that their words affect other people. We can gently guide them to choose words that are helpful instead of hurtful, and to say two very important words—“I’m sorry”—when hurtful words come out before they can stop ...

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Some of your words are kind. But some of them are not. Words are not for hurting. What do hurtful words do?”

Children are known for speaking their minds. We can’t expect them to watch every word, but we can help them to understand that their words affect other people. We can gently guide them to choose words that are helpful instead of hurtful, and to say two very important words—“I’m sorry”—when hurtful words come out before they can stop them.

Like Free Spirit's earlier board books Hands Are Not for Hitting and Teeth Are Not for Biting, Words Are Not for Hurting helps little ones learn big ideas: that they are responsible for what they do and say; that their actions and words affect others; and that they can make positive choices. Simple words and delightful full-color illustrations make it perfect for reading aloud one-on-one or in small groups. The book also includes helpful tips for parents and caregivers.

Encourages toddlers and preschoolers to express themselves using helpful, not hurtful, words. Includes a note for parents and caregivers on language development.

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Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

"It's not always an easy feat to teach little ones about morals and the difference between right and wrong. But great news for you author Elizabeth Verdick is her to help you..."—Baby Let's Shop blog

 “... not only fun for you and your little ones to cuddle up with at bedtime (or any other time for that matter), but they also teach the importance of using words in respectful and loving ways, and in ways that resolve conflict instead of escalating it.
“Heinlen’s illustrations will capture a child’s imagination as she gazes at an assorted mixture of children from many races.”—noirbaby.com

 “A useful tool for the classroom.”—Children’s Literature

Creative Child Magazine Seal of Excellence

iParenting Media Awards “Hottest Products” Winner

The National Parenting Center’s Seal of Approval Winner

Oppenheim Toy Portfolio Gold Book Award Winner

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Children's Literature
One of the most important lessons young children can learn is how their actions and words affect others. Sometimes this is a hard lesson to teach. This book is a useful tool for the classroom or for parents at home in teaching the difference between kind words and hurtful words and their impact on others. The simple words and vivid illustrations—kids interacting with kids and kids interacting with adults—gently help to convey the message: Words are for helping. In the illustrations, the expressions on kids' faces also help to carry over the message of the text. Even expressions of the dogs and cats, as onlookers, reinforce the text and help readers to understand the effect words have. 2004, Free Spirit Publishing, Ages 3 to 6.
—Kelly Moning
School Library Journal
PreS-Gr 2-This cheerful, instructive title highlights the power of words. The focus is on children taking personal responsibility for what they say, as well as thinking before speaking. Communication skills that promote friendship and other key social skills are encouraged. Bright, colorful illustrations convey the messages well via body language and facial expression. Examples expose the negative impact caused by the use of hurtful words and the effective use of the simple, powerful phrase, "I'm sorry." Also included are steps for adults and children to take to get help with a serious problem, such as abuse. This title is similar in scope to Lauren Murphy Payne and Claudia Rohling's We Can Get Along (Free Spirit, 1997), but encompasses a broader range of relationships, along with activity and discussion suggestions for involved adults.-Sharon A. Neal, Immaculata University, PA Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781575421551
  • Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing, Inc.
  • Publication date: 1/15/2004
  • Series: Best Behavior
  • Edition description: Board Book
  • Pages: 24
  • Sales rank: 180,425
  • Age range: 1 - 3 Years
  • Product dimensions: 7.00 (w) x 7.10 (h) x 0.60 (d)

Meet the Author

Elizabeth Verdick is a children's book writer and editor.  She lives in Minnesota with her husband and their two children.

Marieka Heinlen launched her career as a children’s book illustrator with the award-winning Hands Are Not for Hitting. As a freelance illustrator and designer, Marieka focuses her work on books and other materials for children, teens, parents, and teachers. She lives in St. Paul, Minnesota, with her husband and son.

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  • Posted December 1, 2011

    Great for little ones

    This is a great book to work with younger children. So many of the children I work with have been bullied or are bullies themselves. This helps teach children at a young age, that not only can you hurt people physically but what you say to them can hurt just as much and it often takes longer to feel better when someone hurts your feelings.

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  • Posted November 17, 2010

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    Powerful yet Simple Message

    Title/Series: Words Are Not for Hurting
    Author: Elizabeth Verdick
    Pages: 24 pages
    Copyright Date: 2004
    Reading Level: Board Book Version
    Interest Level: Baby - Preschool

    Summary: We all use many words each day. This book shows the different kinds of words we use such as loud and soft. It also shows what hurtful words do and what you can do to stop the hurtful words. The last two pages give good tips on how to use this book in starting a positive discussion with a child. The ideas suggested are age appropriate for the baby to preschool audience.

    Educational: Excellent- the entire "Best Behavior" series promotes positive character building
    Content: Excellent- words are simple yet powerful, vivid illustrations, great parent discussion and behavior tips
    Message: Excellent- not only points out the problem with hurtful words but also gives positive ideas (what to do instead, what to do if you didn't stop words), promotes good character traits without preaching the skills
    Note: The entire board book series "Best Behavior" promotes and teaches positive behavior in an easy to understand way to young children. It gives the child options on how to improve their mistakes. This board book series is intended for the age range baby through preschool. The parent and caregiver tips in the back of the book are intended for this age range. For older children, many titles in the board book series are also available in a more in depth paperback version. These paperback books are approximately 40 pages long and aimed at children 4 to 7 years old. They include the same powerful language and options on what to do if mistakes happen. These books also include parent and caregiver tips. The tips are geared more towards children ages 4 - 7.

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