Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversation Strategies to Build Trust, Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intima cy

Words Can Change Your Brain: 12 Conversation Strategies to Build Trust, Resolve Conflict, and Increase Intima cy

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by Andrew Newberg, Mark Robert Waldman
     
 

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In our default state, our brains constantly get in the way of effective communication. They are lazy, angry, immature, and distracted. They can make a difficult conversation impossible. But Andrew Newberg, M.D., and Mark Waldman have discovered a powerful strategy called Compassionate Communication that allows two brains to work together as one. Using brainscans as

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In our default state, our brains constantly get in the way of effective communication. They are lazy, angry, immature, and distracted. They can make a difficult conversation impossible. But Andrew Newberg, M.D., and Mark Waldman have discovered a powerful strategy called Compassionate Communication that allows two brains to work together as one. Using brainscans as well as data collected from workshops given to MBA students at Loyola Marymount University, and clinical data from both couples in therapy and organizations helping caregivers cope with patient suffering, Newberg and Waldman have seen that Compassionate Communication can reposition a difficult conversation to lead to a satisfying conclusion. Whether you are negotiating with your boss or your spouse, the brain works the same way and responds to the same cues. The truth, though, is that you don't have to understand how Compassionate Communication works. You just have to do it. Some of the simple and effective takeaways in this book include: • Make sure you are relaxed; yawning several times before (not during) the meeting will do the trick • Never speak for more than 20-30 seconds at a time. After that they other person's window of attention closes. • Use positive speech; you will need at least three positives to overcome the effect of every negative used • Speak slowly; pause between words. This is critical, but really hard to do. • Respond to the other person; do not shift the conversation. • Remember that the brain can only hold onto about four ideas at one time Highly effective across a wide range of settings, Compassionate Communication is an excellent tool for conflict resolution but also for simply getting your point across or delivering difficult news.

Editorial Reviews

Sometimes a single conversation can create or strengthen a relationship that can last a lifetime; at others, chance spoken words, facial expressions, or gestures can stymie our fondest attentions. In his latest effort, veteran therapist/author Andrew Newberg (The Art of Staying Together) delineates twelve strategies that have been proven to enhance interplay with others. Practices to improve conversations at the meal-table, the boardroom, the beach, or the bedroom.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781101585702
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
06/14/2012
Sold by:
Penguin Group
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
208,151
File size:
1 MB
Age Range:
18 Years

What People are saying about this

Herbert Benson
In their noteworthy new book, Newberg and Waldman show you how to listen and speak more effectively in a fashion that will actually change your brain. As a result, you will communicate and get along better with others. Thank you! (Herbert Benson, M.D, Associate Professor of Medicine at Harvard Medical School and Author of The Relaxation Response)
Chris Manning
Every business person in America should read this book. The bottom line: profitability and loyalty increases as the quality of your relationships improve. (Chris Manning, PhD, Professor of Finance and Real Estate, Loyola Marymount University, Los Angeles)
Stephen E. Roulac
When the principles of Compassionate Communication are applied to business management, hiring, recruiting, or selling, superior results are invariably realized. (Stephen E. Roulac, Ph.D., Professor of Global Property Strategy, University of Ulster)
Daniel G. Amen
A rare book! It teaches the reader, in a matter of minutes, how to speak well and listen well. The authors show why everyday communication doesn't work, and how to change the unconscious inner dialogues that stop us from honestly interacting with others. Best of all, it's supported by the most recent advances in brain-and-communication research. (Daniel G. Amen, MD, author of Use Your Brain to Change Your Age)
John Assaraf
One of the best personal development books of the decade! (John Assaraf, author of The Answer)
Michael Bernard Beckwith
Combines years of neuroscientific research on the power of our spoken word, facial expressions and body language with twelve real-world practices. Equally applicable in the boardroom and the bedroom, it is a must-read for those who want to better understand and communicate who they are in all forms and aspects of relationship. (Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Life Visioning)
Srinivasan Pillay
Bringing together insights from neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual development, Waldman and Newberg offer a profoundly simple and effective way to turn ordinary conversations into extraordinary events.. (Srinivasan Pillay, M.D., Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School)

Meet the Author

Andrew Newberg, M.D. is the Director of Research at the Myrna Brind Center of Integrative Medicine at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital and Medical College. He is the author of several books, including the bestselling Why God Won’t Go Away, and his research has been featured in Time, Newsweek, Oprah Magazine, and on the Discovery Channel, the National Geographic Channel, the BBC and NPR.

Mark Robert Waldman is Adjunct Faculty at Loyola Marymount University, Los Angeles, where he teaches Executive Communication in the EMBA program. He is a business and personal development coach and the author of twelve books, including the bestselling How God Changes Your Brain, (co-authored with Newberg and named by Oprah as one of nine “must read” books for 2012).

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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Pause 30 seconds after each sentence of this review... Research based mindfulness technique. I use it successfully with friends and my mentally ill clients. Two or three sentences and we both feel appreciated and cherished. This is because the extraordinarily simple method puts you in the heart of this moment with the other person. The rest of the books supports what you learned by providing analysis of research explaining why we need it; why it works. Use it and improve every area of your life...activate those frontal lobes.