Words Are Not for Hurting [NOOK Book]


Kids learn that teasing isn’t nice, that they can choose to be kind to animals, and that if you want to touch someone else’s pet, there’s one important rule you should know: Ask the owner first! A special section for adults includes ideas for teaching kindness to animals, activities, and discussion starters.

Encourages toddlers and preschoolers to express themselves using helpful, not hurtful, words. Includes a note for parents and ...

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Kids learn that teasing isn’t nice, that they can choose to be kind to animals, and that if you want to touch someone else’s pet, there’s one important rule you should know: Ask the owner first! A special section for adults includes ideas for teaching kindness to animals, activities, and discussion starters.

Encourages toddlers and preschoolers to express themselves using helpful, not hurtful, words. Includes a note for parents and caregivers on language development.

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Editorial Reviews

Children's Literature
One of the most important lessons young children can learn is how their actions and words affect others. Sometimes this is a hard lesson to teach. This book is a useful tool for the classroom or for parents at home in teaching the difference between kind words and hurtful words and their impact on others. The simple words and vivid illustrations—kids interacting with kids and kids interacting with adults—gently help to convey the message: Words are for helping. In the illustrations, the expressions on kids' faces also help to carry over the message of the text. Even expressions of the dogs and cats, as onlookers, reinforce the text and help readers to understand the effect words have. 2004, Free Spirit Publishing, Ages 3 to 6.
—Kelly Moning
School Library Journal
PreS-Gr 2-This cheerful, instructive title highlights the power of words. The focus is on children taking personal responsibility for what they say, as well as thinking before speaking. Communication skills that promote friendship and other key social skills are encouraged. Bright, colorful illustrations convey the messages well via body language and facial expression. Examples expose the negative impact caused by the use of hurtful words and the effective use of the simple, powerful phrase, "I'm sorry." Also included are steps for adults and children to take to get help with a serious problem, such as abuse. This title is similar in scope to Lauren Murphy Payne and Claudia Rohling's We Can Get Along (Free Spirit, 1997), but encompasses a broader range of relationships, along with activity and discussion suggestions for involved adults.-Sharon A. Neal, Immaculata University, PA Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.
From the Publisher

“This cheerful, instructive title highlights the power of words.”—School Library Journal

“This is a must-have for every home and classroom. The author shares some excellent tips and ideas of how to further educate your child about the power of their words.”—Chasing Supermom blog

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781575426266
  • Publisher: Free Spirit Publishing, Inc.
  • Publication date: 4/15/2004
  • Series: Best Behavior Series
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: NOOK Kids Read to Me
  • Edition number: 1
  • Sales rank: 530,841
  • Age range: 4 - 7 Years
  • File size: 22 MB
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Meet the Author

Elizabeth Verdick has been writing books since 1997, the year her daughter was born. Her two children, now ages 13 and 8, are the inspiration for nearly everything she writes. Before becoming an author, Elizabeth edited books for children and parents. These days she writes books for toddlers to teens, and everything in between. She especially loves creating new board book series for toddlers—the latest series is Toddler Tools™, which helps young children and their parents cope with those tough times and transitions that happen every day (like naptime and bedtime). The Best Behavior™ series helps toddlers reach new milestones and improve their day-to-day behavior. Elizabeth also enjoys getting the chance to look at the funny side of life in the Laugh and Learn™ series, which helps kids ages 8–13 get a handle on the social/emotional skills they’re developing throughout the elementary– and middle school years. Elizabeth lives with her family and five pets near St. Paul, Minnesota.
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  • Posted December 1, 2011

    Great for little ones

    This is a great book to work with younger children. So many of the children I work with have been bullied or are bullies themselves. This helps teach children at a young age, that not only can you hurt people physically but what you say to them can hurt just as much and it often takes longer to feel better when someone hurts your feelings.

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  • Posted November 17, 2010

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    Powerful yet Simple Message

    Title/Series: Words Are Not for Hurting
    Author: Elizabeth Verdick
    Pages: 24 pages
    Copyright Date: 2004
    Reading Level: Board Book Version
    Interest Level: Baby - Preschool

    Summary: We all use many words each day. This book shows the different kinds of words we use such as loud and soft. It also shows what hurtful words do and what you can do to stop the hurtful words. The last two pages give good tips on how to use this book in starting a positive discussion with a child. The ideas suggested are age appropriate for the baby to preschool audience.

    Educational: Excellent- the entire "Best Behavior" series promotes positive character building
    Content: Excellent- words are simple yet powerful, vivid illustrations, great parent discussion and behavior tips
    Message: Excellent- not only points out the problem with hurtful words but also gives positive ideas (what to do instead, what to do if you didn't stop words), promotes good character traits without preaching the skills
    Note: The entire board book series "Best Behavior" promotes and teaches positive behavior in an easy to understand way to young children. It gives the child options on how to improve their mistakes. This board book series is intended for the age range baby through preschool. The parent and caregiver tips in the back of the book are intended for this age range. For older children, many titles in the board book series are also available in a more in depth paperback version. These paperback books are approximately 40 pages long and aimed at children 4 to 7 years old. They include the same powerful language and options on what to do if mistakes happen. These books also include parent and caregiver tips. The tips are geared more towards children ages 4 - 7.

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