The Year My Son and I Were Born: A Story of Down Syndrome, Motherhood, and Self-Discoveryby Kathryn Soper
With six other children at home, Kathryn Lynard Soper was prepared for the challenges another newborn would bring. But after Thomas's complicated birth, his diagnosisDown syndromeforced her to face her deepest fears and weaknesses, her ignorance and prejudice, and her limitations as a mother and as a human being. Her struggle, coupled with the demands… See more details below
With six other children at home, Kathryn Lynard Soper was prepared for the challenges another newborn would bring. But after Thomas's complicated birth, his diagnosisDown syndromeforced her to face her deepest fears and weaknesses, her ignorance and prejudice, and her limitations as a mother and as a human being. Her struggle, coupled with the demands of caring for a fragile baby and juggling her family's needs, sparked the worst episode of depression she'd experienced in decades. The Year My Son and I Were Born is Soper's brutally honest yet beautiful account of how she escaped a downward spiral of despair and emerged with newfound peace. Antidepressant therapy restored her equilibrium, and interactions with friends and family brought needed perspective. But the most profound change came through her growing relationship with Thomas. His radiant presence shone through her outer layers of self, where fear and guilt festered, and reached the center of her very beingwhere love, acceptance, and gratitude blossomed in abundance. A Reading Group Guide is available at: http://kathrynlynardsoper.com/memoir/readers-guide
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Excerpt from The Year My Son and I Were BornCould I love such a son? I rubbed my arms and legs with a rough washcloth, determined to scrub away not only blood and sweat and oil, but also doubt. Of course I could love Thomas. I already did. I loved him as I’d loved each of my new babies, with a primal strength full and fierce. . . . Yet I knew the bond wouldn’t be enough, not for long. It was instinctual. Even animal. Thomas deserved human love, the delight and appreciation and tenderness one unique person feels for another. I’d never felt this for a person with Down syndrome or any other disability. I didn’t know if I could. Goose bumps rose on my armsthe hot water was gone. And my time to indulge in weakness was gone. A child waited in a plastic box down the hall, and six more were waiting at home, waiting for security to surround them like a warm mantle, soft yet strong. Waiting for their mother.
Meet the Author
Kathryn Lynard Soper is president of The Segullah Group, a nonprofit organization that produces personal writings. She is the editor in chief of the literary journal Segullah and the editor of two anthologies, Gifts: Mothers Reflect on How Children with Down Syndrome Enrich Their Lives and The Mother in Me: Real-World Reflections on Growing Into Motherhood.
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