Work with Me: The 8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women in Business

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Work With Me is the timely collaboration of two of the world's foremost authorities on gender relations. Barbara Annis, world-renowned expert on gender issues in the workplace, and John Gray, author of the number one relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, team up to resolve the most stressful and confusing challenges facing men and women at work. Annis and Gray reveal, for the first time, survey results of over 100,000 in-depth interviews of men and women executives in over 60 ...

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Work With Me is the timely collaboration of two of the world's foremost authorities on gender relations. Barbara Annis, world-renowned expert on gender issues in the workplace, and John Gray, author of the number one relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, team up to resolve the most stressful and confusing challenges facing men and women at work. Annis and Gray reveal, for the first time, survey results of over 100,000 in-depth interviews of men and women executives in over 60 Fortune 500 companies. Listeners will discover the Eight Gender Blind Spots, the false assumptions and opinions men and women have of each other, and in many ways, believe of themselves. Through research, science, and stories, Annis and Gray expose the blind spots that cause our misunderstandings, miscommunications, mistrust, resentment, and frustrations at work. Listeners will discover the biology and social influences that compel men and women to think and act as they do, and direct how they communicate, solve problems, make decisions, resolve conflict, lead others, and deal with stress, enabling them to achieve greater success and satisfaction in their professional and personal lives. Work With Me is the definitive work-life relational guide, filled with "ah-ha!" moments and discoveries that will remove the blind spots and enable men and women to work and succeed together.

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Editorial Reviews

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"Pragmatic and timely, this joint offering by two complementary experts one from Mars and one from Venus promises to be a game changer." —-Publishers Weekly Starred Review
Publishers Weekly
In this must-read, Annis (an expert on workplace gender issues and chair of the women’s leadership board at Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government) and relationship expert Gray (author of the bestseller Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) examine how and why men and women think differently at work, and what we can do about it. As the authors write, “In pursuit of gender sameness, we’ve painted ourselves into a corner.” By exposing and eliminating our blind spots, Annis and Gray argue, we can improve our gender intelligence and therefore our individual and organizational effectiveness. In the first section, the authors examine eight gender blind spots that emerged from their own research, and that are supported by data and research from outside institutions. The blind spots are humorous, but the examples of how we misinterpret each other will hit home. Compelling stories from individuals bring the data to life, and facts on gender are included throughout. Even more useful is the book’s second section, which offers examples of gender intelligence at work, plus practical advice on how to build trust and improve communications. Pragmatic and timely, this joint offering by two complementary experts—one from Mars and one from Venus—promises to be a game changer. Agent: Carol Mann, Carol Mann Agency. (May)
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“In this must-read, Annis and Gray examine how and why men and women think differently at work, and what we can do about it… Pragmatic and timely, Work with Me promises to be a game changer!”-Publishers Weekly (starred review)

Work With Me is a lucid, evidence-based guide for a comprehensive and immensely useful understanding of the unique, sex-specific features of the human brain.  Barbara Annis, an articulate and intelligent advisor to corporations, has taught us how to meld the talents of men and women into an effective whole. She collaborates with John Gray, who was the first to engage the public in understanding the differences between the way we think, plan, and communicate.  The book exemplifies the fact that gender-specific science is not an emotion-laden pursuit, but an ever-expanding, evidence-based exposition of the extraordinary—and for the most part completely unexpected—sex specific features of the human brain. This ought to be obligatory reading for every person who wants to fashion and maintain productive relationships.”

-          Marianne J. Legato, M.D., F.A.C.P, Professor of Clinical Medicine, Columbia University, Founder, Foundation for Gender-Specific Medicine, Inc.

Work with Me is a landmark work that examines today’s workplace opportunities and challenges through both an economic and social interaction lens and demonstrates why gender intelligence – not gender equality – will inspire a culture of inclusiveness and create a sustainable source of economic advantage for, individuals, leaders, and their organizations.”

-          Lara Warner, Chief Financial Officer, Credit Suisse Investment Bank

"No doubt about it. Group intelligence is highest when both genders problem solve together. Now Barbara Annis and John Gray show us how to get the job done! If this book doesn't make you think, you are brain dead!"

-          Dr Wendy Walsh, Human Behavior Expert, CNN and The O'Reilly Factor

“It’s time to get smart about Gender Intelligence. If anyone on Earth – or Venus or Mars – can sort out these complex relationships, John Gray and Barbara Annis can. “Work” your way through this remarkable book!”

-          Harvey Mackay, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

“I firmly believe that for all high performers, the end goal is the same: to work and communicate as effectively and successfully as possible. This insightful and well-researched book shares valuable guidance for executives and employees at all levels, all of whom face challenges with different styles, expectations and approaches. Work with Me is an engaging and impactful read for men and women alike.”

-          Janet Wood, EVP Global Strategic Service Partners, SAP

"As a boss myself, working alongside my business partner and husband for the past 35 years, this book would have helped us so many years ago to avoid the misunderstandings and hurt feelings that took so much time away from the real object, which was creating success together and utilizing our combined strengths. Work with Me clarifies our gender differences and gives the tools for successful collaboration."

-          Suzanne Somers, Actress, author

“It seems that most books written on gender relations implore women to act more like men and deplore men for acting like themselves. Men and women want to find ways to work and succeed together, and to do so by being their authentic selves. Work with Me shows us how, with equal learning for women and men. It is refreshingly non-judgemental – neither gender is to be blamed or “fixed”. Annis and Gray reveal that gender differences are not weaknesses but strengths that are often misunderstood and undervalued by both genders. Work with Me is an enjoyable and enlightening read, filled with practical information supported by empirical data, scientific explanations, and dozens of anecdotes that skilfully and warmly reflect gender interactions in our professional and personal lives.”

-          Valerie Sorbie, Chief Administrative Officer, BMO Capital Markets

Work with Me is the perfect blend of Annis’ cutting-edge research and insights into the minds of men and women at work, and Gray’s enduring contribution to our understanding of male-female personal relations. Together, Annis and Gray provide the perfect relational guide for men and women looking for happiness and success through greater understanding as colleagues, partners, and parents.”

-          Jack Canfield, author and co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series

“What a concept! Men being men and women being women. It’s about time we put to rest the failed notion that we are all the same. Annis and Gray introduce an entirely new way to think and talk about gender equality in the 21st century. Work with Me is a perfect blend of work-life and personal-life messages. No other book tackles the issue of men and women working and winning together.”

-          Raymond Aaron, New York Times bestselling author of Double Your Income Doing What You Love

“Annis and Gray bravely reveal the blind spots that perpetually prevent men and women from understanding and appreciating their gender differences, not hiding or suppressing their authentic natures, and as a result, finding greater success and happiness in their professional and personal lives.”

-          Dr. Fabrizio Mancini, bestselling author of The Power of Self-Healing

’Work with Me is the definitive relational guide for the workplace, bringing insights and solutions to help both men and women eliminate their gender blind spots, powerfully complement each other’s natural strengths and efforts, and together achieve extraordinary levels of performance.”

-          George H. Labovitz, Ph.D., Founder and CEO of Organizational Dynamics, Inc.


“Annis and Gray confront, head on, the elephant in the room. Men and women are not the same, are quite different, and actually complement each other perfectly. It’s about time we begin to understand, appreciate, and value each other’s ways of thinking and acting. Work with Me bravely illuminates the path to greater understanding.”

-          Jane Allen, Chief Diversity Officer, Deloitte Canada

“We all know in our hearts and minds that men and women are different. We see it in the natural behavior of children. The reality—and beauty—is that the authentic person within is the perfect counterpart of the other. Work with Me opens our hearts and minds to that genuineness. This valuable book will unsurprisingly make an uplifting difference in your personal life and perhaps surprisingly a significant financial difference in your business life - highly recommended.”

-          Stewart Emery, bestselling author, speaker, and teacher

“It’s not out of our reach or idealistic to think that men and women, seeing the world through each other’s eyes and valuing each other’s line of sight, can make the world a better place. Work with Me is a sensational book filled with absolutely marvelous insights into the thought and actions of men and women. This book will certainly enrich and impact many lives.”

-          Tony and Randi Escobar, founders of the Share IT Forward Academy

“Men and women are individually creations of wonder, yet when engaged in unison, a harmonic is achieved. Our whole is more than merely the sum of our parts. Work with Me is not about tolerating the other gender, modifying our behavior, or learning new behaviors. It is about understanding and appreciating the genuineness within each of us and embraces our differences.”

-          Janet Bray Attwood, co-author of the New York Times bestseller, The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose

“I loved Work with Me—it is a vital read for anyone aspiring to lead and influence. Invisible to the offender (yet glaring to everyone else), gender blind-spots dangerously erode trust—THE critical foundation for unleashing performance and drawing out the best in every employee interaction and in every transaction—with all stakeholders. Who better to clear our vision on this murky subject than John Gray and Barbara Annis, whose authoritative insights span decades? What’s your Gender Intelligence quotient?  Can you afford not to know? Trust me, you can’t.  Read this book!”  

-          Greg Link,  co-founder CoveyLink, co-author Smart Trust

“Based on decades of impeccable research and worldwide practice, Work with Me is without a doubt one of the single most important books of the year.  The practical techniques offered within these pages outline powerful solutions for challenges arising from gender differences and allow men and women alike to succeed in creating more valuable, meaningful relationships by genuinely learning to understand and bridge their differences.  To read this book is to invest in building better relationships throughout every area of your life.”

-          Ivan Misner, Ph.D., New York Times Bestselling author and founder of BNI®

“Barbara Annis and John Gray team up to make a winning combination. Can every man and woman expect to work so well together? They can if they read Work with Me!  With sensitivity, insight, and real-life examples, this book unlocks the secrets of successful mixed-gender workplaces, helping both men and women play to their strengths, and appreciate the strengths of the other.”

-          Scott Haltzman, MD, psychiatrist and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men, and The Secrets of Happily Married Women

“Men and women are individually creations of wonder, and when engaged in unison, a symphony of greatness is achieved – an elevated sound from the blending of our notes. Our whole is more than merely the sum of our parts. It is not about tolerating the other gender, modifying our behavior, learning new behaviors, or learning to accommodate each other’s differences. It is about understanding and appreciating the other gender, an inclusive mindset that respects, and actually seeks out and embraces our differences.”

-          Graciela Meibar, Vice President Global Diversity, Mattel, Inc.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781452644066
  • Publisher: Tantor Media, Inc.
  • Publication date: 5/27/2013
  • Format: CD
  • Edition description: Library - Unabridged CD
  • Product dimensions: 6.80 (w) x 6.50 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Barbara Annis, founder and CEO of Barbara Annis & Associates, Inc., is the author of Same Words, Different Language and coauthor, with Michael Gurian, of Leadership and the Sexes.

John Gray is a relationship therapist and the bestselling author of many books, including Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus.

Kirsten Potter has won AudioFile Earphones Awards for her reading of The Snowball by Alice Schroeder and her performance as Barbara in George Bernard Shaw's Major Barbara. Her reading of Madapple by Christina Meldrum was a Booklist Editors' Choice for Best Audiobook 2008.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 21, 2013

    This book contains a lot of good information and ideas, with sup

    This book contains a lot of good information and ideas, with support from a vast array of personal observations, surveys, and scientific data. It seemed that the authors had about 125 pages of data to support their ideas and needed to get the book to 250 pages. If/As you read this book you will see the same concepts and ideas are repeated again and again as you finish the last half of the book.
    The book is worth the time to read. Many of the ideas and concepts move beyond the work place and can help you understand the motivations of the sexes in a variety of applications.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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